Meditation Benefits for Children – Improve your child’s life!

I would like my avid readers to know that I meditate daily. Though my post is about Meditation Benefits for Children, Meditation helps adults in their life too! Some people might visualise meditation as an exercise only performed by monks on mountains! But that’s not true! In my opinion, just as your body needs exercises and workouts in the same way your mind needs its workouts ! Meditation also helps you reconnect with your soul. It’s a “me time”. Children too have issues like adults but maybe they don’t realise! It’s only when they do tantrums or their behaviour changes drastically, parents get an inkling that the child has got some issues or problems.

Though meditation has got innumerable benefits- some are tangible some aren’t! In my opinion,here are few things that children might benefit from meditating:

Increases Attention Span

How many times have you asked your child to do something and they say “you never told me to do it!” . The other day my daughter walked straight into the door as her eyes were glued on the Television while walking towards the kitchen to drink water! You may have instances when your child’s Teacher may have complained that your child isn’t paying attention in the class(I would bet it was the Maths class!). If all of this is true for your child, try making them meditate!

Reduces Laziness

A lot of children,especially during the school holidays are slouched on the sofa for hours watching television instead of playing. Even during Term time, they become lazy the moment they come home. Meditation gives a lot of mental and physical energy. It also makes the mind work more efficiently. It gets rid of the unnecessary “clutter”.

Temper Tantrums

There is always some reason behind Tantrums in children. Children do not know how to express themselves so they do a tantrum. Meditation relaxes and calms the child and even in the future if they have any issues they would be able to deal with it better and therefore their tantrums will be much reduced !

Reduces Stress or Anxiety

Some children are very competitive and as result if their classmate is ahead of them in reading or mathematics- it creates a lot of stress in them, “Why is she able to this and not me?” Stress in children may also come from siblings – due to sibling fights etc. Meditation will help reduce or even eliminate the stress.

Improved Grades, Better Results Overall at School!

If children have got better attention or better focus- it follows that they would get better grades and better results overall in school. This will instill new confidence in themselves. Meditation also increases your self-confidence.

 

Helps Children Control Their Emotions

Meditation helps children control their emotions- be it tantrums as a child or emotional upheaval during puberty in teenagers. It also helps them overcome any frustration or fears. It also helps eliminate petty worries from their mind.

Helps Realise Their True Potential

Meditation de stresses and unclutters the mind. This brings clarity of thought and vision for the future. If children are encouraged to meditate at a young age, they would be able to clearly think for themselves what exactly they want to become in their lives when the time comes for them to decide.

Helps Overcome a Trauma or a Major Incident

Every parent would want the best and safest upbringing for their children. But certain incidents/accidents do happen which are beyond the control of parents. For instances, Parents divorcing, death of a parent or a sibling, children surviving car accidents or children having experienced sexual or physical assaults. The Doctors or Caregivers will recommend Counseling sessions for the child which can help upto a certain extent. But the emotional upheaval of these major incidents will be too much for a child. Meditation can help to reduce the trauma by making the child accept the situation and move on. They will never forget but perhaps the negativity associated with the incident might be eliminated or reduced to a considerable extent.

Live in the Present

One of the most beneficial aspects of meditation is that it enables you to live in the present. Whatever you are doing at this very moment, you will enjoy and be in that moment. If you are not enjoying your present, that is because you are worrying or thinking about things which either do not exist or have not happened or have happened in the past.
This will apply to both children and adults.
Having said all the above, parents can’t snap their fingers and make children meditate. The younger the children the easier it is to teach them to meditate. I prefer doing a non guided meditation –

  • Sit down on the bed or on the floor with your back straight
  • Close your eyes
  • Breathe in and out slowly

With children, you have build it up slowly. I started with 1 minute for my children. The technique I used was simple. I told them “Let’s play a game. Let’s see who can sit still the longest ? Who can become a statue? Close your eyes. Breathe gently. No talking and no moving until the timer goes off.” I put on a timer of 1 minute on my Smart Phone. It went very well and both the kids sat throughout the minute. The next day I extended the meditation time to 2 minutes. From there on you would have to monitor how long your child can sit. Don’t do it for more than 5-10minutes. If you feel your child is struggling to sit,reduce the time a little. Most importantly, children always copy their parents. If they see you meditating, they will readily sit down with you to meditate when you tell them to do so.

