The Business of Writing a Blog – Read This if You Are Looking To Start One

Are you a stay at home parent looking to earn extra income? Are you about to start a blog? Are you researching if the business of writing a blog is any good? Is blogging really worth it? Can you monetise your blog? Can it be done from the comforts of your home? Is blogging a scam? How long does it take to start making money? If these are some or all of the questions haunting you, then perhaps you should read my post before you start a blog.

It is Hard Work

Blogging is not a scam but the work is very hard. You will have to work like a dog, before you start earning money, make no mistake, this isn’t easy work at all! Each blog post will have to be a minimum of 1000 words. If you want success, you have to produce quality content through well researched,informative, easy to read, grammatically correct blog posts. Remember, if you lose your reputation through misleading information, you will lose money and sales!

Part time or Full time?

You are the boss! You decide how many hours you want to work, how many days you want to work. Do you want to work during the week or in the weekend? Do you want to work at night or are you free to work during the day? The more time you can devote to your blog, quicker the results will be !

There is no need to apply for annual leave, when you need one, as you are your own boss. Similarly, if your child is unwell, you will have the flexibility to look after your child.

Flexibility

Blogging provides amazing flexibility. You will realise this once you start your blog. You only need a device, preferably a desktop or a laptop ( as it will be hard to type on a tablet or a smartphone) and an internet connection.

Even if you go on holidays or move countries, you can continue running your business. So, you can run your business from anywhere in this world as long as you have your laptop and an internet connection.

It is a new world

It is totally a new world if you have never owned a website or never had any social media presence.

Rewards

If you work hard consistently and regularly, it is possible to replace your full time income and more via blogging. Read some success stories on my review of Wealthy Affiliate.

>>Read my review on Wealthy Affiliate<<

Patience and perseverance

You will need patience and perseverance in abundance, if you are intending to make money from your blog. You also have to believe that blogging can make you money. If you don’t feel so or are not sure, you cannot make money. Self-belief is very important.

Open minded

You have to be open-minded. You do not know which opportunity will earn you tons of money or lead you to the treasure! Toss and turn every opportunity in your mind before you throw it out or accept it. Think of how much time it is going to consume and how much money it is going to give you or will you be able to recover the money and time invested? For the self-employed, time is money. If an opportunity is consuming 2 days and earning you less than a pound or a dollar, is that worth it?

Be willing to learn

If you are anything like I was when I first started, then you would have to learn everything from scratch, be it building your own traffic producing website, how to make money online or mastering social engagement or producing quality content for your website. It can be complex and time-consuming if you do not know what you are doing. As I had no clue about blogging or building websites, I decided to enrol into the Wealthy Affiliate University, which provides step-by-step training.

>>Read my review on Wealthy Affiliate<<

It will take time

Money cannot be earned overnight with blogging. If you produce quality content, then you will get success. But it takes time for your website to gain followers and popularity. Perhaps this is the reason that most of the people who start blogs lose patience and give up within a few months.

There is no certainty

With a job, you know you will earn money at the end of the month but with blogging there is no certainty when you will make money, how much you will make. Ideally you should be able to make your first sale within the first year of blogging.

Guidance

If you start your own blog, you are your own boss unlike a job where your line manager guides/advises you what your job description or your duties are. In case of blogging you are on your own. However, I struck gold as soon as I started blogging with Wealthy Affiliate, which not only provides step-by-step training but has great community support too ! Whenever you are stuck you can ask for help on the platform which includes live chat!

>>Read my review on Wealthy Affiliate<<

You don’t need to be a writer to be a blogger

You do not need to have writing skills, but you need to know the English language if your blog is going to be in English. In a blog, you are just stating your opinion, you should write it in your own style. The more unique your blog is, the more traffic (visitors to the website) you will get.

Do not restrict yourself

Make your business thrive. Always look for new opportunities to make money. Go above and beyond any training courses you join. You will always have to take the initiative to learn, grow more ! But this will apply to any business, offline or online! Remember you are the boss, so you have to decide which direction you want to take your business!

Conclusion

If you have a topic you are passionate about, you can have a successful business of blog writing. The only conditions are patience and hard work. Blogging provides great flexibility which is very important for Moms and Dads who have no help from Grandparents or relatives in bringing up their kids.

Are you a stay at home parent? Are you looking for some flexible work? Have you tried blogging before? Have you heard of Wealthy Affiliate – what are your views on it? Please share your thoughts via comment box below.

Kind regards

Children’s Easter Activities – How I am Going To Keep My Kids Busy

If you are a stay at home mom and have the daunting task of keeping kids busy during the Easter holidays, look no further! Children’s Easter activities can help you keep your child busy in a fun filled way. Another benefit of Easter holidays(or any holidays) is to work with your child on topics he/she is weak in(I don’t want to sound like a spoilsport) but if you make it fun then they won’t know you are working with them on their weak topics!

Easter Egg Hunt

You can get a small pack of Easter Egg chocolates from the supermarket and hide each egg somewhere in the house. Let your kids find the chocolates . Whoever finds it eats it .. I tell my kids ‘I will eat the eggs you are not able to find’ ! Therefore kids are happy and Mummy is happy too!

Make sure you watch your child’s sugar intake, in case your child manages to find a lot of Easter eggs, spread the chocolates over the Easter holidays. They don’t need to eat all the eggs in one day.

However , if you are not keen on your child consuming the chocolates due to allergy or other reasons, you can always replace the chocolates with Easter egg toys. Let them find toys instead of chocolates!

Creating Easter Egg Drawings

Creating Easter egg drawings or paintings is a great way to bond with your child. It is even more fun if you come with different ideas on how to create the egg. For example, I was watching a video on how to make Easter Egg painting using a raw potato. Peel the potato and slice it into half vertically. On the inside, you can carve out bits of the potato to make it look like an Easter egg design. Use the potato as a stamp and dip it in different coloured paints and create a colourful easter egg.

This is an activity which most children will love doing and so will you ! A great way to relax and have fun with your kids!

Stamps or accessories

If you are not the “arty” type, there is a way around this, you can get Easter bunnies or other Easter design stamps and create a colourful drawing .

Another option is you can buy the ready-made easter egg colouring kits .

Craft Stash has got a great collection of both easter egg stamp and colouring kits.


If you want to take on Stamping as a hobby please read my post on Hobbies for Stay At Home Moms or if you would like to read my review on Tim Holtz Stamping Platform.

Free Resources

If you feel you cannot create an egg, you can also print some free colouring pages from the internet. Colouring will also help improve your child’s motor skills. Colouring together with your child is very relaxing- make sure you try this sometime!

Counting

If you would like to improve your child’s counting, you can use toy Easter Eggs to help them count. If there are physical objects, learning to count will be easier for kids. Some easter egg toys have got self inked stampers in them or other cool toys like pull back cars or dinosaurs.

Please read age range of these toys before you give it to your child.

Memory Game

If you have got the Easter egg toys above, you can also play memory games with it. Each person has to try and remember which egg has got which toy ! It will be fun and challenging for the parent too!

Baking

If you are a great at baking, why not make some cakes. Fun filled activity for both parent and child and delicious as well! If your child can make the cake batter on their own, the only thing you have to do is put the cake batter in the oven and take the cake out once it is ready!

Board Games

As per my previous post Top 10 Family Board Games- Which one is Your Favourite?, board games are a great way for family to bond. Some board games are educational and therefore will teach your kids something. Board games are a great way to pass time with the family anytime of the year or anyplace, whether you are at home or at a holiday or at the Grandparent’s place!

Fresh air and exercise

It is important to get fresh air and exercise every day, not only for the adults but also for the children. Just don’t get too busy trying to complete all indoor Easter activities that you forget about the need for fresh air and exercise. Spring is here so it will be great for kids to play in the park or cycle or scooter.

Gardening

Easter is a great time for gardening. If you have got green fingers, why not do some gardening with your little ones? Another great way to bond with your child. Get your child a cheap gardening tool kit. Get him/her digging, keep them busy ! Kids love pulling weeds out. If you have got a lot of weeds, get your child to put some gardening gloves on and start pulling the weeds out . Your garden will look beautiful , your child will have fun and both of you will get tons of fresh air!

Conclusion

Easter holidays don’t have to be a daunting time for stay at home moms. If you plan out all the activities in advance then time will pass quickly and there are fewer chances of kids misbehaving or fighting.

Like any other holidays, Easter holidays are a great time to spend with your kids and bond with them. The bonus is that it is Spring and therefore long days and lots of sunshine !

What plans have you got for the Easter holidays? Have you got any fun filled activities that you would like to share? Please share via comment box below.

Happy Easter!

Regards

Top Baby Monitors – Audio or Video?

Baby monitors help you monitor your baby when your baby is asleep and you are not in the room with them. You have the option of having an audio or a audio/video monitor. Read my review on what I feel are the top baby monitors to help you decide.

Product: BT Digital Audio Baby Monitor 400

Item weight: 354 gms

My rating: 4.5/5

Features:

  • Interference free digital HD sound
  • Long range of upto 50m indoors and 300m outdoors
  • Box contains 1 x parent unit, 1 x baby unit, 2 x main power adapters,2 x AA rechargeable batteries and user guide

Pros

  • BT is a known name and trusted brand
  • Monitor is reasonably priced
  • Sound is crystal clear and you will hear every breath or cry of your baby
  • Indoor range is 50m which is good enough for a medium to big sized house
  • Sound level LED’s alert you visually to any sounds coming from your baby’s room. So if you are a deep sleeper like me and the baby’s cries doesn’t wake you up, the flashing lights will definitely wake you up!
  • Parent unit is wireless which gives flexibility and battery life is very good – at least 15-17 hours
  • Both the microphone unit and the monitor unit have 3m leads
  • The size of the unit is small and has a good grip .

Cons

  • It’s an audio only unit. It doesn’t have a video monitor
  • No talk back feature if you want to talk to your child
  • It doesn’t have night light
  • If the parent unit is not switched on, the child monitor keeps flashing which might keep your child awake
  • Sometimes you can hear static noises

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Product: GHB Video Baby Monitor

Item weight: 422 gms

My rating: 4.4/5

Warranty: 1 year

Features:

  • 2-way talk: Mother can speak to the baby as mothers voice will soothe the baby
  • Infrared night vision
  • Temperature monitoring: Helps measure temperature of the baby’s room
  • Built in lullabies: you can play lullabies on the monitor to soothe the baby and put them to sleep
  • Vox (Voice operated exchange) function:It’s a voice operated switch that operates when sound over certain threshold is detected. If you do not like this option you can put the monitor on normal mode through settings
  • Camera angle can be changed manually(not remotely) but the camera needs to be plugged into the socket
  • Package includes 1x 2″ Colour LCD Monitor(Parent unit) ,1×1 Baby Camera (baby unit),2 x UK Power adapters, 1x User Manual

Pros

  • Video monitor at a very reasonable price
  • Video of your baby will reassure you due to the visual image of your child
  • 2- way talk feature
  • Infrared night vision lets you keep an eye on the baby at night too
  • Temperature monitoring function
  • VOX function which can be handy if you want save the battery
  • 100m working range
  • Easy carry size

Cons

  • Camera drains the battery fast unless you put in on VOX mode
  • Do you really need features like temperature monitoring?
  • Camera angle can only be changed manually. So make sure you adjust the camera before you leave the baby’s room
  • You have to plug in the camera- which can be inconvenient if you don’t have a socket where you want the camera to be ideally situated.

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Product: Motorola MBP36S Digital Video Baby Monitor

Item weight: 558 gms

Warranty: 1 Year

My rating: 2/5

Features:

  • 3.5 ” LCD Colour Parent Unit
  • Motorised pan tilt and zoom
  • 2 way talk
  • Infrared night vision
  • Temperature monitoring
  • Lullaby and nature sounds
  • LED sound level indicator
  • Out of range warning alert
  • Package contains: 1 x Parent unit, 1 x Baby unit, Rechargeable battery pack(for parent unit), Power Adapter (for parent unit), Power Adapter (for baby unit), User Manual

Pros

  • Larger display unit (parent unit)
  • You can pan, tilt and zoom the camera on your child remotely. This is handy if your child has moved inside the cot in the night.
  • You can talk to your child to soothe them due to the 2 way talk feature
  • If you like features like temperature monitoring then this product provides you with it
  • 50m indoors and 300m outdoor range

Cons

  • Overall quality of the monitor is not very good. There are time delays in the talk back feature. Picture is sometimes not clear.
  • Battery life is poor
  • Parent unit has got problems switching on and off

 

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Product: BT Video Baby Monitor 6000

Item weight: 395 gms

My rating: 3/5

Features:

  • High quality 5″ screen
  • Remote control pan and tilt function
  • Night vision
  • 2 way talk
  • Lullabies function
  • 250m range

Pros

  • You can talk to your baby to soothe them
  • Large screen
  • You can pan tilt and zoom the camera on your child if your child has moved in their cot in the night
  • Temperature monitoring function to monitor the baby’s room temperature
  • Good range. Monitor works well in multi-storey properties too
  • Good battery life

Cons

  • Quality of the picture is not very good at night
  • Issues with overall product quality
  • Monitor volume not loud enough

==>>Click here to buy BT  Video Baby Monitor 6000>>==

 

Product: Hello Baby Wireless Video Baby Monitor

Item weight: 522 gms

My rating: 4.9/5

Features:

  • Monitor 3.2″ LCD
  • 2 way talk
  • