Parents Helping With Homework – Is It Important?

The ex- principal of my children’s school believed homework was totally unnecessary and even though homework was given to the children it was never marked by the teachers. The reason that the ex-principal didn’t believe in homework was parents helping their children with the homework. This wasn’t acceptable to her. I believe homework should be done by children but if they are unsure of anything – parents should help, support and guide them. Some parents may say they don’t have any time to help children with their homework.

It is an individual choice whether parents feel homework is important or whether they are able to find time to help children with their homework, but I believe homework is important for following reasons:

Consolidates their learning

Children learn from teachers at school. Maybe by the time they come home they have forgotten what was taught in the school. It is also possible that the child has misunderstood or not understood at all what was taught in the class. You might say my child would have asked the teacher if they didn’t understand, but from experience both as a mother and as a child (once upon time), I know that a child can feel very shy or embarrassed to tell their teacher that they didn’t understand the concept. They might even feel that they will be bullied by their classmates if they say they didn’t understand. Parents helping them with homework can therefore help consolidate the child’s learning at school.

Parents know what is being taught in school

Through homework parents know what is being taught in the school on the day or week of the homework. This is especially helpful for parents of younger children. Younger children don’t always tell their parents what they did in the school.

Parents can gauge child’s understanding

When the parent is sitting with the child to do her/his homework, they can understand how much the child has understood what was taught in the school. They can also know the child’s weak and strong subjects and accordingly work with them on the weak subjects.

Parent teacher meetings

Homework also help parents discuss the child’s performance with the teacher in the parent – teacher meeting. Sometimes what the child might not know/do in the school, he/she will able to do it more easily at home under the guidance of their parents.

One to one

When a parent helps/supports their child’s homework, the child gets total attention of the parent which is not possible in the school. For example if the child is weak in a particular subject he/she might need more attention. This can be done at home with the help and support of the parent.

Parent’s contribution

Through homework, parents can contribute to their child’s learning.

A way to spend time with your child

I know that homework is not a favourite activity of a child, but through helping your child at homework you can get to spend time with your child as well as build some bond with her/him. Children feel loved too if their parents are involved in every aspect of their life.

Show your child you care

Through homework you can show your child you care for them and their well-being. You can also show them that you as a parent consider education very important and that’s why you persevere with them.

Teaching children important values

While you do homework with your child, it is very likely your child will get frustrated if he/she can’t get their homework right. This is the time when you can teach your child, not to give up or to keep trying again and again till you get it right.

After reading all the above if you feel that homework is important for your child, here are some tips which can help you to get your child’s homework done regularly:

  • Manage your time – set aside some time every day for your child and their homework
  • Explain to your child that you have to do your homework at a set time everyday
  • Encourage them to do their homework on their own or tell them to explain to you how a particular maths problem has been taught to them at school. Let them teach you !
  • If they get a problem or a spelling wrong – don’t tell them off. Tell them to keep trying till they get it right. Teach them not to give up. Teach them to persevere
  • If on a particular day your child is tired or if they are not in the mood(you will know if they are not focusing at all) don’t force them to their homework – leave it for the next day but explain to them that they must finish it the next day. You do not want them making a habit of not finishing their homework
  • Lastly, make sure you praise them a lot – whether their achievement is big or small. Praise will go a long way- children will feel more encouraged as well as happy with themselves

I reward my children with (reward) stickers whenever they show a good performance .

Do you believe in homework? Can you suggest any tips or tricks for making children do their homework? Type them in the comment box below and send it to me! I would be happy to hear from you.

Good luck with the homework!

Regards

 

 

 

Teaching Kids Life Skills -What and How?

It is my belief that children should be taught life skills at a very early age. If you start early there are more chances of them willing to learn things. Over the last weekend, my kids helped us pull the weeds out from our back garden and they loved every minute of it ! The best way to teach children is to do the chores together as a family (provided it is age appropriate for your child) . Teaching kids life skills can seem daunting at first but once you get started, you would automatically know how to do it. Of course every time things won’t go as per the plan! So be prepared for that ! I believe children should be taught the following life skills:

Swimming

You can start making your child go for swimming lesson from very young age, after his/her immunisations (around 4 months of age). If they learn as babies they are likely to remember how they were floating in the warm water in the womb for 9 months ! It can also be a fun and social activity for your baby. Swimming can be fun for child of any age provided they do not fear water and that’s why it is important to make them start swimming at a young age.

