Hobbies for Stay at Home Moms – Can You Make Money From It?

Being a Stay at home mom can be monotonous and boring. Especially so, when your little one is asleep or has gone to the nursery or school. Having a hobby can make a huge difference to your mind or mental health. I would like to share a few hobbies for stay at home moms and hopefully it will help you.

The key thing is keep your mind occupied with something other than the household chores. To do something of your own, not related to your children. As mean as it sounds, it will refresh and rejuvenate your mind!

Even if you do not have any hobbies, it is never too late to cultivate one!  You might enjoy it so much that maybe you can make your hobby your business and earn some money from home!

 

Please bear in mind that I have suggested only “indoor” hobbies to you – for your convenience.

Calligraphy

If you do not know,Calligraphy means visual art relating to writing, according to Wikipedia. I just call it beautiful handwriting. Calligraphy has to be done with a particular type of pen and ink. It is not only fun to learn but is very handy as well. You can use this skill while making a poster or a greeting card.

You could ask whether Calligraphy is outdated now, due to all the different font styles available on different computer soft wares, but a handwritten greeting card or an invite to a wedding or a party has a special meaning! Perhaps somebody would like to have their wedding vows written in Calligraphy! Perhaps someone would like to give out beautiful handwritten baby shower invites!

You can also master this skill and become a Calligraphy teacher and have students to come home and learn from you !

You can also sell personalised stuff on Etsy.com.  Etsy allows the seller to sell products only which are handmade by the seller. This is a great way to earn from home for stay at home moms. Setting up an account with Etsy is not hard at all!

If you would like to pursue Calligraphy, I would recommend buying the products from Craft Stash, UK’s number 1 paper craft store!

Product name: Calligraphy Products

Where to buy: Craft Stash.co.uk

==>>Click here to buy Calligraphy products >>==

Stamping

You can use Calligraphy to do card making. But you can also do Stamping to make beautiful greeting cards. Craft Stash runs a Facebook Live show every Friday at 1 pm (UK time) to give stamping ideas. Please refer to my previous post on Tim Holtz Travel stamp review which I feel is a must if you intend to make greeting cards using stamping.

There are lots of beautiful stamps available on Craft Stash. All the stamps are versatile and easy to use!

Stamping is also a great way to pass time and relax your mind from mundane household chores.

Product name: Stamping Products

Where to buy: Craft Stash.co.uk

Craft Stash delivery is quick and the customer service is amazing.

==>>Click here to buy Stamping products >>==

Colouring Books

I find colouring extremely therapeutic. It completely relaxes your mind. It is also very convenient and easy to do this. You can do colouring with your child and bond with her/him as well as relax your mind. There will be no tantrums, no fighting (if you have more than one child) as children are occupied.

Product name: Colouring books

Product name: Colours

Where to buy: Craft Stash.co.uk

==>>Click here to buy Colouring products >>==

Journaling/Scrapbook

If you are a good at writing, it would be a good idea to maintain a Journal and put all your feelings on paper. It will help you relieve all the frustrations of staying at home and looking after kids. You can use a memory planner if you want to include some memories. For example growth milestone of your child like first step, first word etc!

Product name: Journaling

Product name: Memory Planner

Product name: Scrapbooks

Where to buy: Craft Stash.co.uk

==>>Click here to buy Journals >>==

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Painting

If you like to paint, then it can become a hobby or a way of earning money or even expressing yourself. You can sell your paintings on Etsy.com. If you have learnt to paint professionally why not conduct some kids painting classes from home ? There are starter painting colours available on Craft Stash website at a very reasonable price.

Product name: Faber Castell Starter Kit Tubes

Where to buy: Craft Stash.co.uk

Price : £6.49 for 12 tubes of 12 ml each

==>>Click here to buy Faber Castell Starter Kit Tubes >>==

Decoupage

Decoupage means giving a new look or a new life to piece of furniture or some household object. According to Wikipedia ,Decoupage or Découpage is the art of decorating an object by gluing coloured paper cutouts onto it in combination with special paint effects, gold leaf and other decorative elements. Again you can try to sell Decoupage products on Etsy.com.

Product name : Decoupage Products

Product name: Mod Podge Glue for Decoupage

Product name: Decoupage Scissors

Where to buy: Craft stash.co.uk

You could  also learn Decoupage by taking lessons and then conduct Decoupage classes  at home and earn money !

==>>Click here to buy Decoupage Products>>==

Benefits of buying from Craft Stash

  • Free delivery on orders over £15
  • Sellers of big brands like Faber Castell, Tim Holtz, Mod Podge etc
  • Quick delivery and great after sales service
  • Reasonably priced compared to other craft stores



Conclusion

Staying at home with kids is hard. But if you can keep yourself mentally occupied few hours a day, it will make a big difference to you. You can also use Facebook to advertise your business, should you choose to make your hobby your business! You could also save money by making your own Christmas or Birthday Cards!

Business from a hobby requires very low capital  . Also if  you run your business from home, you don’t need  business premises and therefore you will save money on the rent!

Which activity/hobby out of the above, do you like the best? Please comment via comment box below.

Regards

Stay At Home Fathers- Should Fathers be The Main Carers of Children?

Giving birth is a woman’s job and therefore it follows that the responsibility of looking after children is also a woman’s(Mother’s) job. This is especially true in developing nations. Having been born and brought up in India, the concept of stay at home fathers was alien to me. I encountered this when I came to the United Kingdom. Now after living here for almost a decade and a half, I have a completely new out look towards it. But there are a few things which have to be understood and dealt with to arrive at a decision whether one should be a stay at home Dad or not!

Is it about money?

More often than not a Father looks after his children because the Mother has got a higher salary, a better job, a higher potential to earn! Though most of the middle class always look at the mathematics or spreadsheet of income vs expenses, this shouldn’t be a reason for the Dad to stay at home and for the Mom to work!

Call me naive but life is not about mathematical calculations !

What Does a Child Need?

