Moms Time Out! – Do What You Enjoy!

You have probably heard this a countless number of times! “Take time out”, do something you enjoy and before you go away from my post, I would like to tell you that I didn’t believe in this or understand this until a couple of years ago ! I have been told again and again and again by the family to take time out, and I was just as bored as you are, listening to me saying the same thing! What is Moms time out ?

Doing something of your own, on your own .. without hubby and kids!

Go out of the house!

Choose a hobby or an activity which will take you out of the house. This is very important because you need to change your environment. Playing a computer game at home cannot be considered time out !

Choose a hobby or an activity

If your friends are busy or you do not have any friends, enrol in a fitness class or a hobby club. If you choose a fitness club like Yoga or Pilates or Zumba, you will get the exercise too ! Exercise will also drive the boredom out of you. This is especially important for new mums, who are on maternity break from work to look after their baby.

It is very hard to adjust from being a working person to be a stay-at-home mom. Exercise will give you some stimulation as well as help you reduce post birth weight!

Be Disciplined

It is easy to enrol for some class and then not go for few lessons either because you are too tired or your child is sick. Try to get someone to look after your child maybe your partner while you got for your class. Don’t feel guilty about it! Remember mothers are humans too and they need a break too from looking after their children.

Don’t forget the more lessons you miss , the more money you will waste!

Think of yourself too

You might give an excuse, like I can’t afford it or I don’t have the energy or I have no one to look after my baby, then you need to learn to think of yourself. This is one of the biggest mistakes I have made since I became a mother.

I have been a mother for nearly 8 years and since last few months, I have really started to think for myself. It is hard and I keep going back to my old habit but I push myself to think for me. I am not saying that you become totally selfish and not think of your child or your family at all.

But it is ok to do somethings for yourself – I cannot forget that I am Priya first and a mother or a wife afterwards. If you do something for yourself, do not feel guilty.

Visit to the Cinema

Just to have some time out from kids and cooking and cleaning, I just go to the cinema and watch a movie on my own! It is a good way to spend time on your own! Don’t depend on or wait for anyone to go to the movies with you!

Go out with friends

Get your partner to look after your child and have a night out with your friends! It is easy to start talking about your kids all the time but reduce children talk for a little while at least.

Spend time with your spouse

From my previous post, how to keep your marriage strong after kids, it is imperative you spend time with your spouse without the children. If you can get someone to look after your kids, you and your spouse can go for out dinner. You not only get to spend quality time with each other, but also it will be time out for you!

Everybody needs to have fun in life

Everybody should have fun in life. That’s what life is about. Do not put yourself down by not thinking of your own happiness. Everybody needs a break from time to time. Do not be hard on yourself. You do not have to clean everything or wash all the clothes in one day. Motherhood should not stop you from having fun.

Make your life normal as much as possible

The first year is very crucial and hard for a mother. After the first year, try to bring normalcy in your life. Think of yourself at times. Try to make your life as much as you can as it was before you had the baby. The longer you leave the harder it will get, to find yourself again after childbirth.

Re- discover your identity

It is very easy to just think of the child or do things for the child or children all the time. Do something for yourself. For example if you were a career woman before you had children but now are unable or would not like to go to work, then do something of your own from home. Please see my previous post on stay at home mom business ideas here.

Conclusion

It took me a long time to figure out all the above after I had children. Therefore, if you are expecting your first child or just had a child, make sure you do the above. I would like it very much if you were to gain from my experience!

Would you like to share your thoughts on moms taking time out? Is it hard for you to take time out? Do you take time out frequently? Do you think of yourself at all? Share your thoughts via comment box below.

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Best Way To Lose Weight After Pregnancy -How Do You Do It?

Every mother including you and me are in a rush to lose weight after pregnancy and childbirth. Your body doesn’t feel yours anymore! Your stomach feels like a huge balloon that has started deflating ! Even though you feel blessed with your baby, you do wish your body would go back to the way it was before you conceived! Let me warn that is never going to happen- at least not totally. But you can lose majority of your weight. So what is the best way to lose weight after pregnancy?

Breastfeeding

Breast is the best, for both mother and child. After giving birth, I was so disappointed when I saw that my bump had reduced so marginally .. I almost thought there is another baby inside me! Once I started breastfeeding, my bump (post birth) started reducing so quickly and so did my overall body weight ! Breastfeeding is the best way to lose weight immediately after child birth .

You need to give your body time to recover

All of us mothers are always in a rush to lose weight after having kids, maybe to rediscover our own identity ! Don’t forget that having had a baby growing inside you and then going through childbirth is very traumatic for the mothers body. A big part of the nutrients are taken by the baby and you also lose a lot during childbirth.