Keep themselves hygienic

Children must be taught to keep themselves clean. Please refer to my post on Personal hygiene for children. This life skill will reduce the chances of them having any illnesses or diseases. They will carry these good habits into their adult life and teach the same habits to their children.

Eat healthy and exercise

Healthy eating and exercise are a must for a good health, we all know that as adults. But the same things need to be taught to our children as well. At a young age, enroll your child in at least one sports activity in a week like football, basketball, gymnastics, tennis etc. When you start weaning your child, always serve healthy and fresh food. As they grow older continue to encourage them to eat a healthy and a balanced diet. If you are struggling to make your child eat healthy please refer to my previous posts.

Mental health

Just like physical health, mental health is equally important. The easiest and most convenient way to achieve good mental health is through meditation. Meditation is a life skill too and that too a very important one. Children should be taught how to meditate from a young age. I believe all schools should teach children how to meditate. (Refer to my post of meditation benefits for children if you would like to know how to make your child meditate).

Household chores

Depending on the age of your child teach them how to do some household chores. When my son was 4 years old, he started folding his own clothes. The folds were not perfect but my husband and I always encourage both children to help us fold clothes. When children are about 7-8 years old, you can make them start washing their plates or chop salad on Sundays and in the school holidays. Maybe when they are 10-11 years old you can teach them how to make chapatis(indian bread) or  grilled sandwiches.

Manners

I always remind my children to use ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. I refer to them as ‘magic’ words. Explain to them that rudeness and calling names are a strict ‘no-no’.

Gratitude

Children in the western and developed countries especially need to be taught how to be grateful for what they have got. It could be the simplest things like getting 3 meals a day, a roof over your head, abundance of toys, clothes,chocolates etc. They have to be reminded how lucky they are compared to children living in poor and under developed countries.

Be positive

Children need to be taught how to think positively in any situation. Positive thinking and positive attitude will always help children throughout their adult life too. Perhaps it’s a good time for parents to also remember the saying that ‘ your thoughts become your reality!’

Self belief and self awareness

Children should be taught how to believe in themselves when they are teenagers. Parents should practice self belief themselves. Children should also be made self-aware and body aware as they approach puberty .

Manage money

I feel this is another skill which should be taught in high school about how children should manage and save their money. Saving and investment are also life saving skills. This can be taught by parents from a very early age by getting children to save money in their piggy bank. If they save enough money they can buy a toy of their choice from it. Perhaps the parents could start a minor’s bank account in their child’s name and show their child how they have saved money and that the money is earning interest as well. 

Teach children to be happy

Teach your children how to be happy and not how to be rich. If you are happy in life, everything will fall in its place! This is an important lesson to be taught to the children. But it can be done only if parents believe in it and follow it. Children can be taught how to be happy if they are taught how to be grateful and how to think positively !

Apart from the above teach your child how to deal with stress or failures positively. You could tell them that if you don’t succeed in something, rather than thinking of it as a failure, think of it as a learning curve. Teach them to give a positive spin to things which don’t go their way .

Would you like to share any other life saving skills, then please put them in the comment box below, I would love to hear from you !

 

 

 

 

Time Management For Stay At Home Moms – How to Get All Your Chores Done on Time

If you are a stay at home mom like me, you would be very particular about how things should be kept or cleaned in your home. But this comes at cost. Do you feel you are devoting all your time to cooking and cleaning and have very little time for yourself? In this post, I would like to share a few tips on time management for stay at home moms. I have discovered these tips from own experiences – hopefully they would work for you too:

Allocate time

For every chore like cleaning the kitchen or the bathrooms – allocate a particular day or time. For example: Every Friday at 10 am, I will clean the kitchen. Every Wednesday afternoon, I will change the bed sheets – so on.

Follow the timetable

It is important that you follow your timetable. If you don’t then all the chores will be pending at the end of the week and it will be impossible for you finish them in the weekend when you want to do things together as a family. If these chores pile up, you will not only feel lazy to finish them but also it will defeat the purpose of time management.

