If you are a stay at home mom like me, you would be very particular about how things should be kept or cleaned in your home. But this comes at cost. Do you feel you are devoting all your time to cooking and cleaning and have very little time for yourself? In this post, I would like to share a few tips on time management for stay at home moms. I have discovered these tips from own experiences – hopefully they would work for you too:
For every chore like cleaning the kitchen or the bathrooms – allocate a particular day or time. For example: Every Friday at 10 am, I will clean the kitchen. Every Wednesday afternoon, I will change the bed sheets – so on.
Follow the timetable
It is important that you follow your timetable. If you don’t then all the chores will be pending at the end of the week and it will be impossible for you finish them in the weekend when you want to do things together as a family. If these chores pile up, you will not only feel lazy to finish them but also it will defeat the purpose of time management.
When you make your timetable don’t keep all the chores for one day. My advice is to do 1-2 cleaning chores a day- no more. Spread out all the chores. Mix the indoor and outdoor chores. Don’t keep all the indoor chores for one day and outdoor chores for another day.
Plan your day
If you are the cook in your family, plan ahead what you would be cooking for lunch or dinner – do preparations a little earlier – maybe while your baby or toddler is sleeping so that once the time comes to cook dinner – you would take less time to finish cooking .
Overthinking is bad for anyone. But from a point of view of a stay at home it’s even worse. From the above example of changing bed sheets every Wednesday- don’t keep thinking from Tuesday evening – ” I have got to change the bed sheets”. By the time it is Wednesday afternoon – you have tossed and turned it so much in your head that you really don’t feel like doing it. But this will take practice. At the allocated time, just finish the chore – don’t bring any negativity into it, like – I don’t want to do it, I am bored with doing work etc.
Keep some time for yourself
Always keep sometime for yourself in the week when you are doing something you enjoy – at least for an hour. If you take a break and refresh yourself you would be better equipped to deal with all the chores .
Moms who have very young children
If you have very young children – children in nappies, it will be very hard for you to stick to your timetable. You might have allocated 10 am Tuesday to clean the kitchen but your child decides to do a poo – bang at 10 am! Don’t get frustrated – change their nappy and start cleaning the kitchen quickly before you change your mind or before negative thoughts start pouring in.
I know it is very hard to be a stay at home mom and look after the children. Remember “your thoughts can be your biggest enemy”. Whenever you feel lazy about not finishing your chores, say to yourself ” I need to keep the house clean for myself and my family”, train your mind to think positively about household chores.
Fitness, exercise and healthy diet
Women should always strive to be healthy especially post birth – eat healthy and exercise. This will help you give the energy and stamina to cope with all chores, kids etc. Try to not eat ready made meals – look after yourself- eat nutritious food. Don’t think – that it’s just me – kids are gone to school so I don’t need to cook a nutritious meal . You should think of yourself too ! If you are a fit and healthy then you will be able to look after your family better.
Don’t look for perfection
In case you are inundated with chores,and your husband or partner offers to do dishes – accept it. I am sure most of us think ” if I don’t clean it, plates won’t feel clean”. If you get help take it. It is not easy staying at home looking after kids, cleaning the house and doing all the other countless chores. Acknowledge you are a human and treat yourself nice. If you think it appropriate advise the person /partner how you want the plates to be cleaned.
Focus on the solution, not on the problem
If you feel you are finding hard to cope with everything – split all chores individually and focus on how you can complete each one of them. If you look for a solution, you will find one! But if you keep thinking of all the problems you are facing – you will never see the end of it. A little change in mindset goes a long way. I have tried this myself and I have been very successful with it.
If you are or have been a stay at home mom, please share your tips in the comment box below. I would love to hear from you and it might help other moms too!