How To Teach Kids Responsibility – Why is it so Important?

My niece passed on her precious Barbie dolls to my kids as she had outgrown them but within a few weeks of my kids receiving them one doll’s head has snapped off(no idea how!) , another’s leg is broken! Yet another’s hand has snapped off! I pondered on this for a while, how to teach kids responsibility and why is it important for parents as well as the children. Every day at school pickup time, my kids would have lost something or forgotten something at school. Sometimes we realise this before we leave the school. Sometimes we realise when we are already home.

Does this all sound familiar?

Why is responsibility important?

Teaching children to be responsible is important so that they know what they understand what is expected of them and what will be the consequences of their actions. For example, children should know that it is expected of them to tidy up the room after they have finished playing with their toys. They should be taught that if they push their sibling from the stairs, the sibling is likely to get seriously hurt.

If you do not persevere and teach your child responsibility, you cannot say that ‘my child does nothing!’

Foundation has to be built from a very young age

From a very young age, children have to be taught how to be responsible. For example, you can teach your toddler how to put all his/her toys away, in a toy box. At that age, you have to show them with action, and make them copy you. From a young age, they have to be taught to clean their own mess. As the child grows make it a ‘rule’ that they have to pick up all their toys and tidy up the room before they go to sleep every evening.

Read my post on Top Toddler Toys.

Praise them

Praise and encouragement are very important in children’s upbringing. Make sure you acknowledge or praise them whenever they act responsible. My daughter has the habit of forgetting her things in school like her school cardigan, her water bottle or her reading record. Very often something has gone missing. On the days she brings “everything back”, I praise her “well done for bringing everything back”. If she has lost something in school, I ask her to go to the Lost &found; and find her things herself in the break time. I only ask the school if she is unable to get her stuff back.

Help with the chores

As per the age of the child, make them help you. Soon you will learn which chore they enjoy the most. Start them off with the chores they enjoy. For example watering the plants in the summer or helping with putting away the laundry. Then slowly introduce them to things which have to be followed on a daily basis like clearing the table after every meal. From the age of 3, I made my kids put their plate in the sink after meals. By the age of 8, they would have to rinse their plates and put them in the dishwasher.

Don’t over expect

Children are not going to do a perfect job. Recognise the effort and the intention.

 

Self-care and looking after things

Self-care is also a part of making your child responsible. For example, taking showers on their own, washing hands properly before meals and after going to the toilet, changing on their own etc.

Also encourage them, to look after their things, books or toys. You can tell them that you can use only those things which are not broken or torn.

Make exceptions

If sometimes your child is tired and is unable to put all his toys away, help him out but reinstate the rule the very next day.

It is a long process

This process of teaching them to be more responsible will last their entire childhood. At every age you will have to teach them to be more responsible – not only remember doing the things they already do but also get more responsibility.

Step-by- Step instruction

When we, adults go through any kind of training or a course, we learn faster if we are given step- by -step instructions. Same goes with children. When you start making child responsible or if you are giving a new chore to your child, give the step-by-step instruction. For example, you want the plates wiped before they are placed on the dining table. You can say, Wipe the plate first very carefully. Hold plate tight so it doesn’t slip out of your hand . Place each plate carefully on each mat. Do it slowly. No rush.

Responsibility brings bonding

When my younger child started primary school, I told my daughter, “look after your brother”. Whenever they have a joint play date, I instruct them to look after each other, be nice to each other and don’t leave the other out of the game you play with the other kids. Be there for each other.

Also, when you give them chores to do, they will feel included and involved in your life and this will create further bonding.

Responsibility brings trust

When you start giving more and more responsibility to your child, trust will automatically build up when the child executes all the chores to the best of their capacity. You have to remember to give them chores only as per their capacity and age. When you know that your child can complete a particular task well on their own, do not hover around them to see if they have completed the task or not. Leave them to it.

 

Responsibility brings self – confidence

When your child completes a chore satisfactorily and earns your praise, it will automatically increase their self- confidence. Next time they will say, “Mummy, I can do it”. This will feel very satisfying to the parent as well.

Appreciation

When we give them household chores, children will realise how hard parents work, to get things sorted on a day-to day basis. This will automatically make the child appreciate his/her parents.

Conclusion

It is never easy to teach your child to become responsible. It is a continuous process. But nothing about parenting is easy; the important thing is to make it fun for yourself and your child and being consistent. Sooner or later, they will start becoming more responsible.

Do you have any tips on how to teach kids responsibility? Please share via comment box below.

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Sibling Rivalry Into Adulthood – Is this Healthy?

Sibling rivalry is healthy up to a point, when the children are young. But the sibling rivalry into adulthood might lead to destruction of relations not only between the siblings but also with the parents. Therefore, from an early age, when the children are young, parents should take preventative steps to ensure that they give everything including love and attention equally to all children.

It is very important that what is done with one child should also be done with the other!

What is sibling rivalry in children ?

Sibling rivalry means when children try to compete with each other and go to any lengths to “win”. Sometimes sibling rivalry is healthy whereby it encourages all the siblings to do better. But if proper steps are not taken by parents to control the rivalry it may carry on into their (children’s) adulthood!

What causes sibling rivalry in children?

Sibling rivalry is caused by factors such as:

  • Unequal love and attention to all children- sometimes parents do this intentionally and sometimes they do it unintentionally. If they do it intentionally, it is favoritism. Please read my previous post on favoritism here.
  • Parents comparing children which increases the rivalry- “why don’t you try to become like your brother?” Please read my previous post on comparing children here.
  • Children wanting praise or attention from the parents .
  • Children trying to get into the “good books ” of parents.
  • Child might feel,even if its not the case, that parents are always taking the side of his/her sibling when the siblings fight.
  • Huge age difference between siblings – if the gap is huge (10 years+) it might intensify sibling rivalry as over the years the circumstances of parents might change, what was possible with first child might not be possible with the younger one and vice versa .

Sibling rivalry might increase or reduce in adulthood.

Little bit of sibling rivalry is normal

All siblings fight. Through the fighting they bond as well. They compete with each other too- to try to grab attention of the parents. This is all very normal. So if your children are doing this, it is quite normal.

Don’t encourage the rivalry

Don’t encourage rivalry by comparing children. Sometimes you might do it unintentionally or blurt out something like “your brother does this for me all the time, why don’t you do it?” Even if you do say it in the heat of the moment, reassure the child by saying that you love all of them equally .

Too much sibling rivalry might be carried into adulthood

If there is too much sibling rivalry in childhood, it is more than likely that it will get carried into adulthood. If it does it might not be healthy for the siblings. After the parents have passed on, the siblings only have each other. So it is the responsibility of both siblings and parents to try to make effort to reduce rivalry. It must be remembered by the siblings, they too are adults now and responsible for their own actions.

Siblings should also remember(being adults now) that their relation with each other is different from the one with the parents. One relation should not spoil the other.

Reasons for sibling rivalry in adults

  • Favoritism towards one sibling by the parents.
  • One sibling just doesn’t get on with the other due to difference in their nature or character.
  • More dependence on one child by elderly parents compared to others.
  • Sibling rivalry into adulthood might also be as a result of differences which might have cropped up between the siblings due to certain incidences or miscommunication or misunderstanding. This might have nothing to do with the parents.
  • Sibling might not get on with the spouse of the other sibling. This will affect siblings relations with each other and lead to rivalry.
  • Competition between spouses of siblings might also lead to sibling rivalry with regards to wealth or social status.

Effects of sibling rivalry into adulthood

  • The sibling who feels he/she isn’t getting attention from parents might have problems with self-confidence.
  • Relations between siblings will get affected due to fights and communication issues. After all adults are not as forgiving as children!
  • Siblings will continue competing with each other which might not be healthy  and will lead to a lot of stress.

If you are facing sibling rivalry

Try to take these steps if you are facing sibling rivalry:

  • Forgive and forget. Try to be the bigger person.
  • Make peace with yourself first. Even if you do feel that your sibling is getting more love and attention of your parents then you should first to accept the situation. Try to look at it as an outsider rather than looking at it as an affected emotional person.
  • Don’t dwell on negative things which serve you nothing! In fact, do not discuss or complain or rant about every “episode”.
  • Continue to be “normal” with your parent(s) by offering them what you can. Don’t beat yourself if your opinion or your idea doesn’t get accepted by them and the “favorite” sibling’s idea gets accepted.
  • Treat yourself nicely and maintain your self-respect. Don’t stop loving yourself. The important thing is to love yourself. Belief in yourself.
  • If you feel that your self-respect is being compromised than maintain distance from your sibling for little while. Take a break but not for too long otherwise you might grow too distant.
  • If the sibling rivalry is due to misunderstandings or miscommunication , try to sort it out amicably with your sibling as early as possible.

By being competitive and jealous of your sibling will not serve you in any way. It will just make you unhappy .

Conclusion

Parents though elderly should try and accept and acknowledge opinions of all their adult children and perhaps explain to them why they are unable to accept opinions so that children do not feel “unwanted” which might later give rise to sibling rivalry. Parents should try to be just and fair to all their children from the children’s childhood into adulthood.

If sibling rivalry has nothing to do with parents, but difference of opinion just accept it and move on. Don’t hold grudges. It will just pull you down.

Have you experienced sibling rivalry? How did you deal with ? How did your parents react to it? Please share via comment box below.

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How to Start A Home Based Business For Free – Wealthy Affiliate Review

The reason for letting you in on my little secret of how to start a home based business for free, is that I fully understand the hardships, parents have to go through with looking after children as well as earning a livelihood. It becomes harder if you do not have anybody to help you look after your children. Before I found Wealthy Affiliate, I was not getting anywhere with part time job hunting. I found one full time job at one point but I left it in 2.5 weeks. I just couldn’t cope with it and the kids as my husband also works full time!

Anyway, cutting my sad story short, as soon as I found Wealthy Affiliate, I felt I have found a purpose in life with which I could not only help parents like us (me and my husband) but also I found a way to recreate my identity after motherhood!

You need a computer – desktop or a tablet or a laptop to run this home based business. Ideally it is better if you have a desktop or a laptop.

So here is the review of Wealth Affiliate, which has changed my life !

Overview of Wealthy Affiliate

Name: Wealthy Affiliate

Co-owned by: Kyle and Carson

Website : www.wealthyaffiliate.com

Eligibility : Anyone over the age of 18 years

My rating: 4.5/5

Wealthy Affiliate is the home of Affiliate Marketing. In simple terms, Affiliate Marketing means you choose a niche(a topic which you are passionate about or is your interest or a hobby) . Through Wealthy Affiliate’s step-by-step training and ample resources and support, you can set up a (WordPress)website . On this website, you can write blog posts on various topics under your niche. Through the website you also, promote other people’s products and services and earn commission.

If you are still not sure what a niche means, check out this perfect explanation of niche by Kyle here .

Click on the image below to get niche ideas:

Free Starter or Premium Membership

The first question for setting up any business is to calculate the cost. But if you subscribe to Wealthy Affiliate, you have the option of subscribing to a free starter membership – just so you can check it out for yourself whether this is something you want to do or not! If you decide to upgrade to premium, the cost will be either $49/month or $359/year. It will be your choice whether you want to pay monthly or yearly ! You do not need to give any credit card details to subscribe for the free starter membership !

So how are you going to earn money ?

There are so many people on the internet every day. Everybody is always looking for information on the net. A lot of them might be looking for information which you can provide through your blog posts on your website. This will bring visitors to your website (Traffic) . If they buy products or services you are promoting, you earn commission! Have a look at the diagram of Affiliate Marketing below.

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Are there any other costs involved ?

You will have to have

  • A broadband connection
  • Electricity

Which you would be having anyway at home!

If you are starting out as starter member you will be building a website on the.siterubix.com domain which is a completely free website. You can build up to 2 free websites as a starter member.

Premium membership has to be paid via PayPal or Debit/Credit Card.

Countries barred from Free Starter Membership

Due to scams and frauds certain countries have been barred from free starter memberships, they have to subscribe straight for premium membership. These countries are:

  • Bangladesh
  • Egypt
  • Ghana
  • India
  • Kenya
  • Morocco
  • Pakistan
  • Philippines
  • Vietnam
  • Nigeria

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Types of Training

Once you subscribe to Wealthy Affiliate, You will have access to the following trainings:

  1. Online Entrepreneur Certification (50 lessons)
  2. Affiliate Boot camp Training (70 lessons)
  3. Live interactive video classes (weekly)
  4. Video and text based tutorials (1000+)
  5. Course ,lesson and task based training

 

 

What exactly is the difference between a Free Starter and a Premium Membership?

 

Do you actually make money on Wealthy Affiliate or is it a scam or a rip off?

Let me explain you this by telling you the pros and cons of Wealthy Affiliate :

 
Pros

 

 

  • Highly affordable – if you  go for premium membership – it is a very reasonable price
  • Value for money – the amount of training, support and resources that you get – the membership is more than worth it.
  • Detailed training- whatever route you choose – Online Entrepreneur Certification or Affiliate Bootcamp training- all the steps are explained in great detail. You can watch the trainings as many times as you want to get a solid foundation for your business.
  • Tasks at the end of every lesson. At the end of every lesson, you are given a task to complete- this will give focus and direction to your business. In case, you get stuck completing the task, help is always available.
  • After completing the trainings and through the membership, support and help is available all the time by the members including the co-owner, Kyle himself!
  • Site Support- if you have any technical issues with your website or your Wealthy Affiliate account – Site support is available all the time, every single day.
  • Community support – Wealthy Affiliate has got a fantastic community. They will help you if you are stuck with anything or to inspire you, motivate you or guide you or give you solutions to problems you might be facing in your business. This is the best feature of Wealthy Affiliate. Self Employment is always considered a lonely road. But Wealthy Affiliate has provided a solution to this as well.
  • If you subscribe to the Premium membership, you will not require any other course or product to run your business.
  • This is suitable for anybody of any age (18+years) whether you are old or young, employed or unemployed, part-time or full time worker, retired or not. You DONOT need any experience of online business or any online knowledge, Everything is provided for under the Premium membership.
  • Wealthy Affiliate also provides you the option of “trying” it out through the Free starter membership – so that you know whether Affiliate Marketing is for you or not. You are not obligated to pay anything if you decide to stop the free starter membership.
  • In Affiliate Marketing you do not have to create a product or service to sell – as you are just promoting other people’s products or services. No Physical stock involved. No delivery problems to deal with!
  • Affiliate Marketing provides immense flexibility which is necessary for parents. You can work at your convenience. There is no 9-5 here.
  • Affiliate Marketing is a great and a proven way to earn passive income.
  • You can work part-time or full time depending on daily schedule.

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Cons

  • There is a lot of chatter on the site itself from members blogging on the site or questions being asked as well as the live chat option. You have got to remember not to waste time or minimise time wastage on banter with other members. You have got to keep the focus on the trainings and on your business. Make yourself productive.
  • Online business including Affiliate Marketing takes a while to start earning money. You have got to be consistent with your work and belief- ignore the naysayers.
  • People- meaning friends and relatives who have no clue about Affiliate Marketing will try to put you off – do not pay heed to them. Follow your instinct.
  • Lots of hard work required. There is no overnight success. This will not give you immediate cash – if that is what you are looking for! Discipline and perseverance is required – big time!
  • If you live in the countries barred from free starter membership – you will not have the chance to “try it out”. You will have to begin with the Premium membership of $49/month or $359/year.
  • Wealthy Affiliate is only in English Language. You have to know how to write and read English .
  • If you decide to promote Wealthy Affiliate then your commissions will be paid via PayPal. This is something you will have to consider if you do not have access to PayPal.

I believe that Wealthy Affiliate is one of the best,if not the best platform for Affiliate Marketing I would definitely choose Wealthy Affiliate over any other Affiliate Marketing courses as:

  • You might NOT get community support
  • You might NOT get Site support in case of technical issues
  • You might NOT get any help or support if you do not understand any aspect of the training.

Success Stories of Wealthy Affiliate

If you still require proof that Wealthy Affiliate is NOT a scam or a rip off, read success stories below:

Success Story 1

Success Story 2

Success Story 3

There are tons more on the Wealthy Affiliate website .

Conclusion

Wealthy Affiliate Platform provides you everything you need to become an Affiliate Marketer under one roof. If you would like to earn a passive income or are looking for flexible or part-time work, try out the free starter membership today !

Have you had any experience with Wealthy Affiliate? Are you still a member? Please share via comment box.

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Is Parenting Hard? – Is It Worth It?

“Is parenting hard?” is the question often asked by couples contemplating having a child. Is it worth it? Sometimes people who already have children think of parenting as the most difficult job(me included) . Then why do people have children? Parents moan non-stop about their children – why didn’t they think about this before they decided to have children? Is parenting only about pressures, worry and stress? Is there something, that people miss out on if they don’t have children?