A child bonds with the Mother for 9 months before birth. There is a connection (via umbilical cord) between the child and the Mother for 9 months which is only severed at birth. Therefore , when the child is born, he/she always finds peace and contentment with the Mother. This bond still continues after birth through breastfeeding and watching his/her mother take care of his/her needs. A child will always look out for his/her Mother. This is the Law of the Universe. This cannot be altered.

Would this decision be acceptable to the child?

Due to the above point about a child’s needs, do you feel that if the child (a baby) could speak, a decision where a Mother goes to work and a Father looks after the child, would that be acceptable to the child? I think not ! A child is unable to express his/her emotions but a Mother is like a security for the child . This is again the Law of Universe. The child always automatically looks for the Mother not the Father.

Mother Vs Father

So what would be the difference between a Father’s upbringing of the child and a Mother’s? Some might argue, it is the same. Surely there is a difference in the approach of a man and a woman. There is no denying that women are born with a maternal instinct. I would go far as saying that only a Mother has the patience and the perseverance to bring up her child with the right amount of love , attention and discipline . Only a Mother can understand her child the best .

Fathers are very important

I am not saying that only the Mother is important to a child, Fathers are equally important. What a Father can give to a child a Mother cannot. For example, a Father will not mollycoddle his child. A Father will provide fun/adventures to a child that a Mother cannot. A Father provides tough love to the child.

What are your priorities?

The decision to be a stay at home dad depends on what your priorities are ? Do you feel that you would like to spend more and more time with your child/children? Do you feel that you do not want to miss out on any of their growth milestones? Do you feel that being in a full time job would not let you spend enough time with your child as you would like to?

If the answer is yes to any of the above, then you should follow your heart and become a stay at home Dad ! But if you are a stay at home Dad just to tally the Balance Sheet every month(match the income to the expenses), it is not correct!

As a Father is this acceptable to you?

If you have come to a decision to be a Stay at home dad, it should be acceptable to you as a Man and a Dad. If you are not at peace with this decision, then don’t do it. You will be miserable as well as your child! Remember if you work full time, something has to be sacrificed – it is not possible to have everything.

Wash, clean and Cook

Before you decide to become a stay at home dad, you should discuss with your partner, who will cook and clean. Washing,cooking, cleaning is a joint responsibility of both the parents. It is not fair to put the burden on one parent.

Financial Independence

I am of the opinion, that whether you are a stay at home mom or a stay at home Dad, you should be financially independent. In this day and age it is very much possible to start something of your own from home. You do not need to go and work for someone just to earn money !

There are a lot of options available. In fact, my post on Stay at Home Mom Business Ideas is applicable to Dads too !

If you still need further guidance, check my post on How To Start a Home Based Business for Free.

Time Out

Just like stay at home moms, stay home dads also need time out. Make sure you take regular breaks. Don’t get trapped in the four walls of the house! Do something you like every day . Spend time with your men friends- discuss football or whatever you men talk about! This will bring normalcy in your life just like it does to the Mothers!

Explain to your children

Explain to your children, that ‘Daddy wants to stay at home with you and Mummy wants to go to work’ or ‘Either Mummy or Daddy need to go to work, so I have decided to stay at home and Mummy has decided to go to work’. Keep it simple! Simplicity always works!

Conclusion

In my opinion a mother can look after the child, the best.  A Father can spend time with the child by doing flexible work or working from home. Are you a stay at home Father? What was the reason for this decision? Have you got any tips that you can share with the other stay at home Fathers? Please let me know via comment box below.

Regards

How To Start a Mom Blog and Make Money -Try it Then Buy It

If you do not have any help or family support with your kids, it doesn’t mean that you cannot work or you cannot earn money. It would seem impossible to go back to work because you also have to think of the high childcare costs. This was the problem, I faced too not long ago. I just couldn’t figure out how to earn money or keep myself occupied productively without compromising the way I want to bring up my kids. Fortunately I discovered how to start a mom blog and make money from it.

Flexibility

Once you become a parent, work flexibility becomes very important ! You never know when your child is going to be sick. If your child is in school, there is a break every 6 weeks, either at half-term or at the end of the term. If you decide to put your child for camps or with the childminder, it will start getting very expensive, despite your spouse or partner taking turns with you in looking after kids. The cost doubles if you have 2 children , treble if you have 3!

Part time Vs. Full time

It is not easy to get a part-time job- you have to balance out your pay with the travel cost. Is it worth it? Even if you work part-time, you still have to think of school holidays(childcare costs) and sickness – and at the same time earn only part of the salary. If you work full time , you have to not only think of childcare during school holidays but also from school finish time until you finish work. Therefore your childcare costs increase with the increase in your working hours. The more you earn, the more childcare you will have to pay.

Homework and other things

The biggest obstacle that any working mother would face is the time to do the homework especially for those working full time. If you send your child to the child minders then, you also have to deal with a tired child on top of your own tiredness .

Self Employment

As fancy as it sounds,for any business to run you need something to sell – products or services. You need to have skills to be come a good Entrepreneur! You also need a capital to start a business (which I didn’t have).

Blogging

Blogging is a good way to express your opinion , share your knowledge and help others. This doesn’t  require much capital either and most of all, it is a good way to…

… earn money !

How do you set up a blog and earn money from it – via Wealthy Affiliate.

Wealthy Affiliate

During my online researches to get business ideas, I came across Wealthy Affiliate. Initially I started with their free starter membership,to try it out, but within a few days I decided to go for the premium membership! There was no doubt about the high level of step-by-step training provided on their platform . Their training helped me not only set up my blog writing business and make money but also how to advertise my business on social media. Along with that I also got technical support and community support.

If you would like to know more about Wealthy Affiliate, please read my review on it here.

Other options

Blogging was suitable for me, therefore I chose this route, but if you feel this is not your cup of tea, there are still other options which you can do from the comforts of your home. If you would like to learn about other stay at home mom business ideas, read my previous post on Stay at Home Mom Business Ideas – Earn While You Are At Home.

