Moms Time Out! – Do What You Enjoy!

You have probably heard this a countless number of times! “Take time out”, do something you enjoy and before you go away from my post, I would like to tell you that I didn’t believe in this or understand this until a couple of years ago ! I have been told again and again and again by the family to take time out, and I was just as bored as you are, listening to me saying the same thing! What is Moms time out ?

Doing something of your own, on your own .. without hubby and kids!

Go out of the house!

Choose a hobby or an activity which will take you out of the house. This is very important because you need to change your environment. Playing a computer game at home cannot be considered time out !

Choose a hobby or an activity

If your friends are busy or you do not have any friends, enrol in a fitness class or a hobby club. If you choose a fitness club like Yoga or Pilates or Zumba, you will get the exercise too ! Exercise will also drive the boredom out of you. This is especially important for new mums, who are on maternity break from work to look after their baby.

It is very hard to adjust from being a working person to be a stay-at-home mom. Exercise will give you some stimulation as well as help you reduce post birth weight!

Be Disciplined

It is easy to enrol for some class and then not go for few lessons either because you are too tired or your child is sick. Try to get someone to look after your child maybe your partner while you got for your class. Don’t feel guilty about it! Remember mothers are humans too and they need a break too from looking after their children.

Don’t forget the more lessons you miss , the more money you will waste!

Think of yourself too

You might give an excuse, like I can’t afford it or I don’t have the energy or I have no one to look after my baby, then you need to learn to think of yourself. This is one of the biggest mistakes I have made since I became a mother.

I have been a mother for nearly 8 years and since last few months, I have really started to think for myself. It is hard and I keep going back to my old habit but I push myself to think for me. I am not saying that you become totally selfish and not think of your child or your family at all.

But it is ok to do somethings for yourself – I cannot forget that I am Priya first and a mother or a wife afterwards. If you do something for yourself, do not feel guilty.

Visit to the Cinema

Just to have some time out from kids and cooking and cleaning, I just go to the cinema and watch a movie on my own! It is a good way to spend time on your own! Don’t depend on or wait for anyone to go to the movies with you!

Go out with friends

Get your partner to look after your child and have a night out with your friends! It is easy to start talking about your kids all the time but reduce children talk for a little while at least.

Spend time with your spouse

From my previous post, how to keep your marriage strong after kids, it is imperative you spend time with your spouse without the children. If you can get someone to look after your kids, you and your spouse can go for out dinner. You not only get to spend quality time with each other, but also it will be time out for you!

Everybody needs to have fun in life

Everybody should have fun in life. That’s what life is about. Do not put yourself down by not thinking of your own happiness. Everybody needs a break from time to time. Do not be hard on yourself. You do not have to clean everything or wash all the clothes in one day. Motherhood should not stop you from having fun.

Make your life normal as much as possible

The first year is very crucial and hard for a mother. After the first year, try to bring normalcy in your life. Think of yourself at times. Try to make your life as much as you can as it was before you had the baby. The longer you leave the harder it will get, to find yourself again after childbirth.

Re- discover your identity

It is very easy to just think of the child or do things for the child or children all the time. Do something for yourself. For example if you were a career woman before you had children but now are unable or would not like to go to work, then do something of your own from home. Please see my previous post on stay at home mom business ideas here.

Conclusion

It took me a long time to figure out all the above after I had children. Therefore, if you are expecting your first child or just had a child, make sure you do the above. I would like it very much if you were to gain from my experience!

Would you like to share your thoughts on moms taking time out? Is it hard for you to take time out? Do you take time out frequently? Do you think of yourself at all? Share your thoughts via comment box below.

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Best Way To Lose Weight After Pregnancy -How Do You Do It?

Every mother including you and me are in a rush to lose weight after pregnancy and childbirth. Your body doesn’t feel yours anymore! Your stomach feels like a huge balloon that has started deflating ! Even though you feel blessed with your baby, you do wish your body would go back to the way it was before you conceived! Let me warn that is never going to happen- at least not totally. But you can lose majority of your weight. So what is the best way to lose weight after pregnancy?

Breastfeeding

Breast is the best, for both mother and child. After giving birth, I was so disappointed when I saw that my bump had reduced so marginally .. I almost thought there is another baby inside me! Once I started breastfeeding, my bump (post birth) started reducing so quickly and so did my overall body weight ! Breastfeeding is the best way to lose weight immediately after child birth .

You need to give your body time to recover

All of us mothers are always in a rush to lose weight after having kids, maybe to rediscover our own identity ! Don’t forget that having had a baby growing inside you and then going through childbirth is very traumatic for the mothers body. A big part of the nutrients are taken by the baby and you also lose a lot during childbirth.

Importance of eating a healthy diet post child birth

After childbirth, a mothers body literally falls apart. Therefore, it is important to eat lot of fruits and vegetables everyday(five a day) . Also, omega-3 is an important nutrient during pregnancy and after childbirth. It is important to keep yourself hydrated (water is preferable to juices and fizzy drinks).

Do not diet

Do not diet, if you have just given birth. In fact, do not diet at all. If you are breastfeeding make sure you have a balanced diet and drink lots of water .

Don’t be too hard on yourself

It is normal to put on weight after pregnancy, even as much as 15 kilograms. Lose the weight slowly and steadily. When you stop breastfeeding, keep a note of how much you are eating. It is very easy to fall into a habit of eating too much after you stop breastfeeding. Stop eating when your stomach is full- listen to the signs when your stomach says “stop eating”!