 

 

 

 

Let me highlight a few things below which your child will bring your life:

Your child is your teacher

Some parents always think that a parent has to teach the child discipline, good behaviour, family culture, maths homework etc. But try to look at the other side of the coin. Your child teaches you:

  • How to learn to be patient.
  • How to teach your body to stay awake the whole night and do all the chores including looking after your child the next day without feeling the exhaustion.
  • Multi tasking- there is no job in this world which teaches you how to multi task as much as parenting does.

My most favourite ones:

  • How to be an emotion switcher (within five seconds!). This is the scenario: My kids are fighting with each other, I get angry with them, tell them off. They say sorry with that look .. POOF … . anger is gone .. Replaced with a Mum’s heart brimming full of love for her children. You experience this magic only with your children. Children can teach parents how to have dual emotions at the same time.
  • Before you have children- you would think I can’t do so much work in a day – “it is impossible” . Once you become a parent you can pack in the same amount of work in an hour !

You grow as a person

Once you have a child- he/she is your responsibility . Whether you have any emotional, physical or financial problem, you have still got to love and look after your child  and play with them. You wouldn’t believe how much you grow as a person.

Your faith in the universe becomes stronger

When you see your baby soon after he/she is born- you would feel as if the biggest miracle has happened in your life. Watching your kids grow, makes you realise the power of the creator of the universe which increases your faith. As you handle your child and deal with your own issues – your faith will get stronger in God or universe.

Children give you the reason to be happy

If a parent has had a stressful day, spend one hour playing with the kids- become a child yourself. Before the  hour is up, all your stress would have disappeared. Such is the power and sweetness of a child!

Your life will be busy

Your life will be busy, upside down but you won’t be sitting lonely and depressed if all your “partying friends” are busy .

You will be the most important person in your child’s life

If you have ever come across a phase in your life, when you feel you are not able to please anyone- your boss, your spouse,your siblings or even your parents- fear not ! You will always be the most important person in your child’s life. Your child will give you a reason to love yourself once again!

Parenting teaches you to care and share

Parents have to practice what they preach to their children. If you teach your children to care and share, you will have to demonstrate it to your children. This would automatically make you a better human being.

Parenting gives you fulfillment

Parenting or having a child gives immense fulfillment despite the sleepless nights and hard work and loads of laundry! You are responsible for another life. It is an honour too to be entrusted with another life by the universe.

Parenting makes you selfless

Parenting makes you selfless. When you become a parent , you are constantly thinking about the welfare and needs of your child all the time. This makes you very selfless. You are not thinking only about yourself all the time.

You will be able to leave your legacy to someone

Everybody want to leave their imprint before they depart from this world. You can leave your imprint through your children by giving them your upbringing , thoughts, opinions, culture etc.

But before you decide to have a child it is important to :

  • Understand that your life will change forever.
  • You will have to move mountains to raise your children.
  • It involves a lot of hard work and sacrifices.
  • Your child/children will always be your number one priority until they become adults. Nothing or nobody is more important than your child/children.

Apart from the above,  there are a few other things I would like to highlight,

Parenting- if you have no help

There are many parents like us (my husband and I) who have no help with the children. But that shouldn’t be a reason not to have children. A child is always best looked after by the parents, in my opinion. It is hard but you will see the fruits of it sooner or later. Parents can love, guide,discipline,instruct, teach children like no one else can. Every other relation for the child is optional or a bonus.

If you have seen other parents being miserable

Do not let the misery of other parents dictate whether you should have a child or not. A person should make up their own mind whether they are ready to have a child or not. There are good and bad days, ups and downs when you are a parent. Ups and downs are a part of life whether you are a parent or not. Finally, it is the attitude of the parent which will decide how happy the parent is after having the child!

Conclusion

Parenting is a choice. In my opinion, having children is the natural progression in life. Parenting teaches things which nothing else can and most of all becoming a parent is one of the most joyous moments of our lives. Are you a parent or planning to be one? Do you think parenting is hard? Please get in touch via comment box below.

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Parents Who Overprotect Their Children – Why Do They Do It?

Parenting is becoming more like a circus trick – parents are overloaded with so much information that they are unable to balance themselves on the tight rope of parenting ! One wrong step and you will fall 10 feet down! Why do parents overprotect their children, has anybody wondered why?Parents who overprotect their children are not monsters or aliens or controlling freaks! After all, only parents (not psychologists, Doctors or experts) would understand their children! I can think of few reasons why parents become so protective of their children.

Scaring parents

Every day in the news, we hear of the various studies conducted by psychologist or experts or Doctors, what is the affect of so-and-so on the child. However, well-intentioned they are, they are always aimed at scaring parents. Doomed if you do it, doomed if you don’t!

For example for years, parents were told that too much screen time is not good for children, and now few weeks ago, we all read or heard that the “experts” don’t think that screen time actually effects children negatively! There are so many contradictory reports, it is quite confusing which way should parents go!

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Society

Barely the baby has been born and the parents are told, “do this, then this will happen”, if you don’t do this your child won’t do this” , “you didn’t listen to me, so now your child isn’t normal”. Again, well-intentioned society of grandparents, uncles aunties, doctors,nurses etc. People don’t need to be perfect to be parents!

Safety

Parents also tend to become overprotective when they hear or read of incidents and accidents of other children. It is natural for parents to tell their children – who their best friends should be, where they should go with their friends etc.

Mothers are naturally overprotective

Mothers always tend to be more protective towards their children then fathers. It is the mother’s instinct to always protect her children.

Fear of Social Services

In this day and age where there so many laws and rules to protect children, Parents often fear the social services taking their child away from them. One example that I can cite here is that some parents believe in spanking there children in order to discipline them, but they fear social services knowing about it and therefore are unable to discipline their children. I do not advocate spanking children – please refer to my post on spanking children here.

If parents are unable to discipline their children they become spoilt – they will not understand the difference between right or wrong. Each parent has their own way of disciplining their children- this right is not being respected due to various child abuse incidents.