It is not an easy path

Setting up your own business, whether is it is a mom blog or something else, is not going to be an easy path. You have to work extremely hard, sacrifice your television time etc etc, just to get your foot in the door. You also need to continue looking after your kids!

Things which helped me

There are few things I did which really helped me set up my mom blog:

  • Discipline – you have to be very disciplined and committed to your work, your business. There is no boss here to tell you what to do next.
  • Make your own path – do not get bogged down just because “the rest of the world” is Employed. Do what suits you!
  • Believe in yourself- the journey of becoming a mom blogger is not an easy one, it will take a bit of time before you start making money. You will encounter naysayers all the way to success but continue to do what you believe in.
  • This business gave me the thing I craved for the most- Flexibility. This in turn enabled me to look after my kids in my own way. This is something for which I will always be grateful for !
  • Try to have some sort of social life to get human interaction. Join some fitness class- I do yoga! Aim for both mental and physical fitness.

Nothing is impossible

If mom blogging is something which interests you, there is nothing to stop you from doing it and becoming successful. If you look for the path, it will come to you.

A thirst to learn new things

If you are new to the world of online business, then you will be learning a lot of new things. Believe me, it will be good for your mind- after all the monotonous , mechanical mom jobs that you have been doing! This will definitely wake up your ‘baby brain’!

Conclusion

If you feel your child is too young and you are unable to go to work, blogging is  a good option. A blog was a totally different field for me. I learnt everything from scratch. So if I can do it, so can you!

If you are a stay at home mom blogger, please share via comment box, what is the topic of your blog for the benefit of the readers.

Good luck,

Starting Solid Foods for Babies -This is What You Need to Get Started

Starting solid foods for babies can be a nerve racking time for moms, especially first time moms. Before you start them on solids,you will need some weaning accessories for your baby. These items will make weaning simpler for you and your baby . Remember you do not need to buy fancy pots or fancy beakers for weaning. The simpler,the better . Items should be easy to use as well as clean, believe me , there will be a lot of cleaning to do!


Highchair

Product name:Cosatto Noodle Supa Highchair

Ages: 6 months to 3 years

Maximum weight: 15 Kg

Dimensions: H 112 cm, W 56.5 cm, D 73 cm

Guarantee: 4 years

My rating:4/5

Other features

  • This award-winning highchair has 6 height position adjustable seat,3 tray positions to adjust for your baby’s growth
  • 2 single hand removable trays with a cup holder
  • Adjustable leg rest for extra comfort
  • 5 point harness
  • Free standing position with handy tray storage
  • Free 4 years guarantee(UK & Ireland only)
  • Box contains: 1 x highchair, 1 x washable PVC lined seat cushion, 1 x removable washable tray, 1 x 5 point harness,1 x 4 year warranty registration form

 

Pros

  • Cosatto has been around since 1980
  • Easy to remove, easy to clean trays
  • Easy to assemble the highchair
  • Padded reclining wipe clean seat gives extra comfort
  • Highchair can be folded away easily. It has handy tray storage space too. Therefore, it is a space saver
  • Top tray is dishwasher friendly
  • Lightweight highchair and can be moved from room to room very easily
  • Spare seat cover can be ordered from the Cosatto website for £20.
  • Available in 15 colours/designs

Cons

  • No storage basket
  • Requires a lot of strength and patience to remove the straps completely if you want to wash them
  • Sometimes the tray doesn’t slide in and out smoothly and is a bit fiddly
  • Expensive

Overall, a good quality product

==>>Click here to buy Cosatto Noodle Supa Highchair>>==

Water Proof Silicone Bib

Product name: Waterproof Silicone Bibs(2 pack

Ages: 6 months

My rating:4/5

Other features/Pros

  • Bib rolls up easily so you can easily carry it with you when you go in a restaurant or Grandparents home or for picnic with other parents.
  • No staining unlike cloth bibs. Prevents staining on clothes as well .
  • Silicone bibs last a long time unlike cloth bibs.
  • Bibs can be wiped clean or washed. These bibs wash and dry very well. You can also put them in the dishwasher.
  • The pouch of the bib stays open when it is being used. So lesser mess for you to clean as a lot of the food gets collected in the pouch .
  • Silicone bibs are more secure than cloth bibs(with Velcro fasteners) Baby can pull the cloth bib very easily but will not be able to pull a silicone bib.
  • Silicone bibs are hygienic – they don’t smell like waterproof bibs.
  • Easy to fasten or take off.
  • Available in 4 different colour combinations

 

Cons

  • Slightly expensive but will last for a long time

==>>Click here to buy Waterproof Silicone Bibs >>==

10 Piece Bowl and Spoon set

Product name: Munchkin 10 Piece Bowl and Spoon Set

Ages: 6 months+

My rating:5/5

 

Other features/Pros

  • 10 pieces includes 4 bowls with lids and 2 soft spoons. Therefore you can use them at home as well when you are on the go !
  • You will need these soft tip weaning spoons. These spoons are perfect for early stage weaning or when you are starting solid foods on babies.
  • Great for weaning, toddler feeding and snacking .
  • Microwave and dishwasher safe
  • 100 %BPA free
  • Bowls are 100% spill proof, leak proof and break proof
  • Capacity of bowl is 9.0 ounces fluid
  • Lid is interchangeable and easy to grip sides
  • Bowls stack up neatly
  • Munchkin is a known brand and has been around for 25 years

 

==>>Click here to buy Munchkin 10 Piece Bowl and Spoon Set>>==

Tommee Tippee First Cup

I started with these cups when I started weaning my kids at 6 months of age. From a young age, give your child water with meals. Do not give them juices or other drinks. Let them get used to having water. The Tommee Tippee First cup, I found was easiest to clean and maintain. In fact at the age of 1 year, when I started my kids on cows milk, I used the same cup for milk, first with the lid on and than without the lid. Here are the product details:

Product name: Tommee Tippee First Cup (Purple) (2 pack)

Ages: 6 months+

My rating:5/5

Colours:Red, Green, Turquoise,Purple

Other features/Pros

  • These cups are free flow cups, so make sure your child is upright before you give them this cup .
  • Beaker has got a hard spout
  • Spout has two holes
  • Beaker can be sterilised
  • Beaker has 2 handles which makes it easy to hold for the babies and toddlers
  • It can used as a cup without the lid, if your child can sip directly from cups.
  • Easy to clean and durable
  • Cups are very handy and portable- very easy to carry them when you are on the go

Cons

  • Make sure to wash the beaker especially the lid straight after it has been used for milk as the spout might get milk deposits.
  • When you close the lid after filling milk some milk might get sprayed on you due to the pressure .