Take breaks

When you make your timetable don’t keep all the chores for one day. My advice is to do 1-2 cleaning chores a day- no more. Spread out all the chores. Mix the indoor and outdoor chores. Don’t keep all the indoor chores for one day and outdoor chores for another day.

Plan your day

If you are the cook in your family, plan ahead what you would be cooking for lunch or dinner – do preparations a little earlier – maybe while your baby or toddler is sleeping so that once the time comes to cook dinner – you would take less time to finish cooking .

Don’t overthink

Overthinking is bad for anyone. But from a point of view of a stay at home it’s even worse. From the above example of changing bed sheets every Wednesday- don’t keep thinking from Tuesday evening – ” I have got to change the bed sheets”. By the time it is Wednesday afternoon – you have tossed and turned it so much in your head that you really don’t feel like doing it. But this will take practice. At the allocated time, just finish the chore – don’t bring any negativity into it, like – I don’t want to do it, I am bored with doing work etc.

Keep some time for yourself

Always keep sometime for yourself in the week when you are doing something you enjoy – at least for an hour. If you take a break and refresh yourself you would be better equipped to deal with all the chores .

Moms who have very young children

If you have very young children – children in nappies, it will be very hard for you to stick to your timetable. You might have allocated 10 am Tuesday to clean the kitchen but your child decides to do a poo – bang at 10 am! Don’t get frustrated – change their nappy and start cleaning the kitchen quickly before you change your mind or before negative thoughts start pouring in.

Be positive

I know it is very hard to be a stay at home mom and look after the children. Remember “your thoughts can be your biggest enemy”. Whenever you feel lazy about not finishing your chores, say to yourself ” I need to keep the house clean for myself and my family”, train your mind to think positively about household chores.

Fitness, exercise and healthy diet

Women should always strive to be healthy especially post birth – eat healthy and exercise. This will help you give the energy and stamina to cope with all chores, kids etc. Try to not eat ready made meals – look after yourself- eat nutritious food. Don’t think – that it’s just me – kids are gone to school so I don’t need to cook a nutritious meal . You should think of yourself too ! If you are a fit and healthy then you will be able to look after your family better.

Don’t look for perfection

In case you are inundated with chores,and your husband or partner offers to do dishes – accept it. I am sure most of us think ” if I don’t clean it, plates won’t feel clean”. If you get help take it. It is not easy staying at home looking after kids, cleaning the house and doing all the other countless chores. Acknowledge you are a human and treat yourself nice. If you think it appropriate advise the person /partner how you want the plates to be cleaned.

Focus on the solution, not on the problem

If you feel you are finding hard to cope with everything – split all chores individually and focus on how you can complete each one of them. If you look for a solution, you will find one! But if you keep thinking of all the problems you are facing – you will never see the end of it. A little change in mindset goes a long way. I have tried this myself and I have been very successful with it.

If you are or have been a stay at home mom, please share your tips in the comment box below. I would love to hear from you and it might help other moms too!

Regards

 

 

 

Top Toddler Toys – Must have toys for every child’s development

Most (healthy) toddlers are very active and it can be very draining on the parents to look after the toddler at home or keep them busy while they need to finishing household chores like cooking, washing up, laundry etc. There were some toys which I found useful when my kids were toddlers and therefore I would like to share what I feel are the top toddler toys. Hopefully it will keep your toddler engaged too. But remember that even though these toys keep them engaged – it is always a good idea to keep checking on them every few minutes.

Play gym or play nest

My daughter was very hyperactive toddler so I bought one of these to keep her busy. The play nest is a soft inflatable ring which provides the baby with a play environment and also makes the baby feel very secure. While the baby is seated inside it can also explore it’s multi sensory features (vision, touch and sound) on the fabric covering the ring or tube. From experience, it also encourages the baby to sit on their own. So you can use it to encourage them sitting on their own from around 8 months.

Product name:Galt Toys Farm Playnest

Where to buy : www.amazon.co.uk

For ages:0+

Price: £23.87

My rating:4/5

The gym doesn’t come with a pump but it is very easy to inflate it by blowing air in it.