What is over protection?

I feel over protection is an objective term. It depends on the child or the circumstances. What is over protection for one child would not be over protection for the other ! Parents are in the best place to decide whether it is over protection or not.

Do you feel you are overprotecting your child?

If the answer is yes, then I would like to share some secrets with you on how to stop yourself from being overprotective,

Striking a balance

Whenever your child asks your permission to do things – don’t always say no. Give them a bit of freedom,depending on their age and ability, to explore things in their life. Don’t always stop them or scare them from exploring. If your 2 year old wants to run in the park, let them run even if there is a risk of them falling down and getting hurt. On the other hand, you cannot allow your child to run on the streets!

Trust your instincts

Your instinct will always guide you – what you are doing is correct or not. You understand your child better than anyone. You know what your child is capable of. Few times, I have had the instinct that something is not right and BAM, my child has been injured, luckily not seriously !

If something doesn’t feel right to you, then don’t let your child do it. Even if it is at the risk of getting yourself labelled as an overprotective parent .

Have Faith

It is very important for every human being to have faith in something or somebody. Have faith that God or universe or angels are always looking after your child. They will protect your child from anything bad or unpleasant.

Trust your child

You have to have faith in your parenting skills.  You have already taught your child that he/she needs to wrap up in the cold weather otherwise they might fall sick. Now, have the faith that they will do so in the school when they are playing in the playground. Don’t worry unnecessarily at home or at work if they have done so or not. Trust your child to follow your advice. Even if they do not and fall sick, they will learn from that experience .

Give them some space

As children start growing up, give them some space. Mothers should especially do his. If you spend every waking moment with your child- you will start becoming more and more overprotective towards your child! Let the father of the child take them out without you for a couple of hours even though you(Mother) are the one who primarily looks after the child.

Overprotectiveness can have negative effects too

Remember that if you are protecting your child from every bad thing possible, it can have a lot of negative effects on the child like:

  • Child won’t be able to solve smallest issues on her/his own
  • Child might have problems in her/his relationships
  • Child might be low in self-confidence as she/he has very rarely learnt from her/his own mistakes
  • Child won’t think much of herself/himself so would be low in self-esteem too

 

All the above will affect his/her adult life too.

Conclusion

Parents have to decide what constitutes over protection for their children and what doesn’t depending on the age and ability of the child. I believe following your instinct is the best way to avoid over protection. Do you overprotect your children? Have you got any tips or suggestions to prevent overprotecting children? Please share via comment box below.

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Harry Potter Gifts and Collectibles – A Must For Every Harry Potter Fan!

If you are or your kids are Harry Potter fans, you will need no introduction to these series of fantasy novels (later made into movies ) of witchcraft and wizardry. The books, films and collectibles take us into a world we would always like to fantasize or dream about.

The creative people couldn’t stop making all the collectibles for the Harry potter movies after the last one had been made, so they continued to make them and sell them to Harry Potter fans. Some of the most beautiful Harry Potter gifts and collectibles that I would love to have or all Harry Potter fans would love to have are:

Lego Harry Potter Minifigures

Lego mini figures of Harry Potter characters like Harry Potter, Hermione Granger, Ron Weasley or Lord Voldemort are very good for kids to pretend play with their favourite characters from the Harry Potter series. The mini figures are not boxed but the quality of the mini figures is as you would expect of Lego. The price is a bit high if you would look at it as a Lego piece but if you are a Harry Potter fan, the price is very reasonable for these figures. The 4 figures below of Harry,Hermione, Ron and Voldemort are a must have!

Product name: Lego Harry Potter Minifigures

Ages : 6 years+

My rating: 5/5

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Lego Harry Potter Quidditch Match Building Set

Product name: Lego Harry Potter Quidditch Match Building Set

Ages : 7-14 years

My rating: 5/5

Every fan would love to play Quidditch game. Beautifully created by Lego. Recreates this exciting game and includes features like:

  • Fly through the hatch in the Gryffindor Tower
  • Shoot the Quaffle through the rings by using the broom’s mounted shooting function
  • Knock players off their brooms!
  • Hurl a spell
  • Keep score using the Hufflepuff house tower scoring system
  • Cheer for your team with the removable megaphone on the Ravenclaw house tower

Includes:

  • 6 Lego Harry potter mini figures – Harry Potter, Hermione Granger, Severus Snape, Oliver Wood, Lucian Bole and Marcus Flint
  • 4 towers – Gryffindor, Slytherin, Ravenclaw and Hufflepuff Tower each having a play feature
  • A base with 3 goal posts and rings, moving keeper function and Bludger stud Shooter
  • Accessories include a chest, 2 wands,4 brooms, Quaffle, Golden Snitch, bat, 2 bludgers, trophy, megaphone and scoreboard.
  • Contains 500 pieces.

Price is high but it is Lego and Harry Potter, perfect combination for the young fans!

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Lego Harry Potter Hogwarts Great Hall

Product name: Lego Harry Potter Hogwarts Great Hall

Ages : 9-14 years

My rating: 5/5

Another brilliant creature by Lego! Features includes:

  • 4-level tower with movable spiral staircase, treasure and potions room with a turret featuring the mirror of Erised.
  • 10 mini figures of Harry Potter, Hermione Granger, Ron Weasley, Draco Malfoy, Susan Bones, Professor McGonagall, Professor Quirrell with dual Lord Voldemort face, Hagrid, Albus Dumbledore and Nearly Headless Nick.
  • Also includes build able features like Basilisk and Fawkes creatures, Hedwig and Scabbers figures.
  • Accessory elements include 7 wands,3 tumblers, an umbrella, lantern,broom, sorting hat, cauldron,potions,candles,2 wizard brooms, food , trophy,teapot,chest,a spider and a boat with a hanging lantern.
  • Contains 878 pieces.