 

==>>Click here to buy Tommee Tippee First Cup (2 pack)>>==

 

 

If you are looking for a baby food maker, read my review on The Phillips Avent 2- in – 1 Healthy Baby Food maker.

Healthy Start

As soon as you start weaning your baby, give them a healthy diet from the very beginning. I do not recommend any bottled or ready-made foods or purees. Only give them water on a daily basis (apart from milk) for drinks. Juices should only be given after they are full settled in their weaning and that too only occasionally. Read my post on How to Get Children to Eat Healthy before you start weaning.

Conclusion

With all the above items, you are ready to wean your baby ! All you need is the food to get started! If you would like any weaning tips, watch my video on weaning tips here.

If you have any experience with any of the products above, please share via comment box below.

Good luck with the weaning!

Regards

The Benefits of Being A Stay At Home Mom – They are Immense!

I often get this look, ‘you are a stay at home mom, you don’t work ‘, or people give me that sceptical look, ‘what do you do?’ Being a stay at home mom (SAHM) is considered a taboo by a lot of people. There is no pride in it or joy in it, for others, not me! Is being a SAHM now something to be ashamed about? This a question every mother should ask herself. What are the benefits of being a SAHM?

No, it is not ‘your house will always be clean’!  A SAHM doesn’t mean that she has to clean the house all day long!

You always have a choice

When you enter motherhood, you have got a limited time for yourself. We all know that. But if you opt to be a SAHM, then you have a choice as to how you want to lead your life. You can decide what you want to do in your free time (when kids are sleeping or in the nursery). If you are a working mom, every day for a fixed time you will be at work.

Earning money

The main difference between a SAHM and a working mom is the salary or lack of it, but there is a another option. If you persevere and belief in yourself, you can very easily set up your own business from home without anybody’s help.

If you work hard and follow your instinct, you will be able to earn an income from your business. This will not only give you increased confidence and financial independence but also help you pass your time productively.

Please refer to my previous post on SAHM Business ideas here.

Pursuing your hobbies

If you want to pursue your hobbies or interests, it will be harder if you are working. You still got to come home, cook meals and help kids with their homework! For every mother it is very important to do something they enjoy.

There should be things you should do to lighten you up, give you some space to breathe, spend time doing things you like or with people you are close to!

If you are interested , please read my post on Hobbies for SAHM.

Your children will be what you want them to be

If you want your children to be what you want them to be, this can only be achieved if you spend lots and lots of time with them especially when they are under 5 years of age. Remember every person has a different way of handling your kids as compared to you. By every person, I mean your child minder, your mother, your mother -in-law etc.

Only a mother understands her child the most- the reason is obvious. A mother has nurtured a child for nine long months ever since he/she was conceived! Nobody can beat that- not even the father!

Your child is like a clean slate when he/she is born. You can write on this slate only what you want, how you want and when you want. For example, if a toddler is irate or in a tantrum for wanting a chocolate instead of a piece of fruit, only a mother has the patience to convince the child to have the fruit instead of the chocolate.

Only a mother will persevere to instil good habits in a child, for example having 3 balanced meals a day, minimise junk or readymade meals etc. But this can be achieved only if you are SAHM, especially if your child is under the age of 5 years.

Remember , you can always go back to work once they are settled in school.

If you set a good foundation of your child’s life, you will see the benefits of it as they grow.

You do not have to rely on other people

I met a mother once who said that her mother-in-law looks after her kids while she works full time. One day the mother-in-law was not feeling well during the school holidays, but the mother instead of thinking of the health of the elderly mother-in-law, thought to herself ( and said it aloud to me), what should I do if you are not well, I need to go to work. Obviously I was dumbstruck! Parents must remember that the Grandparents are doing the parents a massive favour by looking after their children.

Grandparents are elderly people who need to look after their health as well. Do not overburden them with your children. It isn’t fair on them!

If you are not sure what the Grandparents role should be in your child’s life, please refer to my previous post here.

So if you are a SAHM, you do not have to worry about who will look after your children during illness and school holidays.

Even child minders are humans, and they can fall sick or have an emergency in their personal life.

Even if you have figured it all out

If you are intending to go to work and have figured it all out, who will look after your kids during the school holidays, you still have to think who will look after your children when they are sick. After all, a child will need his/her mother the most when they are sick. Mothers can comfort the child like no one else can. If you are a working mom, you also have to worry about the childcare costs – they are not cheap either!

If you decide to be a SAHM, do not restrict yourself to the 4 walls of the house – it will drive you crazy! Do something of your own!

Conclusion

Finally it all depends on what is priority in your life, what are your beliefs on how to raise your child. Either way, do not feel guilty. Make the most of your life too!

Are you a SAHM? How did you pass your time during school hours? Please share for the benefit of other readers via comment box below.

Regards

Why is Extended Family Important ? – Let your Children form Their Own Relations!

When I ask “why is extended family important?” I am asking this question in relation to your child and not you! Extended families of the parents are very important in the child’s life. I know some of you might say that I don’t get on with my extended family… or I do get on with some of them but not all of them. Some of you might say, I get on with my extended family but not with my spouse’s extended family! ‘My in laws are actually outlaws’. I hear all that loud and clear.

But despite all the above, I would like to underline to you the importance of an extended family in your child’s life.