The best practice would be for the whole family to sit together- Dad, Mum and all Children! Make sure you don’t make meditation feel like a time out session or like punishment or a chore! Remember parents also benefit from meditation!
If you would like to share your meditation experiences with your children please put them in the comment box below! I would love to hear from you!

All the Best,

Indian Parenting Styles – How Different Is It?

Being born and brought up in a bustling suburb of Mumbai, my child hood was a happy and peaceful one. The neighbourhood was very pleasant with lots of families and had about 90 percent Gujaratis(people from the state of Gujarat speak Gujarati language and are known as Gujaratis) . In this environment, a child would not be influenced by their parents only, there would be grandparents, uncles and aunties from maternal and paternal side, cousins, neighbours, school mates etc. Everybody knew everybody .

Daycare/ Nurseries?

Day care/ Nurseries are always frowned upon if a child is sent there at a very young age.  The minimum age would be about 2 years at least before the child starts at a nursery.  Indians believe that it is the responsibility of the whole family (extended family ) to look after a child. Therefore, a child is always looked after all the members of the family. In the worst cast scenario, if nobody is available to look after the child there are always lot of friendly neighbours who would look after your child as their own. Of course, when the neighbour’s child would need to be looked after, you would have to help them as well. It is a two-way street in this regard. Is there any need for a daycare then?

Pampering The Child

The biggest con of this environment would be that the child would not remain under the control of their parents. Different people would teach different and even contradictory things. For example: a grandparent would offer a chocolate for a snack to a child perhaps to get the child out of their hair. But when the Mother offers a piece of fruit as snack the child would refuse to eat it and would demand for a chocolate instead!

Children Become Good Eaters

In joint Indian families, there are a lot of traditions. Even meals are traditional. A child is not given much choice- ” do you want to eat this?” or “do you like that?” Eat what you are given or go hungry! As hard and ruthless it sounds, it sometimes works as a child learns to eat more variety and will be a less fussy eater.

Cultural Influence

This would be an advantage in any culture. Children are very good at observing things. They would notice how all the members, including their parents look after each other. This would teach the child how to care and think of others, how to be considerate. Especially in the Indian culture, where it is a norm to touch feet(take blessings) of all elders. Children observe and learn. Children also understand the value and importance of human relations. It is my opinion that children should have the influence of people other than their parents and teachers.

Too Much Reliance on Others

Parents are overly reliant or shall I say they always expect someone else to look after their child when they are busy. Parents would never really be accustomed to instances where they have to take their child with them to the supermarket or to the bank or to the vegetable market.

You Will Get A  Break When You Need It!

It is necessary for both Mothers and Fathers to take time out from their parental duties regularly. This can be easily achieved in a joint family without having to pay expensive babysitting fees. I do know grandparents from other cultures also help out with looking after their grandchildren but in joint Indian families it would be more convenient as they are all living together.

It Is Necessary To Understand Your Children

Due to the fact that there is always somebody available to look after or feed or play with your child, parents might feel lazy or might be habituated not to spend some alone time with their child/children. Due to this, parents may not able to understand their children. It is also possible that even though parents do want to spend time with their children, they might not be able to do so due to demands of a joint family life.

Birds of a Feather Flock Together

In case you haven’t heard of the above phrase it means that like-minded people tend to follow each other. Similar thing tends to happen in Indian families. What is good for one child is good for the other as well. I have been guilty of that as well at times. Parents don’t tend to think for themselves whether it is the right thing or a right decision to take for their child. As long it is been done by somebody in the family – it is fine!