Pros

  • Lego have thought of everything! Fantastic creation especially the spiral staircase. High quality set.
  • Instructions to build are easy to follow.
  • Lego and Harry Potter combination is brilliant- every child and parent will love it!
  • Great gift for Christmas or birthdays or to just added to your Harry Potter Collection!

Cons

  • Very expensive- but Lego is always expensive and if you are a Harry Potter nut, price won’t be an issue.
  • Might take a little while to build this .
  • Small pieces might get lost.

Overall, a great product!

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Lego Harry Potter Hogwarts Express Train Set

Product name: Lego Harry Potter Hogwarts Express Train Set

Ages : 8-14 years

My rating: 4.5/5

Amazing Hogwarts Express Train set with railway bridge and platform 9 3/4 ! Includes:

  • 5 mini figures – Harry Potter, Hermione Granger, Ron Weasley,Remus Lupin, the trolley witch and Dementor and Scabbers figures.
  • 1 carriage with 4 seats, removable side panel and roof (so that you can play inside ) and a trolley witch with sweets trolley.
  • Accessory elements include 3 luggages,4 wands, chocloate frog, ice cream,2 newspapers, King’s Cross sign, platform 9 3/4 sign and a wanted poster.
  • Contains 801 pieces.

As I said before you can’t go wrong with Lego and Harry Potter combination. The only cons are it is slightly overpriced and may take a couple of hours to build!

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Hermione Granger’s Wand Necklace

Product name: Hermione Granger’s Wand Necklace

My rating: 5/5

Necklace with a Hermione’s wand as the pendant .

Check out the image here

This necklace:

  • is official Harry Potter licensed Hermione Granger necklace and has a Warner Brothers legal trademark.
  • Is silver plated so is the wand.
  • Has copyright logo at the back.
  • Comes in an Ollivander’s Wand gift box.

The wand is 12 cm and the necklace is 80 cm. It is a genuine collectors item.

Pros

  • Great quality and good value for money.
  • Beautiful and elegant necklace.
  • Necklace is a good length.
  • It comes in a nice Ollivanders gift box
  • Perfect gift for girls and women.

I cannot think of any cons – can you?

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Harry Potter Tops Trumps Match Game

Product name: Harry Potter Top Trumps Match Game

Age: 4+

My rating: 5/5

The crazy cube game!

Take turns to push in the cubes.

Be the first to match any of the five of the same Harry Potter Characters horizontally, vertically or diagonally! The game is not over yet. If your opponent can match their top trumps card with the winning Harry Potter Character, they win the game!

Pros

  • Simple game for Harry Potter fans. You don’t have to be a fan to play this game. Harry Potter is just a theme.
  • Good value for money.
  • Hours of fun for children between ages 6-10 years.
  • Game comes in a tidy case so it is portable.
  • Family game.

Cons

  • The card storage at the top of container is not very secure.
  • It is difficult to close the case securely at times.

 

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Harry Potter Marauders Map

Product name: Harry Potter Marauders Map

My rating: 4.5/5

A detailed full size Marauders Map replica printed on parchment paper. 6′ when unfolded.

Check out the image here

Pros

  • A high quality GSM paper is used so it won’t tear unless you really try to tear it!
  • A beautiful collectible for a Harry Potter fan!

Cons

  • Overpriced

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Harry Potter Golden Snitch Light

Product name: Harry Potter Golden Snitch Light, Multi Colour

Size: 20 cm (7.9″)

My rating: 4/5

Harry Potter Golden Snitch Light is USB powered light. USB cable is included. Features Golden Snitch floating in an illuminated bell jar. Capture the Golden Snitch or use it light your room maybe as a lovely bedside light. Tap it to turn it on or off. The Golden Snitch light is an officially licensed Harry Potter product.

Pros

  • Good gift for a Harry Potter fan.
  • It can be used as a bedside lamp.
  • It looks beautiful when illuminated.

Cons

  • Lots of plastic used.
  • You might need to tap harder to turn it on or off.
  • It can be switched on only when it is powered by a USB cable.

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Harry Potter Wands

Product name: Harry Potter Wands


My rating
: 5/5

Harry Potter collection is never complete without the wand of the wizard. Wand of each character comes beautifully packed in an Ollivander’s box

Harry Potter’s wand

 

Lord Voldemort’s wand

 

Hermione Granger’s wand

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My favourite character is Hermione and I would definitely like to buy her wand!

So which one is your favourite Harry Potter character? Which collectible did you like the best? Would you buy one for yourself or somebody else? Let me know via comment box below!

Until next time, Harry Potter fans!

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Favoritism Affects Children – Of All Ages

Childhood is the foundation of our lives. The imprint of childhood builds our thoughts, beliefs, actions. Ultimately our adult life will pan out based on our childhood. It is imperative that parents do everything in their hands to ensure that their child doesn’t lack in self-confidence or have a low self-esteem. Unfortunately, some parents favour one child over the other which affects both their self-confidence and their self-esteem. Favoritism affects children of all ages.

Even if you are an elderly parent with adult children, your partiality towards one child will affect your relationship with the other children. Favoritism also affects sibling relationships. Unfavoured children would ask themselves as well as the parents – what does he/she(favoured child) do, that I don’t do? – and rightfully so!

Each child has their own identity

Whether you are a young parent or an elderly parent, whether your child is young or an adult- it should always be remembered that each child has their own identity. Each child thinks and acts differently. Their wishes and dreams are different. In case of adult children, each child’s opinion will also be different.

Parents should always remain impartial

Whenever siblings fight with each other, as children or as adults, parents should always remain impartial, it doesn’t matter what the parent’s opinion is on the topic! By impartial I mean, they shouldn’t take sides. In the event you have to take sides, be fair and just. I know it is easier said than done, but you can try! Parenting is never easy! It is , in my opinion , the biggest responsibility!