Stacking rings or stacking cups

Babies just love this toy! It also teaches them which one is the smallest ring or cup and which one is the biggest. You can also teach them colours with the toys. Initially you would have to show them how to play. Give them each ring or cup in their hand (strengthens their grip) and make them place one on top of the other ! Then show them how to knock them down as well and this can be a lot of fun as well as good bonding! This toy encourages co-ordination too for the babies.  You can’t go wrong with this toy!

Product name: Fisher Price Stacking Rings

Where to buy : www.amazon.co.uk

For ages: 6+ months

Price: £8.90

My rating:5/5

Shape sorter

Another absolute “must have toy”! The shape sorter not only teaches the child co-ordination(putting the shape in the correct cavity) but also you can teach them shapes and colours. You can play with this countless number of times.

Product name: Mickey and Friends Shape Sorter Bus

Where to buy: www.amazon.co.uk

For ages:9+months

Price:£12.99

My rating 5/5

Mirror

Babies find looking at themselves very intriguing as well as amusing. You can use a baby mirror when the baby is lying on his tummy (tummy time). The mirror will keep them distracted during tummy time. By looking at the mirror they will become self-aware.

Product name: Fisher-Price Monkey Mirror

Where to buy: www.amazon.co.uk

For ages:0+

Price:£10.00

My rating :5/5

Bead activity

Bead activity cultivates hand-eye co-ordination logical thinking, fine motor skills colour recognition, imagination and thinking.

Product name: BATTOP Wooden Cube Activity

Where to buy: www.amazon.co.uk

For ages:6 months+(children under 3 years have to be supervised by an adult)

Price:£28.99

My rating :4.5/5

Hanging toys for strollers and car seats

You would need to put toys on the car seat,pram and cot which will keep your baby entertained while he/she is in the car seat. This cultivates hand-eye co-ordination when the baby reaches to pull the toys. The different textures and colours cultivates their senses of touch and vision.

Product name: Singring Activity Toy

Where to buy: www.amazon.co.uk

For ages:0+

Price:£13.99

My rating :4/5

Cot mobile

Motorised mobile toy which helps put baby to sleep. The toy comes with remote .You can restart the mobile without disturbing the baby. It also cultivates the senses of vision and sound.

Product name: Fisher Price 3-in-1 Projection Mobile

Where to buy: www.amazon.co.uk

For ages:0+

Price:£23.99

My rating :4/5

Pros

  • Babies love the light and the sounds and the motion of the toys
  • Helps to soothe the baby if not put her/him to sleep
  • Even during the daytime while the baby is awake, it is a good way to keep the baby busy/entertained in the cot while the mother or father need to finish a few chores
  • The mobile also has a remote control so you can restart it with the remote if you do not want to disturb your baby
  • The whole unit can be assembled and disassembled very easily and therefore if you do not want to use the hanging toys then you can just use the unit as a night light only
  • Cricket noise on the unit is very highly recommended
  • Good value for money

Cons

  • Make sure you fasten the unit securely to the cot as you do not want the unit falling on your baby
  • Batteries drain very fast both on the unit and on the remote
  • Teddy bears are not very nice looking
  • The stars do not move- if that is an issue for you
  • Motorised motion sometimes makes a loud noise

Baby walker

I am not personally very keen on walkers as I believe the baby has to learn naturally to start walking rather than make him/her start walking with the aid of a walker. I had bought this walker but only used the toy part of the walker. The toys on the walker are very good but parents have to get accustomed to hearing the same sounds or songs again and again and again!

Product name: VTech First Steps Baby Walker

Where to buy: www.amazon.co.uk

For ages:6 months+

Price:£37.99

My rating :4/5

Pros

  • Vtech is very well-known brand and has good quality products
  • Easy grip handle
  • Detachable activity panel which cultivates fine motor skills, hand-eye coordination. It also has rollers at the bottom which develop manipulative skills. Other features are shape sorters, barn door, lights and sounds and piano keys(do,re me, fa,so). Mobile phone included for more fun.
  • Your toddler may learn how to walk with the aid of the walker

Cons

  • Requires batteries. The ‘try me batteries’ included in the pack but sometimes they don’t work and you would have to put your own batteries
  • The wheels of the walker are made of plastic, so it’s best to use the walker on a carpeted surface. The walker might go too fast on a wooden floor and your child might not be able to keep up with it.
  • If you decide not to use the walker part and just use the activity panel, it would lead to wastage

Whenever you buy a toy for your baby keep in mind the following factors:

  • Is it worth the price?
  • Is the quality good- is it safe?
  • Do you really need it – sometimes 2 toys perform the same function even though they are called by different names
  • Will it teach my child something- is it educational?
  • What is the age range of the toy?