You Might Not Have A Say in Your Child’s Upbringing

In some traditional Indian families, parents might not have a say in their child’s upbringing. For example, in certain Indian castes it is believed that a child can only be given a name chosen by his/her aunt(Father’s sister) only. Parents would not be allowed to name their child. Any major decisions for the children are taken by the elders of the family (Grandparents and Uncles and Aunties on the Paternal side).

Education Is Very Essential

Indians believe that a child has to be academically inclined – there is no option about it . He/she can be good in other extra activities but he/she still needs to get top grades in school . Parents tend to be very competitive . They would want their child to achieve high grades even if it means to get extra tuitions for their child.

Every culture has different styles of upbringing. There are pros and cons for all of them. Each environment will bring different aspects to your child’s life. But finally the buck always stops at the parents- for both the success and failures of their children.

Have you got any incidents/experiences to share? Please put them below in the comment’s box.

Regards

 

 

 

Parenting Tips For Babies -10 Tips For New Parents

Having a baby is the most joyous time for anyone. For a new parent it can be also a daunting time as well if you have never handled a baby before. I remember the time I had my first child, I didn’t even know how to hold a baby! Remember your baby is like a blank slate so you can “write” what you like upon it. As crude as it sounds, this is the time you start setting routines for your baby, the fruits of which you will reap few years down the line. Below are a few Parenting Tips For Babies which I can offer from my experience which I feel are the most important:

Breast is Best

Breast milk is the best. If you are a new mother you will probably say “yeah right” or “I can’t cope” or “It will ruin my figure” . Let me point out to you some very beneficial things about mothers milk:

  1. No washing or sterlising bottles
  2. No buying expensive formulas, bottles or bottle sterlisers
  3. Breastfeeding helps reduce weight as it burns a lot of calories
  4. Makes it very easy for the Mother to bond with the baby
  5. Breast milk is all the baby needs until six months of age- no solids, no water required. Breast milk is free!
  6. Reduces chances of Ovarian cancer in women
  7. Breast milk contains everything a baby needs in terms of vitmains and protein which formula milk cannot provide
  8. You can use a Breast Pump for more flexibility

Massaging the Baby

Massaging the baby builds a bond with the mother. Put on some soothing music and massage the baby with baby oil. This will relax you as well. Try to massage the baby before or after a bath. Beware , babies will get very hungry after a massage . Babies are very slippery at bath and massage time so be careful.

Always Keep a Stock of Nappies


You should always have at least 10 nappies in stock at any point in time. Whenever you go to the supermarket always look out for offers. A baby will need about 8-10 nappy changes a day. In case your baby gets a sore bottom or a nappy rash keep some nappy rash cream. Another very handy tip is, if your baby has got nappy rash and the nappy rash cream doesn’t work (meaning if the cream doesn’t heal the rash) , put Vaseline Petroleum jelly on the rash. The petroleum jelly will not let the faeces or urine touch the rash. It acts as a barrier between the baby’s skin and the faeces or urine. Do frequent nappy changes especially when your baby has got a rash. Also, it is a good idea to give your baby “nappy free time” everyday(whether or not they have got a rash) . Nappy free time means do not put nappy on the baby for a little while everyday so that the baby’s skin can breathe. This reduces the chances of a nappy rash and if they have a nappy rash it will help heal it faster.

Tummy Time

Give babies tummy time meaning gently put the baby on their tummies for about 3 to 5 minutes per session and then gradually increase the time with each session. This encourages movement and also prevents them having a flat head as a baby’s skull is very soft. After they are 3 months old, they will learn how to roll over. Please note :give babies tummy time only when they are awake. Babies always have to sleep on their backs!

Floor Time

Give the babies a lot of floor time. Put a baby blanket or a baby gym and let them kick away! This encourages a lot of movement. Also, put a few baby toys near them and watch them try to grab the toys! This will increase their determination to persevere and is beautiful to watch.