Importance of eating a healthy diet post child birth

After childbirth, a mothers body literally falls apart. Therefore, it is important to eat lot of fruits and vegetables everyday(five a day) . Also, omega-3 is an important nutrient during pregnancy and after childbirth. It is important to keep yourself hydrated (water is preferable to juices and fizzy drinks).

Do not diet

Do not diet, if you have just given birth. In fact, do not diet at all. If you are breastfeeding make sure you have a balanced diet and drink lots of water .

Don’t be too hard on yourself

It is normal to put on weight after pregnancy, even as much as 15 kilograms. Lose the weight slowly and steadily. When you stop breastfeeding, keep a note of how much you are eating. It is very easy to fall into a habit of eating too much after you stop breastfeeding. Stop eating when your stomach is full- listen to the signs when your stomach says “stop eating”!

Daily routine

Running around and tending to your child’s needs or doing cooking, cleaning or laundry will automatically bring down your weight. Keep your body moving as much as you can . In the summer holidays, I used to take my children scootering, they scooter, I jog or brisk walk. If the weather is dry and warm, you can do it every day- that will burn a lot of calories. So entertainment for kids and exercise for you (mother)! Fresh air is a bonus!

Smoothies

I also make vegetable juices, which helps losing weight. Do not put any fruit. If you have to put fruit, put a very minimal amount. The sugar in the fruit does not help with the weight loss. You can use a smoothie maker like Nutribullet. See my review of Nutribullet 600 and get your 5 a day in minutes!

Exercises

Exercise as soon as you feel your body is ready. Cesarean section takes 6 weeks healing time and you cannot do intensive exercises or swimming for 6 months after birth. 

Choose a form exercise that you feel you can continue in the long run. For example if you start doing very intensive workouts and lose tons of weight in a short span of time, the moment you stop doing the workouts, you will start putting the weight back on!

I started with brisk walks to lose weight, and I did lose a lot of weight including belly fat. Now I have moved on to yoga, to reduce belly fat further.

So the important factor here is to lose weight gradually. After you reach your desired level of weight, you still need to do some form of exercise every day .

It will require determination and will power

It is never easy to lose weight especially not after pregnancy, the later you leave it, the harder it will get. It will be easier to follow a routine of exercise after your youngest child starts school. If you persevere, follow a balanced diet and keep yourself hydrated(with water) you should see results.

Conclusion

Enjoy the time with your baby/child. Don’t feel guilty every time you eat. Work hard towards losing weight. Avoid junk food as much as you can!

What are your experiences with losing weight after child birth ? How did you lose the weight? If you would like to share your tips or experiences, share via comment box below. I would love to hear from you !

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Do Our Kids Have Too Much Homework- Is this a Concern for Parents of Primary School Kids?

Both my kids are in primary school and sometimes I feel so stressed and pressurised to finish all their spellings, home learning, times table etc, etc. It is also imperative that they do daily reading. How can a parent manage this every week with more than one child some of which I feel is quite unnecessary.  Then I ask myself “do our kids have too much homework? Is this home work necessary?”

Should Homework be given at all?

Some parents believe that their kids should be given tons of homework. They believe that a school can be considered “good” only if they give lots of homework every single day! Others believe that kids shouldn’t be given any homework at all in the primary school !

According to an article in the Telegraph by Olivia Goldhill, a primary school in New York stopped all homework assignments. But this didn’t go down very well with the parents, they didn’t take it positively .

Homework, a proof of study for the school?

Are the schools trying to prove to the parents how much they make the children study through the homework? For example, when my child comes home with her maths homework, I can see what she has learnt in maths that week and when she does her homework I can see how much knowledge she has gained on a particular topic or whether she has understood the concept/topic at all or not.

So even if the schools are trying to provide proof or reassurance to parents who love homework, homework actually helps  parents to know how much their child has understood a particular topic.

A form of communication

Through the above example, the school and parent and communicate with each other, in what topics is the child weak in? Which one is he/she good at? Which topic requires more practice or a better understanding?

Homework done by parent or child?

With homework, there is always the chance that the parent simply cannot be bothered to sit down with the child and make them do their homework. In order to save time they might just do the homework themselves and thus the purpose of homework is completely defeated.

As per my previous post , parents helping with homework, I have outlined why homework needs to be completed by the child and not the parent.

Quantity over quality

The issue for me is quantity of homework. Spellings , maths every week and home learning coming in every 2 weeks ! My daughter gets times table test every week too so that has to be learnt as well. She gets spellings which she doesn’t know the meaning of . The school should give spellings only of words the children are likely or expected to use at their age – words of which they would understand the meaning of.

Pressure on teachers to mark the homework?

Do teachers actually get time to mark all this homework? How would the teacher know if the homework has been done by the child or parent? If the homework is beyond the capacity of the child, most parents would be tempted to do the homework themselves!

Reading

Reading should be encouraged among primary school kids but they shouldn’t be given unreasonable number of books to read in order to get an award or appreciation from the school.