If you would like to share your experiences of any of the above toys please get in touch via the comments box, I would be happy to hear from you.

Goodluck shopping for toys!

 

Regards

 

 

 

 

Personal Hygiene for Children – How to reduce illnesses

Children have to be taught by parents about how to keep themselves and their surroundings clean. They would have to be trained and reminded again and again about it. But you might ask, exactly what are parents supposed to teach their children regarding hygiene? I have put together some tips which I think are important so as to observe personal hygiene for children. This will not only reduce chances of your children falling sick but will also keep them and you happy.

Hairwash twice a week

Wash your child’s hair at least twice a week. As children are more physically active than adults, they attend to sweat more during daytime especially if it’s summer. Clean hair will naturally tend to smell better but also washing hair frequently will reduce the chances of them having dandruff. Excessive sweating causes dandruff.

Don’t dig your nose

It might sound funny to you right now but it is very important for children to be taught not to dig their nose. Children have got a habit of putting their hands in their nose and mouth and you don’t want their “nose wastes” going in their mouth! Also, sometimes children might dig their nose so much that they might get a nose bleed.

Cover your mouth when you cough and sneeze

Children should be covering their nose and mouth while sneezing and coughing respectively preferably with a tissue. You might have to keep reminding the children about this a lot of times but repetition brings results. If one of your child has got a cough or cold you don’t want the other children or you getting it. In case, they sneeze it’s best to catch it in a tissue and than throw the tissue in the bin and than ask them to wash their hands. Also, if they have got a cold, children should be taught to wipe their nose on a tissue rather than wiping it off with the back of their hand.

Don’t put your hand in your mouth

As mentioned above , children put their hands in their mouth as a habit. My daughter keeps putting her hand in her mouth for reasons only known to her! I have keep reminding her not do that as I have no idea how many bacteria she has got on her hands !

Nails

In younger children, parents might have to cut their nails every 2 weeks and in older children maybe every 3-4 weeks depending on how fast they grow. A lot of bacteria get infested in the nails and this might go in the child’s body when they eat. If you have a baby or toddler, they might scratch themselves if their nails are too sharp!

Wash hands regularly

Washing hand regularly doesn’t let bacteria settle on our hands. Train children to wash their hands

  • When they come home from anywhere, school, park, extra activities
  • Thoroughly before and after meals
  • After they sneeze
  • After they have been to the toilet

Toilet Hygiene

Children should not only be trained to clean themselves properly after a wee or a poo, but also to flush the toilet and then wash their hands with soap and water before they touch anything. Also, toys shouldn’t be allowed in the toilet. If you have just potty trained them and they refuse to sit on the toilet for a poo, talk to them or read them a book. Don’t give them anything in their hands.

Prevent Body Odours – by bathing, showering daily

Parents would sometimes feel what is the need to give a bath to a baby every day , it’s not as if she is moving around that she will get dirty. I believe that at least within a day or two from when the child is born, he/she should be bathed- at least once a day. As your child gets older, you might need to bathe him twice a day in the summer, if he/she is very sweaty after coming from the school or the park or a football lesson. Children should be given clean clothes to wear every day. At night, clean their face, hands and feet and give them clean pyjamas to wear.

Hygiene in Cooking

Parents should also observe good hygiene while cooking food (using clean counter space, clean utensils especially chopping board ) and also serve on clean plates, bowls, spoon etc. If possible always feed your child freshly cooked food. 

