You have probably heard this a countless number of times! “Take time out”, do something you enjoy and before you go away from my post, I would like to tell you that I didn’t believe in this or understand this until a couple of years ago ! I have been told again and again and again by the family to take time out, and I was just as bored as you are, listening to me saying the same thing! What is Moms time out ?
Doing something of your own, on your own .. without hubby and kids!
Go out of the house!
Choose a hobby or an activity which will take you out of the house. This is very important because you need to change your environment. Playing a computer game at home cannot be considered time out !
Choose a hobby or an activity
If your friends are busy or you do not have any friends, enrol in a fitness class or a hobby club. If you choose a fitness club like Yoga or Pilates or Zumba, you will get the exercise too ! Exercise will also drive the boredom out of you. This is especially important for new mums, who are on maternity break from work to look after their baby.
It is very hard to adjust from being a working person to be a stay-at-home mom. Exercise will give you some stimulation as well as help you reduce post birth weight!
It is easy to enrol for some class and then not go for few lessons either because you are too tired or your child is sick. Try to get someone to look after your child maybe your partner while you got for your class. Don’t feel guilty about it! Remember mothers are humans too and they need a break too from looking after their children.
Don’t forget the more lessons you miss , the more money you will waste!
Think of yourself too
You might give an excuse, like I can’t afford it or I don’t have the energy or I have no one to look after my baby, then you need to learn to think of yourself. This is one of the biggest mistakes I have made since I became a mother.
I have been a mother for nearly 8 years and since last few months, I have really started to think for myself. It is hard and I keep going back to my old habit but I push myself to think for me. I am not saying that you become totally selfish and not think of your child or your family at all.
But it is ok to do somethings for yourself – I cannot forget that I am Priya first and a mother or a wife afterwards. If you do something for yourself, do not feel guilty.
Visit to the Cinema
Just to have some time out from kids and cooking and cleaning, I just go to the cinema and watch a movie on my own! It is a good way to spend time on your own! Don’t depend on or wait for anyone to go to the movies with you!
Go out with friends
Get your partner to look after your child and have a night out with your friends! It is easy to start talking about your kids all the time but reduce children talk for a little while at least.
Spend time with your spouse
From my previous post, how to keep your marriage strong after kids, it is imperative you spend time with your spouse without the children. If you can get someone to look after your kids, you and your spouse can go for out dinner. You not only get to spend quality time with each other, but also it will be time out for you!
Everybody needs to have fun in life
Everybody should have fun in life. That’s what life is about. Do not put yourself down by not thinking of your own happiness. Everybody needs a break from time to time. Do not be hard on yourself. You do not have to clean everything or wash all the clothes in one day. Motherhood should not stop you from having fun.
Make your life normal as much as possible
The first year is very crucial and hard for a mother. After the first year, try to bring normalcy in your life. Think of yourself at times. Try to make your life as much as you can as it was before you had the baby. The longer you leave the harder it will get, to find yourself again after childbirth.
Re- discover your identity
It is very easy to just think of the child or do things for the child or children all the time. Do something for yourself. For example if you were a career woman before you had children but now are unable or would not like to go to work, then do something of your own from home. Please see my previous post on stay at home mom business ideas here.
It took me a long time to figure out all the above after I had children. Therefore, if you are expecting your first child or just had a child, make sure you do the above. I would like it very much if you were to gain from my experience!
Would you like to share your thoughts on moms taking time out? Is it hard for you to take time out? Do you take time out frequently? Do you think of yourself at all? Share your thoughts via comment box below.