Mug up spellings and times tables

Complex spellings and times tables are given every week. So in case they do not know the meaning of the word, they just have to learn it without really understanding what it means. What is the point of this kind of education? Similarly, for times tables. , barely they have been able to understand the concept of multiplication, to expect them to know their times tables is too much !

As per an article on the BBC News website dated March 2012, the government guidelines for homework have been scrapped which means that the head of the school can decide how much homework should be given.The article also included something of interest to me, which is below:

Conclusion

Homework is necessary to consolidate the child’s learning but it should not pressurise or stress the children and the parents. Quality learning over quantity. Children should be allowed to enjoy their childhood too. Schools should keep in mind what is average level of the children before setting the homework.

Giving large amounts of complicated homework to young children, undermines their confidence. Also, it serves no purpose if the parents do the homework on their children’s behalf.

What are your thoughts on primary school kids getting too much homework? Or kids getting homework way beyond their capacity or understanding? Shouldn’t we let kids be kids? Share via comment box below.

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Kids Scooter Reviews – Which one is The Best?

With my two kids scooters have been very useful. Not only do they provide exercise and entertainment to my kids but also when we go to places where there is a lot of walking to do like parks, sightseeing etc. the scooter is handy. When the kids get tired of walking they just stand on the scooters and we push them along. To help you decide, I have put together kids scooter reviews as I believe scooters need to have the following:

  • Quality
  • Reasonable price
  • Silent that is no clattering or rattling noise
  • Durable

Always make sure your child is wearing a helmet when she/he is riding his scooter!

For those who not know what a lean to steer feature means : you can turn or steer the scooter simply by leaning on the side you want to turn. For example : if you want to turn the scooter to the right lean the handlebar on the right side. This feature not only makes it easy for the child to manoeuvre but if your child is tired of scootering and you are pushing her/him on the scooter, you will find it easy to manoeuvre the scooter too!

Y-Volution Y Glider Deluxe Complete Scooter(3 wheeled scooter)

Product Name: Y-Volution Y Glider Deluxe Scooter

Where to buy: Skatehut.Co.UK

Price: £39.99

Age: 3years+

Maximum weight: 20 kgs (weight of child)

My rating:4.5/5

Other features/Pros:

  • Ideal starter scooter for younger children.
  • Lean to steer feature which makes it easier for children to steer the scooter.
  • Good for developing balance, co-ordination and motor skills.
  • Lightweight for increased mobility.
  • Cushioned hand grip for smooth and easy ride.
  • Wide rubber deck with anti slip feature.
  • Large rear brake for real stopping power and control.
  • Good quality sturdy scooter.
  • Available in variety of colours and designs.

Cons

  • Slightly expensive.
  • Maximum rider weight is 20 kgs. So if your child is between 4 years+ , your child will outgrow the scooter soon.

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Kiddimoto U-Zoom – Pastel Dotty Kids Complete Scooter – Pink/Multi(3 wheeled scooter)

Product Name: Kiddimoto U-Zoom- Pastel Dotty Kids

Where to buy: Skatehut.Co.UK

Price: £39.99

Age: 3 years+

Maximum weight: 20 kgs(weight of child)

My rating:4/5

Other features/Pros:

  • Foldable Aluminium stem therefore easy to store and carry especially in a car boot!
  • Adjustable stem height.
  • LED Wheels which light up when in motion.
  • Rubber tyres- so no clattering noise!
  • Nice spotty design – girls will love it!
  • Plastic footplate with a coarse grip so that the child does not slip.
  • Easy lean steering therefore easy to manoeuvre and turn.
  • Rear foot brake.
  • Sturdy scooter.
  • Available in other colours and designs.

Cons

  • Some people find it hard to fold this scooter.
  • Slightly overpriced.

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Mini Micro Deluxe Scooter(The original 3 wheel scooter)

Product Name: Mini Micro Deluxe Scooter

Where to buy: Amazon.Co.UK

Price: £80.89

Age: 3 -5 years

Maximum weight: 20 kgs(weight of child)

My rating:4.5/5

Other features/Pros:

  • The original award-winning classic design that started the scooter revolution.
  • Lightweight allowing easy manoeuvring.
  • Swiss designed and engineered- very well constructed, solid and safe!
  • Easy steering due to lean and steer feature.
  • High quality rubber wheels which are easy to wipe clean .
  • Back brake to stop or slow down scooter smoothly.
  • Sturdy and robust and can be passed on to younger siblings.
  • It can be used in all weathers.
  • Available in blue, aqua, green and pink

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Cons

  • Expensive but worth every penny. Due to its superior quality, it can be passed on to siblings , making this cost worthwhile.