Hygiene at home

Parents should train their children to clear their toys after playing from a very young age. When they are toddlers, parents can teach them how to pick their toys by pretending to play a game with them. For example, “let’s see who can pick the toys the fastest” or you(parent) put a toy in the toy box than you give your child a toy and tell her/him to put it in the toy box. Do this regularly to instill the importance of cleanliness. Parents should keep their home clean so that children ‘copy’ this from their children. As per one of my previous posts, Parenting Tips for Children, children always ‘copy’ their parents. If you want them to be clean, you should make sure you keep your home clean.

If your child is sick

If you observe all the above points, the probability of your child falling sick will be much lower. Viral infection picked up from school or nursery cannot be avoided completely. In case your child is sick, make sure you disinfect your home with appropriate child friendly sprays and disinfectant. Clean your home regularly to prevent spread of virus and bacteria.

If you feel I have left out anything or if you do things differently, please share it with me in the comment box below. I would love to hear from you!

Good luck!

Regards

 

 

 

 

 

 

Role of Grandparents in Your Child’s Life – Is your child being raised by their grandparent?

Is your child being raised by their grandparents? I am not talking of kinship carers, who look after their grandchildren legally as the parents are unable to do so due to reasons such as mental illness, drug and alcohol abuse etc.

I am talking about grandparents who help the parents in looking after their grandchildren if both parents are working full time and are unable to cope with looking after their child/children. What should be the role of grandparents in your child’s life? Should grandparents remain grandparents or should they become parents second time round?

Age of the grandparents

Age of grandparents will determine whether they will be able to look after their grandchildren or not. When I had my children, my parents and my in laws were in their 70s and 80s which would make it hard for them to run around children or handle their tantrums.

Health and Lifestyle

Health and lifestyle will determine the stamina of the grandparents. If grandparents are healthy and active mentally as well as physically, it would be definitely easier for them to pick kids from school, look after them until the parents can pick them up.

Important for grandparent to look after themselves

Most likely the grandparents would be at least 60+ age wise (unless both the grandparents and the parents have had children in their early twenties!) and it is imperative that they look after themselves. It is the duty of the parents to make sure that they don’t overburden the grandparents with looking after their children. Grandparents need to have regular meals (on time) as well as rest or attend their medical appointments. Parents should think about the well-being of the grandparents before leaving their toddlers or hyperactive children to be looked after by the grandparents for the entire day ,every day especially in the school holidays.

Grandparent not keeping well

If the grandparent is not keeping well and is the childminder for your child, make sure you make other arrangements for your child. If the grandparent is not feeling well and you insist on them looking after your child, not only will you jeopardise the health of the grandparent but also the well-being of your own child.

Don’t Overburden the grandparent

Please bear in mind the age of the grandparent before asking them to help you with your child. Don’t give them multiple tasks to do in one go. If you need help, ask for one thing at a time and see how they cope with it and then ask them for more favours. If you feel they are struggling then reduce the amount of things they do for your child by either doing it yourself or getting a child minder/other help to do it.

Disciplining the Child

Parents shouldn’t expect grandparents to discipline their child. Discplining the child is the responsibility of the parent not the grandparents. Also, the grandparents have already gone through the process of raising and disciplining their own children and it would be harder for them to do it all over again.

Grandparents will do things their way

If you as a parent want the grandparent to look after your child, bear in mind that they will look after the child in their own way. As such they are doing the parents a favour by looking after the child, and it should be their prerogative on how your child is to be looked after. If that is not acceptable to the parent, it’s best for the parent to look after the child themselves or get professional help of a childminder/nanny. After all, a grandparent is not a hired help!

Spending time together

A grandparent should be able to spend quality time with their grandchildren. Only then their relationship can blossom. If the parents overburden the grandparents with chores for their children, grandparent will have not time to rest or spend with their grandchildren. They might become resentful or angry at being overburdened and may not be able to give their relationship with the children what it needs!

It’s not all about money

Finally, keep in mind that saving money on the childminder is not the only thing you should be focusing on. You should also consider the well-being of the grandparent and your child.

Grandparents are only for support

It has to be kept in mind that grandparents are only there to give support to parents for raising the child. They shouldn’t be given full responsibility of raising the child.  Grandparents can teach values or family and cultural traditions to their grandchildren. They can provide support to the parents by doing the occasional pickups or helping them with their homework.