Weaning Your Baby at Six Months

Medical professionals always advise to start your baby on solids at around six months of age. Start your child on soft fruits like Avocado ,Banana or cooked fruit like apple or pear. Few things to be kept in mind when you start weaning:

  1. Always ask your GP or Health Visitor for advise you if you feel your child has any allergies.
  2. If you do give any nuts, make sure you thoroughly ground them. I didn’t give my kids any nuts until they were 2 years as nuts are very hard to swallow.
  3. You can give babies finger foods which are foods that are easy for them to pick up and feed themselves like banana or rice cakes and carrot sticks(baby snacks). Encourage them to feed themselves by leaving the finger food on the tray of the high chair. Let them explore the texture of the food .
  4. Its better to crush and soften food rather than putting them in a blender. This strengthens their jaws and muscles. Being a vegetarian, I would put small pieces of chapati(Indian Roti) in a vegetable – no blending, If you give a cooked fruit like apple or pear, make sure you take the skin off, cook it until it is soft and then mash it with a fork. This will save your money as well by not buying those blenders for weaning.
  5. One very important tip is this- as soon as you have established weaning for at least one or two meals – at around 8-9 months, give your baby whatever you eat. For example if you are eating daal and rice, give the baby same thing as well. I would give my children daal and starchy rice(extremely well cooked and soggy) . You have just got to make sure that there is no salt or sugar or spice in the baby’s food and this would be a good time to reduce your salt and sugar intake too. Around this time also try to build it up to 3 meals a day.
  6. Last and most important tip – for drink always give them water in a cup. Don’t give them any juices. Let them get into the habit of drinking water. Juices contain lot of sugar which is not good for them.

Changing Bag

Don’t leave home without your changing bag. You will need the following in the changing bag:

  • Changing mat(travel mat)
  • Nappies
  • Cotton wool
  • Baby wipes
  • Nappy rash cream
  • Nappy sacks
  • Fresh pair of clothes

Never Leave your Baby Alone on the Changing Table

Don’t do this even for a second because that’s how long it takes for the baby to roll over and fall off. Its better to leave the baby on the floor provided it is not near a staircase as the baby might fall off the staircase.

Don’t Forget to Look After Yourself

Parents and especially Mothers often forget to look after themselves and forget to take breaks. You can ask your friends or granparents if they can look after the baby for couple of hours, go out and have a coffee or watch a movie ! Me time is very important! Make sure you are well rested too. Try to sleep when the baby sleeps.

Trust Your Instincts

If your instinct tells you your child is not well go to the Doctor. Don’t ignore or disregard your instinct.

A parent can understand their child the best. You would probably get a lot of unwanted advice from everybody around you. But follow an advice only if You feel it is suitable for your child/baby.

Please put your comments below if you would like to give your suggestion/opinions on my post.

Regards

 

 

How to Stop Siblings From Fighting – Get Some Sanity In Your Life!

Picture this .. You and your partner have had a busy weekend(full of chores and kiddie birthday parties) and finally on a late Sunday afternoon you finally get a few minutes to put your feet up and grab a cup of tea… you are feeling relaxed as kids are busy playing upstairs and all is quiet…. MUMMY! DADDY! she scratched me! he grabbed my toy! Arghhh! You spill tea on your best white trouser.. Grrrr!! Ever wondered why siblings fight or more importantly, HOW to stop siblings from fighting before it sends you into meltdown? That too before you pull all your hair out… already you have lost a lot of hair !

Children fight for various reasons such as wanting parents’ attention, jealousy, not getting enough space from their younger sibling or even feeling victimised.. here are few tips on how you can prevent/reduce your children fighting based on my experience and maybe it could stop you from throwing your face in your hands repeatedly:

Don’t Compare Your Children

Don’t compare your children to each other or to anyone for that matter. Each child has his/her own identity and personality. Recognise their way of thinking .. their mindset. If one child is good at something don’t tell the other(s) , “look, she does this so well, why don’t you do this” or “he always listens to me, you don’t “. Each child, just like us adults excels at something and is not too good with certain things. Find out what each child excels at and encourage them, praise them for it.