Parents should always focus on the positives of each child

From the time children are born, it is very important that parents always see the positive aspects of each child and focus upon it. Give them encouragement on it. For example if one child is excelling academically whilst the other is good at music, encourage and praise them both for their excellence in studying or music even if you believe only in academics. Also, support your children in their weaker areas. Show them that you are there for them. This will automatically increase their confidence in their weaker areas.

Each child should have their own space in your life

Let each child be their own person. Let them have their own space in your life. Each child will bring a different aspect in your life. If you show favoritism, they might feel insecure. Their insecurities will cause a lot of fighting between the siblings .

Parents’ duty

Even if the children feel that you are being favourable,when that is not the case, it is the parent’s duty to reassure the children that the parents love all their children equally.

Creating and maintaining a strong family bond

It is the parents duty from the very beginning to create a strong bond between all their children. This can be only achieved by treating all of them equally. If they are treated in the same way irrespective of their gender, age or capabilities, they will be very secure in their relationship with the parents as well as their siblings.

Elderly parents

When parents become elderly their reliance on their adult children would increase. At this point in life, it is imperative that parent continue to treat their adult children equally. Parents attention on their adult children shouldn’t be affected by which child is serving them the most in their old age. Each child might be facing a different set of circumstances in their life. Be accommodating of all your children’s opinions- respect and acknowledge their opinions .

Elderly parents should bear in mind that once they pass on,their children have only got each other, so the parents should try much as possible to keep the children’s relations with each other strong. Favoritism creates a lot of strain on the sibling relations.

Favouring the weaker child

Parents often start favouring the child, who in their opinion is the weakest. They often focus on the weaker child’s weaknesses! In this process they stop focusing on their other children with a view that the stronger child will be able to cope on their own while the weaker child won’t be able to cope. ! All children need equal attention of their parents!

 

So the important thing here is that parents should always focus on the strengths of all their children. Make their strengths stronger and their weakness weaker! Every child has got a strength!

 

Favouring a child shows ingratitude

In my opinion, favouring one child over the others shows ingratitude. Each child is a gift or a boon from the source or God. Appreciate, respect and be grateful towards each child that has been given to you.

If you have been a favoured /unfavoured child

Parents, in case you are or were a favoured /unfavored child with your parents, remember to be true to yourself. If you have been a favoured child, always think of your siblings, respect and love them. If you have been an unfavoured child, do not let the opinion of your parents become your reality. Find out the real you through meditation. Belief in yourself. You do not have to prove anything to anybody. Just follow your heart! Do as much as you can for your parents without beating yourself ! Love yourself!

Forgive your parents – as parents are humans and humans make mistakes! Most of all, do not repeat your parents mistakes with your children.

Conclusion

Parents are responsible for molding the future of their children. Parental responsibility starts from the time children are born and will only finish when the parent passes on. Therefore, it is the lifetime duty of the parents, to treat each child equally and appreciate their strengths and appreciate their unique identity. Many a times it might feel difficult to do so- but a parent can never stop trying ! A parent is a hope, a strength, a foundation of a child, whether the child is a kid or an adult.

What are your feelings on the topic of favoritism? Do you favour one child over the other? Have your parents treated you and your siblings equally? Let me know via comment box below!

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Organic Kids Clothes – What Does That Mean? Where do you Buy?

When I had first heard the term organic clothes, I wasn’t sure what it really meant. My mind instantly started thinking of organic milk, fruits and vegetables! But now, when we are looking for commodities which are chemical free as well as earth friendly, I feel that organic clothes are something which all clothes manufacturers should be aim for.

According to Wikipedia, Organic clothing is is clothing made from materials raised in or grown in compliance with organic agricultural standards.

What is Organic Cotton and where do buy these clothes from?

I would like to introduce to you(if you do not already know ) to organic cotton clothes made by a brand called Frugi. They make kids clothes out of organic cotton . So what exactly is organic cotton?

  • Organic cotton is super -soft.
  • It is very soft because the fibres are left intact and not broken down by chemicals used in farming and processing of cotton .
  • Organic cotton lasts for a long time as it is very durable.

Other pros of Frugi Organic Kids Clothing are:

Reduce Reuse Recycle

Frugi’s outerwear is made from recycled plastic bottles. According to Frugi’s website, it takes 36 recycled plastic drinking water bottles to make one winter jacket ! That sounds very impressive to me, plastic has become a very big problem worldwide and this is a very good way to recycle plastic.

Employees of Frugi looked after and are treated with respect

Frugi’s suppliers are in Turkey , Portugal , India and China. They ensure that all the suppliers follow their code of conduct which is:

  • No child labour.
  • No forced labour or employment. Employees just need to give reasonable notice before leaving the employment.
  • No discrimination is allowed for hiring or firing anyone.
  • All employees are provided with safe hygienic environment .

We have all often heard of horror stories of our clothes being made in sweatshops where the employees are little children or overworked and lowly paid adults working in an unhygienic environment.

So Frugi is a like a breath of fresh air!

Charity

Frugi donates 1% percent of their Turnover to charity . So in the last 11 years they have donated £428,000.

Frugi has covered a lot to be a responsible Organisation !

So Who are the Founders of Frugi?

Frugi was founded in 2004 by parents Lucy and Kurt who struggled to find clothes to fit their son’s cloth nappied bum.

Clever ,colourful , good looking clothes

  • Reversible clothes – your child has a stain on his/her clothes and you need to go out- no problem, just reverse the clothes!
  • Designed to fit over cloth nappies or disposable nappies with plenty of wriggle room.
  • Parsnip pants – Due to generous fold over on waistband and cuffs, they don’t ride up.
  • Adjustable button up straps and waistbands to accommodate growth spurts in children.
  • Great quality , clothes last forever. Clothes feel very soft and snugly. Designs are very colourful too.
  • Outerwear is made from recycled plastic drinking water bottles – that’s the environment taken care of !