Grandparents of your child

If you consider your parents or your mother-in-law and father-in-law as extended family, then it is very important that your child spends time with them. This should be done on a frequent basis if possible. Grandparents can teach what parents can’t. For example, they can teach them, family traditions or culture like mother tongue, family festivals, and family histories. Children like story telling. Grandparents are very good at story telling especially stories which have a moral at the end.

Uncles, Aunties and cousins

Every relation your child has gives him/her something new. Also, if the child is able to bond with different relatives he/she will feel more secure in his/her environment. If the parents have siblings, then children should be encouraged to mingle with uncles, aunties, cousins etc. This is especially beneficial if you have got only one child. Children need the company of other children. Children learn faster from other children- this is where bonding with cousins can prove to be beneficial to your child.

Uncles and aunties can bring different things in the child’s life, maybe because the mind-set of the uncles/aunties is different from the parents or it could be because the uncles /aunties are more experienced due to having older children.

Look at the bigger picture

If you are not keen to see your extended family too often, then make an effort at least once or twice a year. Try to look at the bigger picture. Think of all the benefits your children will have when they will get a chance to know and bond with your extended family. I believe that children have a right to form and maintain their own relations. If you do not get on with your child’s aunt, that doesn’t mean that your child shouldn’t bond with his/her aunt.

A sense of belonging

With the extended feeling, children feel a sense of belonging, and this makes them feel secure. This is especially true in regard to Grandparents. They will get the love and attention of other people.

Extended families make festivals merrier

Even though you dislike your extended family, you would have to admit that more the merrier especially during festivals, whether it is Christmas, Diwali, Eid or Hanukkah. Also, children will learn to enjoy your cultural festivals.

Children learn how to care for others

Children will see how the parents behave towards the extended family, they will learn how to look after others, how to think of others and be selfless etc. This is especially true when they see you (parents) caring and looking after your parents (Grandparents).

Your child will learn to bond with people other the family

Your child will learn how to bond and maintain relations with people other than the parents and friends. This will be a huge learning curve for your child.

After the Grandparents have passed on

Even after the Grandparents have passed on, your child will still get the love and attention of the uncles, aunties and cousins. They will still have a ‘family’ outside of their parents and siblings and so will you!

If you feel the extended family are spoiling your children

If you feel the Grandparents are spoiling your children, remember every Grandparent has the right to spoil their grandchildren. Every child has the right to get spoilt. Maybe, even you were spoilt by your Grandparents!

In case, you feel that some members of the extended family are spoiling your children in ways which are unacceptable to you or if they are teaching something contradictory to what you teach them, then you should approach the member and explain to them in a calm manner that this is not acceptable to you and to refrain from repeating it again with your child.

You should also explain to your child (in case of contradictory teachings from the extended family) why you are teaching them, what you are teaching them.

Indifferences with other members should be dealt with amicably, peacefully and with maturity.

Every family has its own share of problems. Rise above it. Be the bigger person.

Responsibility is yours

It is the parent’s responsibility ultimately, to discipline their child and give them the right guidance! Filter things out of your child’s life in relation to the extended family. You decide what is appropriate and what is not!

You will grow as a person

By making this effort for your child, of dealing with people you do not get on with, you will grow as a person. You will learn to be more resilient and accepting of other people’s faults.

You are your child’s role model

Even though you feel that your child hasn’t noticed anything or doesn’t understand anything about family politics, he/she can pick on your vibes very well!

Benefits are immense

Remember the benefits of an extended family are immense for your child, so do not get deterred by the negative aspects!

Conclusion

Not only the children but parents benefit also from extended families. Parents can also get guidance about their children from experienced parents in the extended family.

What are your views about the influence of the extended family on your child? What difficulties have you faced from the extended family in regard to your child? Please share via comment box.

 

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Buy Kids Shoes Online – Hours Of Fun with Heelys Shoes!

Kids outgrow shoes very quickly, we parents know that. We all know how tiresome it is to take kids shopping for shoes, long queues and trying to reason with kids their choice of shoes. So I thought to myself why not buy kids shoes online or at least have a look at what the online stores have to offer. That’s how I came across this fantastic collection of Heelys shoes on the Skatehut website. I would like share this with you in case you are looking for shoes for your kids .

Just remember, 2 wheeled shoes are aimed more for beginners whereas 1 wheeled shoes are for those who have already used Heelys before.

Heelys X2 Fresh Black/Pink

Product name:Heelys X2 Fresh Black/Pink(girls)

Where to buy: Skatehut.co.uk

Price : £ 39.99

Material: Upper: canvas, Sole:rubber

My rating: 4.5/5

Other features

  • 2 wheels per shoe – perfect for beginners
  • Laced shoes
  • Contrasting trim and laces creating a bright effect
  • Rubber toe cap
  • Shoes come with ABEC3 bearings

Pros

  • Heelys brand is a known quality brand
  • Simple and stylish design combines fashion with functionality
  • Cool design for the young people
  • Fresh is a popular model in the Heelys range
  • Ideal shoes for beginners as well experienced
  • 2 wheels can be converted to 1 wheel
  • Easy to put wheels in and out quickly
  • Quick delivery and great service
  • Great quality good price
  • Very popular with kids
  • Cheaper on Skatehut compared to local shops

Cons

  • Big compared to normal sizing .
  • Shoes with laces – so make sure your child knows how to tie laces.
  • Kids would have to learn how to balance on the wheels

==<<Click here to buy Heelys X2 Fresh Black/Pink >>==

 

Heelys Premium 1 Lo Light Up- Triple White

Product name:Heelys Premium 1 Lo Light Up- Triple White(girls)

Where to buy: Skatehut.co.uk

Price : £ 74.99

Material: Upper: synthetic leather, Sole:EVA/rubber

My rating: 5/5

Other features

  • Padded tongue and collar for extra comfort
  • Shoes come with ABEC5 bearings
  • Translucent outsole with bright LED’s around perimeter
  • Power buttons on the tongue. Easy to press power button
  • 12 different light sequences
  • Light sequences switch off automatically in 4 minutes
  • Rechargeable LED’s. Chargeable port under the hidden flap on the tongue.