Do Give Lots of Individual Attention

You could say I spent the whole day playing and eating with the kids etc but you need to spend time individually as well with each child. You may claim where is the time for that??
What I would do is this. In case, you have two children like me… when one goes to a birthday party or a play date, play with the other child. Let him/her choose the game or activity and play with them for at least half an hour… do the same for the other.. Also, by doing this you will also see each child’s identity shine through which helps on the previous point. Husband and I take turns going to birthday parties for each child and have found over time that our bond had grown stronger with each child and also our understanding of them.

Boredom Leads to Fights

When children have nothing to do especially when the weather is bad during the holidays, they will fight more .. the reason is Boredom..

Keep a mental note (or if you are forgetful like me, write on a paper and put it on the fridge!) of all activities they like doing, excluding watching television and computer/iPad games. Structure their day with different activities or even board games so they get mental and physical stimulation. If they are busy they won’t fight.. if they don’t fight you will have a lot more hair left on your head!

 

Kids Need Their Own Space Too!

One of the Mums in my daughter’s class said to me “She is only 5, why does she need her own space?” In my opinion even children need their own space, spend time with themselves without their sibling .. have their own peace and quiet .. play their own games .. This will also make each child appreciate the other ..However, give them the space without making it feel like a punishment. Don’t enforce playing separately.

 

Set A Good Example

Children always consider their parents as their role model. For example, if children see the parents sharing and caring for each other, children will do the same towards their parent as well as their siblings..

Praise Their Good Intentions

Whenever your child does something good/positive for his/her sibling, praise him/her. Children get encouraged to do good things for each other when it is recognised by the parent. Also, it will make the other child copy these positive actions.

Explain Your Actions

In case, you are buying/giving something to one and not to the other, make sure you explain to both/all your kids why you are doing so. Sometimes children might feel you are favouring one child over the other. That can have a negative impact on the child and can cause a lot of resentment towards his/her sibling(s).

Set Rules

If you feel that there are always fights regarding certain things like who washes their hands first before meal times, make rules for them, for example take turns as to who washes their hands first. Make sure that the rules are followed and turns are taken.
Despite your best efforts and intentions kids being kids Will Fight! What you do then?

  1. Stay Calm- Remember kids are kids and they will fight. If you shout at them, it’s not going to help matters at all. If you are a Dad, please bear in mind that kids might get scared because of your masculine/louder voice.
  2. Don’t take sides- you have to be diplomatic unless one child is blatantly causing hurt or grief to the other.
  3. Give them more attention- Have you been too busy lately? Perhaps you have moved house? or you have had too many deadlines at work and have been coming home past their bedtime? Your kids might be quarreling more due to lack of attention. Remember Dads are as important as Mums. Just spend time with them, go for a picnic if the weather is good.. or play some good old footie!
  4. You be in charge- When you are trying to mediate between your kids, chances are they will keep putting the blame on the other and not do what you tell them to do. In that case, be firm. Don’t let them step all over you!
  5. Use positive methods to discipline them- Explain to them calmly why their actions would hurt others or what was wrong with what they did.

Kids will fight, but it is up to you as a parent on how you will deal with it.You can either shout and scream at them or punish them but this could create a negative environment which unfortunately will not resolve anything. Another option is to calmly make them listen to you. After every fight, I tell both my kids to hug each other and say sorry to each other. Kids forgive very easily and then there are no ill feelings towards each other.

 

In case, you have any other suggestions/ideas based on your experiences please put your comments below.

Regards

 

 

 

 

 

Parenting Tips For Children – Become a Better Parent

Children are considered as a God’s boon to parents. They are sensitive, innocent,naive and naughty! Children can be compared to a piece of crockery, beautiful and delicate.. Handle With Care. When you have child, what they don’t tell you are the challenges that come with raising them. Some of them are easy to solve and for some you go round and round in circles….It would be very useful for any parent to have some top parenting tips for children which would make the journey easier and happier. As they say, if you are happy,your child is happy. Below are some tips I have put together from my experience,which I hope will help you in your hour of need.