Maxi Micro Scooter(The original 3 wheel scooter)

Product Name: Maxi Micro Scooter

Where to buy: Amazon.Co.UK

Price: £119.95

Age: 6-12 years

Maximum weight: 50 kgs(weight of child)

My rating:4.5/5

Other features/Pros:

  • The original award-winning classic design that started the scooter revolution.
  • Lightweight allowing easy manoeuvring.
  • Swiss designed and engineered- very well constructed, solid and safe!
  • Easy steering due to lean and steer feature.
  • High quality rubber wheels which are easy to wipe clean .
  • Back brake to stop or slow down scooter smoothly.
  • Sturdy and robust and can be passed on to younger siblings
  • It can be used in all weathers.
  • Available in a variety of colours.

 

Cons

  • Expensive but worth every penny. Due to its superior quality, it can be passed on to siblings , making this cost worthwhile.

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Maxi Micro Scooter is the next scooter up from Mini Micro Deluxe Scooter .

Although Maxi Micro Scooter and Mini Micro Scooter are expensive but they are built to last. My kids use the Maxi Micro scooter(as per their age) and we haven’t been disappointed.

Conclusion

If you are looking to buy a scooter for your child, make a decision based on your budget for the scooter. If you buy cheap ones (the cheapest on market is around £20.00) , they would need to be replaced within a year. Another thing you need to keep in mind is the maximum weight of the rider. If your child’s weight is close to the maximum weight, your child would outgrow the scooter soon.

Are you looking to buy a scooter for your child? Or does your child like scootering? Where does he/she scooter? Share your experiences via comment box below.

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Moms Breastfeeding in Public – Yes or No?

Moms breastfeeding in public is considered to be a taboo by some. Mothers exposing their breasts is considered a shameful thing by others. Some mothers feel embarrassed to expose their breasts in a public place. When I used to breastfeed my children, I realised that there are so many places which do not have a lactation room or a nursing area !

Even though medical professionals encourage breastfeeding our society doesn’t accept mothers breastfeeding in the public fully. Does that mean that the society thinks that breastfeeding mothers should stay at home the whole time the baby is breastfeeding ? Many a times mothers breastfeeding in public have been asked to cover up!

Peeping Toms

A bottle-fed baby can drink their milk in the public but a breastfed baby cannot. The way around this is cover yourself with a blanket, so your breasts aren’t exposed. I have breastfed my kids in the car and used the muslin to cover myself. My husband also stood in front of the car to prevent people from peeping inside!

But that didn’t deter people from looking – and it wasn’t a glance. They knew I was nursing my baby- all the more reason to look- women included -which I think was quite disgusting ! Breastfeeding is a very natural thing yet people keep staring at the mother and the baby and make them feel uncomfortable!

UK Laws on Breastfeeding in public

Breastfeeding in public is supported by the government in the UK. Have a look at a snapshot taken from the website https://www.theukrules.co.uk

Some women find it embarrassing to breastfeed in public

Some women find it embarrassing to breastfeed in public. It could be because they are not sure if, by law they are allowed to breastfeed in public or they feel that people will look if they breastfeed in public. I have noticed that though people feel that breastfeeding is a natural thing and that a baby should be breastfed, they feel uncomfortable if a woman is breastfeeding in a public place!

According to the website, www.gov.uk, more than third of the women shy away from breastfeeding in public and 1 in 5 feels that other people do not want them to breastfeed in public.

Some women might think that breastfeeding is a private thing

Some women, might feel that breastfeeding should only be done in private as it is a bonding time between mum and the baby or they might feel embarrassed to breastfeed their baby in the presence of their male relatives for example fathers or father-in-law or brother in laws.

Breastfeeding for working Women

Employers do not have to provide time off for breastfeeding. So some employers might feels that a woman is wasting Company time breastfeeding ! Unless the women express the milk earlier and store it in a fridge- and then the baby is bottle-fed by the nanny or whoever is looking after the baby.

Therefore, working women might feel discouraged to breastfeed if their employer doesn’t provide them with flexible hours.

There are special covers available for breastfeeding and nursing tops

There are special breastfeeding covers available for breastfeeding with a nice floral print with which you can cover yourself. Have a look at these covers here. But some people would still figure out that you are breastfeeding. Also, there are nursing tops available which might make it easier for you to breastfeed in private or public. You won’t have to remove your top and bra every time you breastfeed you baby. In case, you use a breastfeeding cover,make sure you take it with you every time you go out with your baby.

“Do not stop breastfeeding just so you can go out more often. Breastfeeding in public is your right as a mother”

If you haven’t breastfed before

If you are expecting your first child or have never breastfed before, there are drop-in breastfeeding clinics available (in the UK) , this will give you a good practice to breastfeed outside of your home. Even if you are experiencing difficulties breastfeeding your child, you can get help from the midwives and health visitors in the clinic.