Daily routine

Running around and tending to your child’s needs or doing cooking, cleaning or laundry will automatically bring down your weight. Keep your body moving as much as you can . In the summer holidays, I used to take my children scootering, they scooter, I jog or brisk walk. If the weather is dry and warm, you can do it every day- that will burn a lot of calories. So entertainment for kids and exercise for you (mother)! Fresh air is a bonus!

Smoothies

I also make vegetable juices, which helps losing weight. Do not put any fruit. If you have to put fruit, put a very minimal amount. The sugar in the fruit does not help with the weight loss. You can use a smoothie maker like Nutribullet. See my review of Nutribullet 600 and get your 5 a day in minutes!

Exercises

Exercise as soon as you feel your body is ready. Cesarean section takes 6 weeks healing time and you cannot do intensive exercises or swimming for 6 months after birth. 

Choose a form exercise that you feel you can continue in the long run. For example if you start doing very intensive workouts and lose tons of weight in a short span of time, the moment you stop doing the workouts, you will start putting the weight back on!

I started with brisk walks to lose weight, and I did lose a lot of weight including belly fat. Now I have moved on to yoga, to reduce belly fat further.

So the important factor here is to lose weight gradually. After you reach your desired level of weight, you still need to do some form of exercise every day .

It will require determination and will power

It is never easy to lose weight especially not after pregnancy, the later you leave it, the harder it will get. It will be easier to follow a routine of exercise after your youngest child starts school. If you persevere, follow a balanced diet and keep yourself hydrated(with water) you should see results.

Conclusion

Enjoy the time with your baby/child. Don’t feel guilty every time you eat. Work hard towards losing weight. Avoid junk food as much as you can!

What are your experiences with losing weight after child birth ? How did you lose the weight? If you would like to share your tips or experiences, share via comment box below. I would love to hear from you !

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Do Our Kids Have Too Much Homework- Is this a Concern for Parents of Primary School Kids?

Both my kids are in primary school and sometimes I feel so stressed and pressurised to finish all their spellings, home learning, times table etc, etc. It is also imperative that they do daily reading. How can a parent manage this every week with more than one child some of which I feel is quite unnecessary.  Then I ask myself “do our kids have too much homework? Is this home work necessary?”

Should Homework be given at all?

Some parents believe that their kids should be given tons of homework. They believe that a school can be considered “good” only if they give lots of homework every single day! Others believe that kids shouldn’t be given any homework at all in the primary school !

According to an article in the Telegraph by Olivia Goldhill, a primary school in New York stopped all homework assignments. But this didn’t go down very well with the parents, they didn’t take it positively .

Homework, a proof of study for the school?

Are the schools trying to prove to the parents how much they make the children study through the homework? For example, when my child comes home with her maths homework, I can see what she has learnt in maths that week and when she does her homework I can see how much knowledge she has gained on a particular topic or whether she has understood the concept/topic at all or not.

So even if the schools are trying to provide proof or reassurance to parents who love homework, homework actually helps  parents to know how much their child has understood a particular topic.

A form of communication

Through the above example, the school and parent and communicate with each other, in what topics is the child weak in? Which one is he/she good at? Which topic requires more practice or a better understanding?

Homework done by parent or child?

With homework, there is always the chance that the parent simply cannot be bothered to sit down with the child and make them do their homework. In order to save time they might just do the homework themselves and thus the purpose of homework is completely defeated.

As per my previous post , parents helping with homework, I have outlined why homework needs to be completed by the child and not the parent.

Quantity over quality

The issue for me is quantity of homework. Spellings , maths every week and home learning coming in every 2 weeks ! My daughter gets times table test every week too so that has to be learnt as well. She gets spellings which she doesn’t know the meaning of . The school should give spellings only of words the children are likely or expected to use at their age – words of which they would understand the meaning of.

Pressure on teachers to mark the homework?

Do teachers actually get time to mark all this homework? How would the teacher know if the homework has been done by the child or parent? If the homework is beyond the capacity of the child, most parents would be tempted to do the homework themselves!

Reading

Reading should be encouraged among primary school kids but they shouldn’t be given unreasonable number of books to read in order to get an award or appreciation from the school.

Mug up spellings and times tables

Complex spellings and times tables are given every week. So in case they do not know the meaning of the word, they just have to learn it without really understanding what it means. What is the point of this kind of education? Similarly, for times tables. , barely they have been able to understand the concept of multiplication, to expect them to know their times tables is too much !

As per an article on the BBC News website dated March 2012, the government guidelines for homework have been scrapped which means that the head of the school can decide how much homework should be given.The article also included something of interest to me, which is below:

Conclusion

Homework is necessary to consolidate the child’s learning but it should not pressurise or stress the children and the parents. Quality learning over quantity. Children should be allowed to enjoy their childhood too. Schools should keep in mind what is average level of the children before setting the homework.

Giving large amounts of complicated homework to young children, undermines their confidence. Also, it serves no purpose if the parents do the homework on their children’s behalf.

What are your thoughts on primary school kids getting too much homework? Or kids getting homework way beyond their capacity or understanding? Shouldn’t we let kids be kids? Share via comment box below.

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