Spend Quality Time

Easier said than done…. where is the time for that.. yes,that was my reaction as well, when I heard of this for the first time.. but after I tried it I had to admit, this does work. It is best to do an activity both you and your child enjoy, be it playing a board game or playing hide-and-seek or going to the park (you would get fresh air and relaxation as well!). If your child is interested in baking, bake cakes together. Most kids love baking cupcakes. The idea is to keep them involved in your life.
Even if you look at any of your relationship with an adult, the more the person is involved in your life, the better you know him/her. Similarly, if you know your child better, you would understand why he/she does certain things and then you would have a better idea on how to deal with any issues.. It is that simple.. logical as well.

Listen

Parents always complain,”my child doesn’t listen to me.” My question is have you ever listened to your child? I am not talking about their unreasonable demand for a toy or refusal to eat their vegetables. When your child wants to describe or explain their drawing or excitedly tell you about their school trip, focus and listen to them.. drive away all other thoughts of work or shopping lists.

You might get hold of some valuable information about how your child thinks and behaves in your absence. Also, when you listen to your child, it makes him/her feel important and wanted. It also teaches the child the art of having a conversation.
Next time you say something to them, for example,” Let’s finish your homework first then you can watch television”, they won’t ignore you. Tit for Tat. Simple.

Set An Example

You tell your child “Don’t watch television while eating “, the next day he/she sees you doing the same thing. He/she will think that its ok for Mum or Dad to do it but not me- that’s unfair. Unfortunately parents cannot be seen doing things they denied the child of doing. Make sure that when tell your child ‘don’t do this and ‘don’t do that’, you yourself aren’t doing it.
I suppose when you become a parent, its time to be rid of all your bad habits. Children always look at their parent as their role models.. throughout their life.

Keep Your Word

“Tomorrow I will take you to the park if the weather is good”. Next day is a nice sunny day but you feel lazy to take them to the park or you want to watch a football match which you didn’t know was going to be broadcast live on television . Don’t postpone or cancel the park. Work around it, like record the match if you have a recording facility. Think of this as golden moments with your child .. don’t be lazy. If you cannot physically cope taking them to park then do not promise them.

Have Fun With Them

With young children the best game would be the tickling game. Just tickle them and see how they laugh and how infectious their laughter is. When you have fun with your child you bond a lot with them. Happy moments together always creates bonding between 2 people.

Keep Your Instructions Simple

Parents sometimes tend to give too many instructions some of them are contradictory.. I have been guilty of that too! Do not complicate your sentences when you ask your child to do something. Use simple words.

Explain Your Actions

At times your child would not understand why you did what you did. For example, your child has got a heavy cold . It is a very cold day and he/she wants to go to the park. Explain to he/she in a simple manner. Also tell her/him that once you are better I will take you to the park. Make sure you keep your word .

If You Are Wrong- Apologise

If you told off your child for something he/she didn’t do – apologise. Don’t let your ego come in the way. This will set an example with them – if you do something you shouldn’t do, then apologise. Your children will always notice how you behave in different situations and then they will do the same.

Don’t Give Surprises

If there are going to be any changes in your child’s routine for a day or more, always inform them of it in advance. Don’t assume that they will be ok with whatever you throw at them. Keep them informed and involved .

Be Firm

When your child makes unreasonable demands be firm- do not shout and worst of all- do not give in.