Plan Ahead

When I had my babies, I always used to try to go out between feed times to avoid breastfeeding in public(as I used to feel embarrassed to do so) . Also, if it wasn’t possible to go in between feed times and my baby was awake, I would put her/him on my breast in case they wanted to be fed. It is best to plan ahead whenever you want to go out.

The first few trips

After the birth of you baby, when you go out of the house for the first few times, take someone with you like your partner or your mother while you are still learning how to handle your baby as well as breastfeed him/her. It will take practice if you live in a cold country and have a winter baby like I did. Then you would have to peel of all the layers over yourself and your baby before the baby can be put on the breast.

With practice it will become very easy for both of you,you and your baby.

What are you views on breastfeeding in public? Have you ever breastfed in public? What has you experience been ? Please share via comment box below.

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Smoking is Injurious To Health – Of Smokers children!

Couple of days ago, I was sitting in a coffee house with a friend and I saw through the window 2 lovely children (baby of few months and the other about 3 years old), outside the coffee house sitting in the stroller with their Mum standing next to them.Within few minutes, she pulled out a cigarette and started smoking, the smoke was all over the children. Perhaps nobody told the mother, Smoking is injurious to health! I also noticed that the cigarette smoke was irritating the baby’s eyes but the mother was totally oblivious to the whole thing ! How selfish and inconsiderate!

Are smoking parents unaware of the danger or are they just plain selfish?

Should I mind my own business?

I know I should mind my own business and not tell parents not to smoke, as it is their life. But what about the budding life of their children ! Some doctors class passive smoking as child abuse. Why should babies and children be subjected to secondhand smoke? Shouldn’t there be some law for this?

We all know that cigarette smoke is cancerous

Second hand smoke causes a lot of damage to health, we all know that. So why should you subject your child to this danger? Cigarette smoke not only causes cancer but also causes health issues in children later in life. It can also cause asthma and pneumonia in children.

Smokers who claim that cigarette smoke is not dangerous

There are a lot of smokers who claim that everything the medical experts or government agencies say about the dangers of a cigarette smoke are just made up things, you are just trying to find excuses so that you don’t have to give up smoking. But at least don’t smoke for your children’s sake!

“Children of smokers are up to four times more likely to get heart disease later in life” 

source: Dailymail.co.uk

Parents are responsible for shaping the life of their children

If a child is always surrounded by smoke all the time, it is going to affect their mental and physical health. As per my previous post,Should parents be allowed to spank their children, parents are chosen by the universe to shape the lives of their children, they cannot not do this by harming their health .

I can sympathise with those smoking parents who have inherited this habit from their parents. But you cannot repeat the mistakes of your parents. You should be correcting them!

Children always copy their parents

Children always look upon their parents as their role models. They copy everything the parents do- good or bad. Therefore, children of smokers are most likely to be smokers, even if you limit their exposure to smoke! Smoking out of car window or outside the house is also not good enough! Smoke travels back in to the house or car ! It will also cling to your clothes and linger in your breath!

Mental health of the child

When parents smoke, they teach their children how to escape from all their fears and stresses by smoking rather than being brave and facing their fears! Smokers teach their children how to become a smoking addict ! This is not an ideal upbringing !

‘I do not smoke in front of my children’

If you say the above, then I would like to tell you that according to the experts, it best not to smoke at all, not even when your kids are not around, only then your children will be able to lead a healthy life.

Are you smoking because of peer pressure?

Did you start smoking because your parents smoke? or did a friend introduce you to smoking? Even if you did, it is never too late to stop. Think of your children now!

Cancer can strike anytime

Smokers , beware! Cancer doesn’t see what your age is or how many children you have  or how young your children are . If you want to see your children grow up, it is best to stop smoking . Smoking is cancerous and this is a proven fact!

How can you correct this situation

  • Accept that smoking is wrong thing to do as a parent.
  • If you are chain smoker or are unable to stop smoking, get professional help to stop smoking. Remember, the will to stop smoking has to come from within.
  • You have to remind yourself again and again that passive smoking is harmful to your children and that’s why you need to quit smoking.
  • If you have got relatives who smoke like grandparents, uncles or aunts- ask them not to smoke around your children. As a parent you are responsible for the safety and security of your child.

It is absolutely infuriating when you walk on the street with your child and cigarette smoke of all the smokers around envelopes you and your child! Smokers should have the moral and social responsibility of not smoking in public places which are frequented by families and kids! I also feel that smokers are selfish in nature that by smoking they put the lives of other people in danger ! If smokers are not worried about their own health, then that’s their business but they have no right to put others lives in danger especially young and innocent children and babies!

Are you a parent who smokes? Have you got any relatives who smoke around your children? Do you think that passive smoking is child abuse? Please comment via comment box below, I would love to hear from you .

Meanwhile, stay safe and away from cigarette smoke!