Pros

  • Includes dual prong cable which means you can charge both shoes at the same time
  • Stylish, flashy model from Heelys
  • Girls can not only roll around but display 12 sequences of light! What’s there not to like!
  • Good quality, smart looking. Good fitting .
  • Quick delivery

Cons

  • It takes 3hours to fully charge these shoes
  • Instructions not clear on how to charge them
  • USB cable included but not the charger plug

==<< Click here to buy Heelys Premium 1 Lo Light Up- Triple White >> ==

Heelys X2 Dual Up – Black/ Neon/Multi

Product name:Heelys X2 Dual Up- Black/Neon/Multi(girls)

Where to buy: Skatehut.co.uk

Price : £ 55.99

Material: Upper: synthetic leather, Sole:Rubber, Mid-sole:EVA

My rating: 4.5/5

Other features

  • Padded tongue and collar for extra comfort
  • 3D logo
  • Abrasion resistant brake pad
  • 2 X 2 wheels
  • Shoes come with ABEC3 bearings
  • Power strap and elastic gore closure for a secure fit

Pros

  • Beautiful design, sturdy build. Popular with girls who do not want anything ‘girly’
  • Great quality, brilliant colours!

Cons

  • Takes a bit of practice. Watch the Heelys instruction video.

==<< Click here to buy Heelys X2 Dual up  – Black/Neon /Multi>> ==

Heelys Uptown- Gold/Purple Colourshift

Product name:Heelys Uptown – Gold/Purple Colourshift(girls)

Where to buy: Skatehut.co.uk

Price : £ 54.95

Material: Upper: Canvas, Sole:Rubber

My rating: 5/5

Other features

  • Padded tongue and collar for extra comfort
  • Abrasion resistant brake pad
  • Dual colour
  • Low profile wheels
  • Shoes come with ABEC5 bearings
  • Lace closure for a secure fit

Pros

  • Good support for the feet in this model
  • Stylish
  • Quality product from Heelys
  • Brilliant colour

Cons

  • Same price for all sizes – if that bothers you!

==<< Click here to buy Heelys Uptown- Gold/Purple Colourshift>> ==

Heelys Veloz – Denim Rainbow Drip

Product name:Heelys Veloz- Denim Rainbow Drip(girls)

Where to buy: Skatehut.co.uk

Price : £ 39.99

Material: Upper: Canvas, Sole:Rubber

My rating: 4/5

Other features

  • Denim style mid-top
  • Classic sneaker style
  • Low profile wheel
  • Shoes come with ABEC5 bearings

Pros

  • Veloz are back in new colour scheme!
  • Full lace closure for a secure fit
  • Durable rubber sole
  • Ideal for those already used to Heelys
  • Good quality and design

Cons

  • Not as comfortable as the Heelys style trainers
  • Rainbow print might peel off

==<<Click here to buy Heelys Veloz Denim Rainbow Drip>>==

Heelys Split- Purple/Aqua

Product name:Heelys Split – Purple/Aqua(girls)

Where to buy: Skatehut.co.uk

Price : £ 54.95

Material: Upper: synthetic leather, Sole:Rubber, Mid-sole:EVA

My rating: 5/5

Other features

  • Padded tongue and collar for extra comfort
  • Abrasion resistant brake pad
  • Lightweight Eva Midsole
  • Low profile wheels
  • Shoes come with ABEC5 bearings
  • Lace closure for a secure fit

Pros

  • Durable rubber sole
  • Ideal for those already used to Heelys, the split comes ready to roll
  • Great price, quality and service
  • Sparkly looking

Cons

  • This might be harder to use for a child not used to Heelys

==<<Click here to buy Heelys Split- Purple/Aqua>>==

Heelys Voyager(Glow in the Dark)

Product name:Heelys Voyager – Glow in the Dark (boys)

Where to buy: Skatehut.co.uk

Price : £ 39.99

Material: Upper: synthetic leather, Sole:Rubber

My rating: 5/5

Other features

  • Smooth toe classic silhouette
  • Upper with a Glow in the Dark Accents
  • Large GITD logo on the side
  • Lace closure
  • Low profile wheels
  • ABEC5 bearings

Pros

  • Glow in the dark feature is always popular with boys!
  • Comfortable design
  • Perfect with or without wheel

Cons

  • One wheel so might be hard to use if your child hasn’t used Heelys before.

==<<Click here to buy Heelys Voyager (Glow in The Dark )>>==

Heelys X2 Dual up – Black /Gum

Product name:Heelys X2 Dual Up – Black/Gum (boys)

Where to buy: Skatehut.co.uk

Price : £ 45.99

Material: Upper: synthetic leather, Sole:Rubber, Mid-sole: EVA

My rating: 4.5/5

Other features

  • Padded tongue and collar for extra comfort
  • 3D logo
  • Abrasion resistant brake pad
  • 2 X 2 wheels
  • Shoes come with ABEC3 bearings
  • Power strap and elastic gore closure for a secure fit

Pros

  • Very stylish design
  • Great quality and price
  • Brilliant service

Cons

  • Watch Heelys instruction video for practice

==<< Click here to buy Heelys X2 Dual Up -Black/Gum>>==

 

Heelys Premium 2 Lo-Black/Grey

Product name:Heelys Premium 2 Lo- Black/Grey(boys)

Where to buy: Skatehut.co.uk

Price : £ 59.99

Material: Upper: synthetic

My rating: 5/5

Other features

  • Padded tongue and collar for extra comfort
  • Shoes come with ABEC5 bearings
  • Translucent outsole with bright LED’s around perimeter
  • Power buttons on the tongue. Easy press power button
  • 12 different light sequences
  • Light sequences switch off automatically in 4 minutes
  • Rechargeable LED’s. Chargeable port under the hidden flap on the tongue.

Pros

 

  • Includes dual prong cable which means you can charge both shoes at the same time
  • Stylish, flashy model from Heelys
  • Boys can not only roll around but display 12 sequences of light! What’s there not to like!
  • Good quality, smart looking. Good fitting
  • Quick delivery

Cons

  • It takes 3hours to fully charge these shoes
  • USB cable included but not the charger plug

 ==<< Click here to buy Heelys Premium 2 Lo- Black/Grey>>==

Heelys Motion Plus – Grey/Black/Flames

Product name:Heelys Motion Plus – Grey/Black/Flames(boys)

Where to buy: Skatehut.co.uk

Price : £ 40.99

Material: Upper: synthetic, Sole: Rubber

My rating: 5/5

Other features

  • Upper with breathable perforations
  • Padded tongue and collar for optimal comfort
  • Gum Rubber Ninja Star outsole for added grip
  • Full lace closure
  • Low profile wheels
  • ABEC 5 bearings
  • Plugs, wheels and removal tools included

Pros

  • Classic motion plus model. Excellent flame design
  • Ideal for the more experienced due to the single wheel
  • Great product and fast delivery
  • All boys will love the design and the hours of fun!

Cons

  • If your child has never worn Heelys, they might find the one wheel shoes hard to balance

==<<Click here to buy Heelys Motion Plus – Grey/Black/Flames>>==

 

Heelys GR8R Hi- Black/Red

Product name:Heelys GR8R Hi- Black/Red

Where to buy: Skatehut.co.uk

Price : £ 49.95

Material: Upper: Canva, Sole: Rubber

My rating: 5/5

Other features

  • Padded collar Hi top Shoe
  • Stylish Classic Construction
  • Abrasion Resistant Brake Pad
  • Low profile wheels
  • ABEC5 bearings

Pros

  • Padded collar for optimal comfort with lace closure for secure fit
  • Heelys logo embroidery on heel and side
  • Ideal for those already used to Heelys
  • Brilliant service. Great quality

Cons

  • If your child has never worn Heelys, they might find the one wheel shoes hard to balance

==<<Click here to buy Heelys GR8R Hi- Black/Red >>==

 

Conclusion

Heelys is a great quality brand as well as value for money. Skatehut prices are lower than other online and offline store. Skatehut also has got a fast delivery system. Overall, you won’t be disappointed !

Have you every bought Heelys Kids shoes? What was your experience with it? Please share via comment box below.

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What Should Parents Teach Their Children – Have you Covered Them All?

‘What should parents teach their children? ‘ is the question which is foremost on any parent’s mind- either a new parent or an existing parent. Before you stress over this , remember parenting isn’t an exam! It’s ok if you have forgotten to teach your kids something. It is never too late. Sometimes, you automatically realise and sometimes you just need a little reminder. We all do.

My post specifically relates to things you should teach your children about your customs and traditions. Below are things which I feel are necessary to teach children but if you feel I have left out anything please put them in the comment box at the end of the post.

Mother Tongue

If you are not living in the country of your origin, it is very hard to teach your child your mother tongue, especially if the children don’t have anybody to speak to in their mother tongue other than the parents. Despite all this, I believe it is very important to teach your children your mother tongue .

I consider teaching mother tongue as an inheritance. I believe that inheritance and legacy just doesn’t mean money and property, it also means what you will pass on to your children and remain with them long after you are gone.

Another point to be considered here is that, if you do not teach your children your mother tongue, your children will not be able to teach their children and therefore your language or mother tongue will die with you ! As crude as it sounds, it is the truth!

If you think it appropriate you can send your child for tuition to learn the language , though I recommend, it being taught by the parents. Even though you do send them for tuition, your children might still not talk or understand the language as they are not getting enough practice or because they don’t speak it with the parents.

You can also take the help of Grandparents. Remember, it’s your parents who taught you the language in the first place!

Traditional Foods

If you have any traditional foods as per your caste and community, you should not only teach your children to eat it but also at an appropriate age teach them how to cook it. Try to create the same environment as your own country if possible. Your children should know about their origins.

For example, as soon as I started weaning my children on to solid foods, I started giving them rice and lentils as well as Indian bread (chapati) and Indian vegetable(sabji or shak).

Cultural Festivals

This one is a tough one but not impossible. Remember as a parent you have got to make your child aware of all your traditions and culture. Try to celebrate all or at the very least celebrate the most important festivals of your culture. You can also make them more aware of it through books or movies showing these festivals. For example, as an Indian Hindu, Diwali is the most important festival for us. So I teach them ( through books or just by talking to them ) what is the significance of Diwali by telling them the story of Rama and Sita and Ravaan and that Diwali means the victory of good over evil.

If it is not possible to celebrate the other lesser known festivals then you can always talk to them about it when you feel they are beginning to understand or are getting interested in the festivals linked to your culture.

Other Traditions

There could be other traditions linked to your culture which could be important. For example, it is an Indian tradition to take blessings of the elders especially during festivals like Diwali. So if that is your tradition as well, you will have to make the effort to teach your children . You should do it to your elders and let them ‘copy’ you.

Effort has to be yours

If you are not living in the country of your origin, extra effort will have to be made by parents in order to teach children about your customs and traditions. If you don’t make efforts, you won’t see results! Efforts have to be made continuously, constantly and regularly.

Persevere . Even if they don’t show any interest initially, do not stop trying. If you do it continuously, they will come round and show interest. Try different ways of teaching them -don’t stick to the traditional way of teaching them. For example, if you have more than one child – ask them who knows what is a sock called in your mother tongue? Praise them all for trying or getting it correct.

You have to do it yourself

As I have repeatedly said in all my posts, parents always copy their children. So parents need to be seen by children as following all their customs and traditions. For example, if you do not speak in your mother tongue (at least at home) children won’t speak it either.

Praise and encourage them

Whenever your children follow your customs or traditions, make sure to praise them. This will encourage them to do it again. If they speak in your mother tongue , encourage them to talk to other people (who have the same mother tongue) in that language . This will give them lots of encouragement as well.

Try to make it fun

If you try to make it fun to learn your customs and traditions for your children then, they will learn it faster. For example, I have downloaded an app on my phone which teaches them our mother tongue but also lets them play games. Ordinarily, I don’t allow them to play games on my phone. So this is a treat for them!

Believe

It is important for parents to believe that teaching your children about customs and traditions is an important lesson to be taught. Teach your children what you believe is important. Teaching for the sake of it will not give any results and will be a waste of your time and effort.

Conclusion

Teaching children your customs and traditions is very important. If you teach your children, then they will teach their children. If you do not teach them they will be unable to teach their children and all your customs and traditions will die out – at least in your family.

What are your thoughts on teaching your mother tongue to your child? If you are already doing it, what hardships do you face? Please share via comment box below.

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Baby Bjorn Baby Bouncer- Review of Bouncer Bliss

Baby Bjorn has got a good range of baby bouncers. I would like to tell you first why you would need a Baby Bjorn baby bouncer. Holding the baby all the time is not advisable as it tires the baby. Also, a parent has to shower, cook and do all other chores which can be difficult to do with a baby. One good option is getting a bouncer for the baby. Both my kids (as babies)used to play on a traditional bouncer, whilst I was cooking and gradually fall asleep on the bouncer .

Remember, you also need to give floor time to your baby too . Floor time is necessary for the development of the baby.  If you have got  a wooden floor make sure the gym mat or whatever you lay your baby on, is thick enough so that the baby is comfortable and the hard wooden floor doesn’t hurt him/her .

If you are still debating whether you need a bouncer or not, then you need to think where you will keep the baby (when he/she is awake) and you need to do cooking or other household chores or go for a shower. This going to happen very often even though it is a parent’s best intention to finish all chores while the baby is asleep!

If you have decided that you do need a bouncer, go ahead and read my review of Baby Bjorn’s Bouncer Bliss to help you make an informed decision.


Review of Baby Bjorn’s Bouncer Bliss

Product name: Baby Bjorn Bouncer Bliss, Anthracite,Mesh

Age: Newborn to up to 2 years

Weight of the baby : Minimum weight 3.5 kg, Maximum weight 13 kg

My rating:4.5/5

 

Other features

  • Ergonomic design which means it gives good support to the baby’s head, neck and back. This is very important for the baby’s development. The fitted fabric seat distributes the baby’s weight evenly.
  • Bouncer comes with natural rocking, no batteries required. The bouncer is rocked either by the parent or by baby’s natural movements.
  • Bouncer can be used for a long time, from 0 to 2 years of age. Bear in mind minimum weight of the baby should be 3.5 kg and maximum weight should be 13 kg.
  • Seat is made of child friendly material and has been approved by Oeko-Tex Standard 100 as being free from harmful substances.
  • Fabric is easy to remove and clean. It is machine washable at 40 deg Celsius.
  • Bouncer can be used in 3 different positions of rest and play.
  • It is portable and can be folded flat. It occupies very little space when it is folded.
  • Available in mesh or cotton fabric and different colours like anthracite, black, navy blue and greige.

Pros

  • Non slip base, also bouncing doesn’t make any noise.
  • You can watch your child play and rest while you take shower or do your household chores. This would be the main reason you would need a bouncer as you cannot hold your baby all the time.
  • Once your child has learnt to sit unaided, you can turn the fabric around and convert the bouncer into a children’s chair!
  • Despite the high price, it is value for money
  • Easy to clean fabric. Mesh design is easier to clean than cotton especially if there are any milk spills. Mesh design also keeps the baby cool in the summers.
  • You can adjust the bouncer at 3 different angles depending on if you are using it as a sitting or a sleeping device.
  • It is strong,light and portable and can be easily carried to a friend or a relative’s house.
  • Very stylish but simple, award-winning design- different from the traditional design.
  • The rocking will also help to calm the baby or him or her to sleep. You can rock the bouncer with your foot too.
  • Neutral colour – so it can be used again if you plan to have more children.

Cons

  • Price is high. Expensive if you don’t intend to use it much. It will be worth it if you buy for your first child and then re use it if you have more children .
  • The mesh design is a little rougher than the cotton design .
  • Colour can be boring if you are looking for a colourful Fisher Price kind of bouncer.

== <<Click here to buy Baby Bjorn Bouncer Bliss>>= =

 

Other add ons

Product name: Baby Bjorn Transport bag for Bouncer Bliss

 

My rating:4.5/5

Other features/Pros

  • Practical lightweight bag to carry your Baby Bjorn Bouncer Bliss.
  • Travel bag made of 100% polyester.
  • Machine washable at 40 deg Celsius.
  • Easy to carry bouncer in the bag.
  • Protects bouncer from getting dirty when you transport your bouncer from one place to another.

Cons

  • Bag is expensive too – it is a big expense if you were to buy both the bouncer and the bag.
  • You shouldn’t put anything else in the bag except the bouncer otherwise you might damage the bouncer or the bag.

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Product name: Baby Bjorn Toys for Bouncers – Flying Friends

My rating:4.5/5

==<<Click here to buy Baby Bjorn Flying Friends for Bouncers>>= =

 

 

 

Product name: Baby Bjorn Toys for Bouncers – Googly Eyes

My rating:4.5/5

Other features/Pros of the bouncer toys

  • Encourages baby to play and explore.
  • Keeps them occupied while you do your chores.
  • Safety tested, high quality product from Baby Bjorn.
  • Attaches firmly to bouncer so it can only be removed by an adult
  • Safe for child to chew or suck on.

 

 

Cons

  • Very expensive for what it is.
  • Child might get bored with playing with the same toy.

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Conclusion

There is no doubt about the great quality of Baby Bjorn products. A bouncer and bouncer toys are must haves if you are having a baby. So if the price is not an issue then go for the Baby Bjorn Bouncer Bliss with the transport bag and the toys! Overall a great product.

Always place the bouncer on the floor ! Keep your baby safe!

If you already have a Baby Bjorn bouncer, please share your experiences and opinion in the comment box below.

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