Preventing Tantrums

This is a very sensitive topic for most of the parents, but there are some simple ways to avoid or reduce tantrums,based on my experience:

  1. Positivity: Always praise your child when he/she has done something good. If he/she has been showing a good behaviour give them a sticker. Show them that you appreciate the good behaviour. Your positive reaction will stay in their mind longer than a negative one like shouting or punishing them.
  2. Give your child a choice: Give them freedom to decide what they want to do for little things like “do you want orange juice or black currant?”. “Do you want to wear your pink dress or green?” Let them have a little control over their life. This will reduce their frustrations and tantrums
  3. Distract your child when you feel he/she is about to go into a tantrum. Take his/her mind off the topic of the tantrum.
  4. If your child asks for something just analyse ‘is it unreasonable?’ Don’t answer them straightaway. Tell them I will tell you in a little while.
  5. Choose your battles.. for minor or irrelevant issues, let go..
  6. Know your child’s capacity. If you are on a shopping trip, and you know that your child is hungry or tired don’t continue shopping or time manage in such a way that you go when your child is well rested and fed.

Raising children is the toughest job but a little positivity and a few tricks and tips go a long way .. for you and your child!

Regards

 

 

About Me

Hello Parents!
What brings you here? Let me guess.. your child is not eating his/her food or is he/she not listening to you or are they throwing tantrums? Or is there lot of sibling rivalry between your children….

If yes to ANY or ALL of the above…

WELCOME ABOARD!

My name is Priya and I am a Parent too of two beautiful children and a wife to a lovely man!

My Story

My childhood was a happy one. I was one of the three children living with my parents in a joint family. My parents had an advantage as we (me and my siblings) were always taken care of by other members of the family. One would feed us, other would change our nappies or third could take us to the park.. so on. Plus there was domestic help cheaply and easily available who would do all the cleaning and the laundry.
Compared to my parents, my husband and I have had tough time bringing up our children on our own. With two hyperactive children (close in age), we struggled everyday just to feed, change, bathe , play and do other million things and MULTIPLY that by 2. Not to forget both were delivered by caesarean section… OUCH! So it was especially hard for the first 6 weeks after birth each time- no driving ,no picking up heavy stuff and no pushing the stroller!

Of course one of us has to earn at least! Without sounding sexist it had to be husband dearest… Also, I wanted to bring up my children in a certain way. So he went back to work after 2 weeks of paternity break, and I had to deal with the majority of issues/tantrums of the kids as well as cooking, cleaning , laundry.. I also had to take the responsibility of single handedly weaning, entertaining them, potty training, immunisations etc for at least for 10-12 hours a day.
Husband very kindly agreed to do the night duties (except breastfeeding)! He also took up the responsibility of playing and taking kids out in the weekend so that I could catch a few ZZZZ’s or watch television or take a girly time out.

It was hard

The statement above is an understatement. At one point I was breastfeeding little one, cooking 2 meals a day while the older one was still in her nappies. There were times when I was totally lost as to how to physically manage on my own or I just couldn’t figure how do I wean off the younger one from breast milk and put him on cow’s milk! He hated cow’s milk!!

Saved by the Health Visitor

Luckily for me I had a wonderful Health Visitor who gave me a lot of useful tips. But I could only meet her when I used to get the babies weighed every few weeks. It was impossible to get her on the phone. So I would make a mental note of all issues I had and go every few weeks to the weighing clinic. It was hard going with 2 toddlers but at least I would get my answers! Not to mention the unending internet research Husband did to get answers!
I would like to add here that all my family live in some other country and at that time I didn’t have the privilege of doing a free what’s app call at that time !

I couldn’t but help think that there might be other women in the same position as me struggling day in and day out to bring up their children on their own.
Sheer will power got me through my darkest moments.. I had quite a few..
How wonderful it would be if I could at least simplify things for other Mothers.. I can only simplify.. I can’t take away all the problems.. After all, bringing up children is not a piece of cake.. At least somebody else would not go through so many hardships that I went through.. well, at least I can try …

Brainwave

I thought to myself why not turn our knowledge and experience into a useful resource for struggling parents…
Why not let a Mother or a Father have the benefit of our knowledge and experience at their fingertips?
We have been there.. Done It…

I could not only give New or Existing parents the benefit of my experience but maybe accept their suggestion and opinions as well! How wonderful that would be!

But for that I need you to touch base with me….
If you ever need a hand or have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.

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