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How to Afford to Be a Stay- At-Home Mom – Become Self-Employed

Many stay-at-home moms are often faced with the dilemma that how do you make ends meet with one salary(husband’s salary) and look after the children. If you decide to go to work, you will have to factor in the childcare costs. You would be hardly left with any money after taxes and childcare. Looking after children is especially hard during the school holidays. I tried to go back to work but nothing worked out – the job, the money, the homework ! So how to afford to be a stay-at-home mom and also be financially independent ?

Why is important for mothers to be financially independent?

  • Create your own identity after motherhood. Mothers always think of their children first. Mothers will be happier and able to look after their children, if they think of their own needs too.
  • Increases your confidence- if you are earning money you will be naturally more confident.
  • In case your spouse is unable to provide for you or your children due to any unforeseen circumstances – you are able to provide for the family.
  • Extra money always helps- we all know that.
  • Your children will not take you for granted and will respect you.

Part time jobs

Unfortunately, part-time jobs are not easily available and you would still have to think of childcare during the school holidays unless you can find a job where you can work from home which might or might not be of interest to you.

Have you got any hobbies?

In case you have got any hobbies or any skill that you are good at, why not turn that into your own business? You can run your business from home which would reduce your overheads. As mentioned in one of my previous posts, stay-at-home-mom business ideas -earn while you are at home, you can sell on a website called Etsy, if you have made the product yourself.

If you don’t have any hobbies

I fall under this category. Yes, that’s right – I am not a very creative person and I don’t have any hobbies with which I could earn money! Therefore, I decided to become an Affiliate Marketer and I started blogging and to my surprise, I really love my work. To become successful it is very important to enjoy the work you do!

The path to self -employment is not easy

The path to self employment is not easy but if you work hard the rewards can be more than double your salary. It is important that you are:

  • disciplined
  • dedicated
  • hardworking
  • have a goal or a plan in mind

As I mentioned above do something you enjoy !

During the school holidays

During the school holidays, if you struggle to do your work refer to my previous post on how to work from home with kids. Also tell your children about your work if they are old enough to understand. Explain to them that you are working from home so that you can look after them.

 

Start Early

Start early- preferably few months after birth of your child. You will have to give time to the business before it starts making money. I know it will be hard when you have a baby to take care of, you can work when your baby is asleep, and ask your partner to help look after the baby. Even if your child is older, it is never too late to become self-employed. Bear in mind the benefits of self-employment :

  • Work at your own convenience.
  • No need to apply for annual leave during school holidays or when your child is sick.
  • Whatever you earn is yours.
  • You are not answerable to anyone.

In short,

You are your own boss!

Motivation

If you are planning to be self- employed or have just become self-employed, you would have to continuously motivate yourself to move further. Don’t be discouraged by failures. Treat failure as an experience. Believe in yourself and in your goals. I watch motivational videos on You Tube to motivate myself.

Training and Support

If you are doing something completely new, it would be a good idea to get some training and support. For example, I didn’t have a clue about affiliate marketing so I joined Wealthy Affiliate which not only provides excellent step-by-step training but also gives community support. Best of all, you work at your own convenience and at your own pace.

You are on your own

Some people do feel apprehensive about being self employed as you are on your own but being alone comes with the territory. If you feel lonely , then you can also go for some networking events where you can meet people who do similar work as you.

Have you had any experiences of being self employed? What are the positive things about self employment?  What are the aspects you do not like about self employment? Share via comment box below.

 

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Parents Arguing In Front of Children – What Are The Effects?

Have you ever argued in front of children? Are you feeling guilty about it ? Or has it become a habit now that you do not realise when you both start arguing in front of them ! You can always bring changes in your life and reduce the arguments. But before you do this, read below the effects of parents arguing in front of children.

Effects

  • According to the experts, children who witness their parents arguing on a regular basis, are at a risk of depression.
  • Children “copy” their parents. If they see their parents argue on a regular basis, they would do the same (not only during their childhood but also carry this habit into their adult life).
  • Children might lose faith in marriage.
  • Children might develop insecurity.
  • Children might develop rage, sulk and shout just like the parents.
  • Parents might not have a healthy, positive relationship with their child especially the father . Unfortunately, children always think that their mother is right and their father is wrong , even if that might not be the case.

Put yourself in your child’s shoes

If you and your parent are constantly arguing (doesn’t matter whose fault it is- I am no one to judge) , try thinking from your child’s perspective. The two people she/he loves the most in this world are constantly bickering, giving a lot of negativity, anger,fear and insecurity to her/him. Children do not have the perspective that adults have. They just accept things as seen, as understood, they do not think what is the reason behind these arguments.

Do you like to witness constant arguing, bickering?

If 2 people constantly argue in front of you would you like it? Even you would feel anger, rage and sadness at having to witness this very single day. If children or adults are sad every day, it ultimately leads to depression .

Do you actually like to bicker?