Their collection

Maternity Wear

You can use these clothes during pregnancy as well as for breastfeeding. These super soft fabrics can keep you warm in the winter.

 

 

 

Twist Front Dress

 

 

 

 

 

Jersey Smock Dress

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Pointelle Pyjama Top

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Contrast Raglan Top

 

 

 

 

 

Roll Top Yoga Pants

 

 

 

 

 

 

Babies Clothes

 

 

 

 

 

 

Snuggle Suit

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lovely Babygrow

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dinky Cord Dungaree

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Kids Clothes


 

 

 

 

 

Holly Cord Dress

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Finn Fairisle Jumper

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Toasty Towelling Robe

 

 

 

 

And many more…

Click link below to access their full collection.

 

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Benefits of Frugi VIP Subscription

An annual subscription of £9.50 entitles you to

  • Free unlimited UK first class delivery for 12 months .
  • Free returns (via downloadable returns form).
  • Free welcome gift.
  • Early access to two end of seasons sales.

Award winning brand

Frugi are the winners of multiple awards including Feefo Gold award and The Loved By Parents Awards which is the most trusted parenting award programmes worldwide.

I always like to include in my posts what things I don’t like about a brand or product :

  • Clothes are slightly expensive especially if you always buy cheap and cheerful clothes. The cost is justified due to the pretty designs and durability of the clothes.
  • If you do not have any stores near you , you would have to buy the Frugi VIP subscription or pay online delivery charges if you spend under £50 in the United Kingdom. If you live outside the UK, you would have to pay different or maybe higher delivery charges.

Conclusion

I am truly impressed by their colourful range of clothes for babies, kids as well as maternity wear for mothers. Perhaps something more appealing is the fact that the clothes are environment friendly, child friendly and of great quality .

Have you ever bought organic kids clothing? What is your experience of it? Do you buy clothes from Frugi? Please share your experiences via comment box below.

 

Happy shopping!

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Comparing Children – Should A Parent Compare Their Children To Others?

As soon as a child is born, every parent inadvertently start comparing their little one to other babies. As the child grows, everything from crawling to teething or to performance at school is compared. Which one did better? By comparing children they put immense pressure on themselves as well as on their child.

“Your child is very active, mine doesn’t do half the things yours does”. “Your child is so clever at maths, mine hates studying”. “Your son is so tall”. It can be awkward for a mother whose child is being compared to! How do you even deal with such unfair comparisons!

Every child is special

In my opinion, every child has something special in them. If one child is good at physical activities, other might be good at maths. If one toddler starts walking at 10 months another might start crawling at 6 months. If one child is a good eater other might be a very obedient child.

Read my post on Playpens For Toddlers

Does comparison actually help?

In my opinion , comparison only causes unhappiness to the parents. A parent can’t make their child behave or act like somebody else’s child. If they try to do, it is going to be disastrous – for the parents because they won’t be able to make that happen and for the child because he/she will face immense pressure from the parents to do something they are unable to do. When the child is not able to do what the parents expect him or her to do, the child will feel that he/she is not good at anything. This will cause very low self-confidence in the child .

Good qualities of the child are ignored

Parents who compare their child to the others, always focus on making their child do something they are not good at. In this process they fail to see the immense talents or skills the child has, what comes naturally to the child. In fact, the child will not even realise that they are good at anything. They will just think they are good for nothing .

Affects relationship with the child they are compared to

If you compare your child to another, say a friend,  then your child will start disliking or even start hating the other child. “What is it that she is doing that I am not doing?”. “Why am I always wrong and he is always right?” Comparison will create a lot of negativity in your child.

Impacts Parent child relationship

Because of the high or incorrect expectations , the child never ‘warms up’ to the parent with the fear that he/she might do something which might not please the parent!

So, what do you as a parent do ?

  • Appreciate/accept your child the way he/she is.
  • Find out what he/she is good at. Focus on it. For example, if they are good at piano and not at maths, support their piano skills by enrolling them for piano lessons.Help them with practicing piano etc. It doesn’t mean, that you ignore making them practice maths . In fact give them extra practice in maths as studying is equally important. But do not compare them to another child who is good at maths . Don’t keep reminding them that they are weak in maths.
  • Whenever they perform well in maths, praise them. This will increase their confidence and also encourage them to perform better.
  • Always, always focus on what your child can do, rather than what they can’t do!

Comparison always leads to trouble

There is no end to comparison. If you start comparing how many toys your child has as compared to his/her best friend, you will feel pressurised to buy more toys for your child. This will not only cause financial strain (depending how far you go ) but you might run the risk of your child being ungrateful and greedy. The most important thing your child will ever need are love and attention ! Everything else is secondary.

Never compare your children with each other

If you compare your child to their sibling, it will also start affecting the siblings relationship with each other. This might have a lifetime effect on your children. So for the sake of family unity, never compare your children. Each child is different. Each child is unique. Even if your parents compared you to your sibling in your childhood, don’t repeat the same mistake with your children. Do not repeat your parents’s mistakes.

Conclusion

Each child develops at his or her pace. All kinds of developments like crawling, walking happen within an age range. If you are concerned about any developmental issue, you should speak to medical professional rather than comparing your child with somebody else’s. Telling your child “why don’t you learn this from your brother or your friend”? can affect their confidence for the rest of their lives.

All parents (including me) tend to compare their children to others upto a certain extent, as long as it is done only as an observation. It shouldn’t go any further than that.

Do you compare your child or children? Or have you experienced someone comparing their child to yours? What do you feel about comparing children? Please share your experiences via comment box below!

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