It’s fine for parents to ask grandparents to help them with their child occasionally but if you do it every day , grandparents will get tired, angry and frustrated with the level of work. At that age they won’t be able to cope with the child as well as a parent can. If grandparents want to do their own thing, parents should make their own arrangements for their child so that the grandparents can enjoy their retirement as well as get a break from looking after the grandchildren.

What are your views about role of grandparents? Do you depend on the grandparents to look after your child? Please put your comments in the box below, I would love to hear from you!

Regards

 

 

 

Kids Too Busy To Be Kids – Do You Want Them To Grow Fast?

Are your weekends busy dropping and picking your child from back-to-back extra activities? Does your child attend more activities than they can handle in a week ? Are your kids too busy to be kids?

So what could be the reason for children attending too many extra activities? I can think of a few:

  • Parents are too busy to look after their kids and extra activities are a good way to keep the kids out of their hair
  • Competitive parents feel that they should put the kids in a lot of activities to keep their child ‘ahead’ of other children
  • Parents might think that enrolling their child in lot of activities is a status symbol
  • Parents might feel that if their child enjoys one activity then he/she should be put in even more activities
  • Maybe parents with a single child would not know how to keep their child busy and therefore put them in extra activities in order to keep them busy
  • Parents of hyperactive kids might feel that kids should be kept busy to keep them out of trouble.
  • Some parents might feel putting kids in a lot of activities might make their child more equipped when he/she grows up to get into college or a job or earn a livelihood
  • Kids might want to join activities just because their best friend is doing it

So is it a good idea to keep your kids too busy? What would be effects of keeping kids too busy?

Keeps the kids out of trouble

If kids are busy they will stay out of trouble. Especially hyperactive kids .

Kids can spend all their excess energy

Parents cannot match their kids’s energy levels. Especially if you have got more than one hyperactive kid, you would want to keep them busy to stop them from fighting or doing mischief and stop you from pulling your hair out!

Kids will learn a lot of things

Kids will learn different skills if they are going to a lot of extra activities like drama, sports, classical dances,musical instruments, arts and craft etc. If your child is good at a particular activity, it might help him get admission in a college.

Too Tiring

Too many activities will make the child very tired. They might not have any time to relax at home. Children also need relaxation – more than adults .

Imaginative play is very restricted at home

When children play at home they do a lot of imaginative play activities which will develop their brain. Just like adults children feel most relaxed in their own home.

Kids might feel too pressurised

If a child is doing to too many extra activities they might feel too pressurised and this might affect their health and happiness. It is logical that children who are happy and relaxed achieve more than children who stressed and always on the go.

No time to relax for parents

If you put your children for too many activities, you might not have anytime to relax or any ‘me’ time. I feel it is important for parents to have some space of their own, and to relax without doing any parental activity.

Less Family Time

As per my previous post, Why is Family Time So Important, I have outlined the importance of family time. If your child is going for back-to-back activities in the weekend, there will be no time left to spend together as a family. There will no time to go to the park for a family stroll ! Your child will be tired and so will you !

Kids might become too independent

The more kids stay away from their parents, the faster they will grow up. Kids involved in to many activities might be wise beyond their age

Your child’s homework or schoolwork might suffer

When you book yours and your child’s time for an extra activity- ask yourself this question ‘is there enough time for homework?’ If they are already doing a lot of activities, monitor their school work – are the activities affecting their performance in school? School and studies should come first . Reduce their activities if you feel that their studies are getting affected.

Finances

Too many extra activities are going to take toll on your finances too especially if you have got more than 1 child.

Child might feel insecure

Since you (parents) are spending less time with your child/children, they would feel that my mum and dad don’t have any time for me and therefore they might insecure and unwanted.

I believe a few activities are necessary for the development of the child, but anything more than 3 – 4 activities is going to tire the child especially if they are under 10. There are other ways to keep your child busy like:

  • Parents can play with their children to keep them busy
  • Let the children be children and play in the garden or in the park as often as possible(weather permitting)
  • Let children have their me time at home – encourage them to play at home with their siblings or invite their friend over for a play date

What are your views on this? Do you keep your kids busy with a lot of activities or do you believe that kids should be spending time at home as well? Put your comments in the comment box, I would love to hear from you!

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Stay at Home Mom Business Ideas – Earn While You Are At Home

I am a stay at home Mom and when I had my first child I found it very difficult to go back to work (high childcare costs, desire to do everything for her myself etc.) and after my second child, it was impossible. But staying at home with your children brings its own challenges like lack of mental stimulation, boredom , financial issues etc. Therefore I would like to share some stay at home mom business ideas for those mothers who want to stay at home with their children and also earn an income on the side.

Are you creative person?

If you are a creative person and have got a skill or talent – maybe you are skilled at making jewelry or personalising handbags or making glass sculptures – you can sell it on a website called Etsy. You would have your own shop on Etsy to sell your products. Etsy would charge you a commission of 3.5% when you sell something plus a minimal amount as listing charges. Keep in mind that your products have to be handmade by you or designed by you. You cannot resell an item on Etsy.

Do you have a lot of unwanted items at home?

Go to each and every room of your home. Collect all things which you which are of no use to you- books (children as well adult), baby monitors you longer need, baby cot, toys (in good condition) , board games, children’s superhero or princess costumes etc. List them on Amazon or Ebay and sell them.

Continuing to Sell

Once you have completed the above step, you can continue your business by buying from Ebay and selling it on Amazon as Ebay items tend to be cheaper than Amazon. Make sure that before you buy anything from Ebay for purpose of reselling you check the prices on Amazon. Start small – buy few items at a time. Your goal should be making a profit and that too within few days otherwise your cash will be blocked.

Selling on Ebay

You can buy products from discounted stores or buy products which are going to be discontinued soon and sell them on Ebay. Again, make sure before you buy the products ,you know at what price they are selling for on Ebay otherwise you might either incur a loss.

Other Options for Selling

If you become good at buying things and selling them on Amazon you can even consider importing from other countries like India and China on a wholesale basis and sell them on Amazon. They are various training courses available on internet on how to source products and how to sell on Amazon .

Become a Blogger

You can also become a blogger like me- share your experiences and opinions. You can do this in 2 ways:

  • Ghost write blogs for others  for a fee
  • Write blogs on your own website and thereby promote products and services and earn commission. This is called Affiliate Marketing.

 

Writing an e Book

If you are good at writing or have ever aspired to become a writer, you don’t need a big and expensive publishing company to publish your book. You can write your e book and list it on Amazon at a very minimal cost. e books have more exposure than printed books. They are also cheaper to buy than printed books. You can sell your book in a kindle version too which enables people to download on their kindle.

Fiverr

Fiverr is the largest online marketplace for freelance services at a very reasonable cost . You can either buy services on it or if you can provide some services yourself like graphics and design, writing and animation, you can become a seller on it and earn money!

Write Product Reviews

You can get paid for writing product reviews on Amazon. But you have to use the product and give an honest and detailed review of the product.

Online Surveys

Many companies pay you a minimal amount for completing their online surveys. Be warned the surveys are long, tedious and very time-consuming.

Be a Virtual Assistant

You don’t have to sit in an office every day to be somebody’s personal assistant. You can do same thing virtually from the comforts of your home by becoming a Virtual Assistant. There are a few websites which will help you get work.

Offline ideas

Here are some offline ideas –

  • You can sell your skill or talents to your child’s school too. For example if you are a good photographer, you can advertise photgraphing children or families at school fairs for a fee (with permission from the school) and other events like sports day or you can provide photographic coverage to parents for their child’s birthday party, for example.
  • If you are good at creating websites- you can go from shop to shop on the high street and offer them to set their website up .
  • Bookkeeping- if you have a got a head for numbers and basic knowledge of bookkeeping, you can offer bookkeeping services to small businesses like barbers, plumbers,gardeners,electricians etc.
  • Mortgage Advice- you can become a mortgage adviser and advice from home – but you will have to pass exams for it
  • Work from home Secretary- You can offer secretarial services from home if you have got experience as a secretary previously.

None of the above is a quick rich scheme. But with focus, perseverance and hardwork , you will be successful even though you are working from home and looking after your children. If you are a stay at home Mom and would like to share your business ideas or some tips or strategies for running a business please put them in the comment box. It would be a great help to all mothers who are looking to start their own business!

Regards