Every couple fights. But not constantly. There comes a point when you just don’t want to argue anymore. You can’t shout anymore.

How do you stop arguing in front of kids?

Only you can judge whether the reasons for your bickering with your partner are worth it. Is the reason important enough? More likely than not, it is nagging about everyday stuff! If the reason is not important for all the arguments, then you need to take control of your mind and tongue which can easily achieved:

  • LET IT GO- this is the price you have to pay to buy some peace. You need 2 people to argue. If you stop arguing your partner will stop as well. It doesn’t matter who is right and who isn’t!
  • Be the bigger person, think of the children and the impact it will have on them – be conscious of them around you . It doesn’t matter how old they are 6 months or 16 years. They will KNOW that something isn’t right between the parents.
  • While you are alone with your partner, try to talk things out (without raising your voices)- try to arrive at an understanding. Also remind him/her what effect it is having on the kids to witness you both arguing.
  • Try to form a habit of not arguing in front of kids by following the above, it won’t be easy to do in the beginning, but if your partner agrees and co-operates doing all the above , then the chances of this working will be ten- fold.
  • In case you fall off the wagon and argue in front of kids, hug each other and say sorry. Remember when your kids fight, you would be telling them to do the same thing!
  • Meditate- even if its for five minutes every day- This will bring inner peace, reduce your anger and most of all give you clarity of thought.

If you feel that reasons for your arguments are something very serious then, you would need to still talk to your partner in private (preferably when kids are not at home) and try to sort your differences out amicably and with maturity. Remember if you shout and scream you will be ruining your own peace as well.

Despite all the above, if you are not able to stop arguing then you should get help. For the sake of your children, you should do it rather than avoiding the issue or shoving it under the carpet. Longer you leave it, the worse it will get.

In my opinion, it is better to cut off a relationship and be at peace then to bear a burden of a bad relationship. Weigh the pros and cons of everything and the impact it will have on the children. Deal with it wisely and with maturity. Remember you as a parent are responsible for shaping the life of another being. Nobody, not even parents have the right to ruin their child’s life- emotionally or physically .

Parents will be able to walk away from their arguments or from each others’ life. But their children will have to bear the brunt of this for the rest of their lives!

 

 

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Nintendo Switch Game Review – Is this Game For You and Your Family?

I have been considering buying the Nintendo Switch for my children and therefore I would like to share all my knowledge about the product with other parents in case you have been thinking of buying one as well. So here is the Nintendo Switch game review – with all the features, pros and cons.


 

Nintendo Switch Game Review

Product name: Nintendo Switch

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Price: £ 279.00

Warranty: Nintendo systems carry 12 months warranty. Games and accessories have 3 months warranty.

My rating: 4/5

Other features:

  • Switch and play with anyone, anytime and anywhere.
  • There are 3 modes, television mode, tabletop mode and handheld mode. The tablet for handheld mode has 6.2 inch screen.
  • The 2 Joy-Con can be used as a traditional controller by attaching them to the Joy-Con grip. If you do not attach the Joy-Cons to the Joy-grip, you can use each Joy-Controller as an individual controller ! Both Joy-cons can be attached to main console also to play in handheld mode.
  • Each Joy-Con has a full set of buttons and can be used as a standalone controller. Each Joy-Con has got an accelerometer and gyroscope motion sensor which makes independent right and left motion control possible.
  • The left Joy-Con has got a capture button with which you can take a screenshot of the game and share it on social media. The right Joy-Con has a NFC touch for connecting to amiibo figures. It also has an IR motion sensor camera which can detect from a distance,shape and motion of nearby objects in specially designed games.
  • Both Joy-Cons have got advanced HD rumble which provides subtle vibrations which feel very realistic. For example, you can feel the vibration of ice cubes colliding inside a glass when shaking a Joy-Con. This features gives a touch of realism – apart from the sight and sound effect.
  • Local and online multiplayer. You can connect up to eight consoles for multiplayer or online play with friends around the world. The online play is chargeable at £17.99. You can subscribe to online play here.
  • You can buy Nintendo Switch with pre loaded games like Mario Kart 8 and Zelda: Breath of the Wild as a bundle at an extra £30. If you buy the game separately each games costs around £41.
  • You can use the parental control app which provides control over the time your child plays with it, you can suspend the game when time is up with the “suspend software” feature, monitor what games they are playing, set different times for playing on different days of the week. For example, they can play for longer time on weekends and for a lesser time on week days. You can also control if you want  your child sharing screenshots of the game on social media or not.

Pros

  • Overall the product has great quality as it from Nintendo. If you are a Nintendo fan then there is no need to say this!
  • Great fun for families. Perfect ‘family gift’. Provides great family bonding time!
  • You can play with it on the go too in the handlheld mode. This would be handy if you need to keep kids busy at restaurants, airports etc.
  • Nintendo has got the best games like Mario, Zelda ,Mario Kart etc.
  • The Joy-Con batteries are very good and last for a long time.
  • You can seamlessly move from big screen to small using the handheld console. So if the family feel you are taking over the TV , you can move to the handheld console while the rest of the family watches TV !

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Cons

  • Console is expensive and each game is very expensive.
  • There are only 2 controllers so if you are a family of four or five, you will have to buy another console or take turns playing .
  • Some children under 8 years of age might struggle to use the controls .
  • Children can get hooked to the games in case you are planning to limit or reduce screen time. You can use the parental control app to control the screen time your child gets.
  • Nintendo Switch is more known for its offline games and PS4 is known for its online games, in case you are looking to play only offline or only online. You have to pay subscription for online games now unlike before when they were free.
  • The main console is just for gaming. You cannot use it like a regular tablet for accessing You tube etc.

Conclusion

Nintendo Switch has got the best games like Mario,Breath of the Wild etc. But Nintendo is more known for its offline games. Both Nintendo Switch and the games are a very expensive buy so only buy if you are not too bothered about the cost. If price is not an issue then it can be great fun for entire family. You can use parental controls to control the time and games your child plays .

Enjoy if you buy!  Don’t forget to share your experience or opinion of Nintendo Switch via comment box below.

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Ergobaby 360 Baby Carrier – Review for Parents Planning to Buy It

If you are a new parent or to be parent and are facing a dilemma whether you should be buying a baby carrier or not, then please read my review on Ergobaby 360 Baby Carrier. At the very least you would be able to decide if a baby carrier is for you or not. If you are considering buying a baby carrier, you have a lot of things to consider for example comfort for the baby and you, safety, fastenings etc.

Ergobaby 360 Baby Carrier

Product name: Ergobaby 360 Baby Carrier

Price: £123.90

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Suitability(weight of baby): 5.5 Kg to 20 kg (if the baby’s weight is between 3.2kg to 5.5kg – an insert will have to be purchased separately)

My rating: 4.5/5

Other features:

  • This baby carrier can be worn in 4 ergonomic baby positions – front inward(baby is facing you), on the back, on the hip and front outward(baby is not facing you).
  • This baby carrier is suitable for babies and toddlers within the weight range of 5.5 kg and 20 kg . If your baby weighs between 3.2 kg and 5.5 kg you will need an insert which will have to be bought separately. The insert is available on Amazon.co.uk as well.
  • This is carrier comes with a breathable 3D mesh material which provides optimal temperature for your baby. I would suggest that if your baby is always warm or is wrapped up use a baby carrier with the mesh material as you do not want your baby to get heated up inside the carrier. As you parents are aware that if the baby gets heated too much, it could be fatal for the baby.
  • This waist belt has lumbar support due to which the carrier can be worn lower or higher on the back as per your comfort. The waist belt provides support to your lower back. The waist belt is wide enough to give comfort to mothers who have given birth by c-section. The shoulder straps are padded for comfort.
  • Adjustable waist and shoulder belts. The extended back panel can be adjusted too as per the weight of the baby and it also provides support to the head and the neck of the baby.
  • Quick and easy carry position changes.
  • Suitable for both mums and dads.
  • 100% polyester, machine washable.
  • Available in interesting colours.

Pros

  • Good quality product. The baby carrier has an “everything thought of” design.
  • You can use this when the baby doesn’t want to be put down.
  • Handy when you need to go shopping. It is not possible to single handedly push the trolley and the stroller together!
  • It is useful if you have got an older child.
  • Keeps baby snug and protected .
  • Comfortable for both the baby and the parent. The baby carrier is designed in a way that it spreads the weight of the baby everywhere.
  • Mesh material keeps the baby cooler.
  • Good for breastfeeding mothers.
  • In case, you have a dog then there chances of the leash getting tangled with the stroller. So a baby carrier would be a better choice than a stroller.
  • Easily adjustable to your growing baby.
  • Handy on flights as you have to check in your stroller at the check in counter or at the boarding gate.
  • The velcro on the product doesn’t make a lot of noise – useful if your baby is asleep.

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Cons

  • Expensive.
  • Baby might get clingy or “get too used to” to the carrier and might not sit on the stroller at all.
  • Some might find it hard to all the fastenings themselves or they might not be able to figure out how to fasten all the belts.
  • Baby might get over heated if you are not careful.
  • You need to make sure you have fastened the baby correctly otherwise there are chances that the baby will fall.

Conclusion

Overall a good, well thought of product. The best feature of the product is that you don’t need to hold the baby while you are doing all the chores. The worst effect of this product is that the baby will want to be strapped to you all the time! So if you decide to buy this product, make sure you don’t strap the baby to yourself all the time. Otherwise, a great product as long as you have strapped and fastened belts correctly as per instructions!

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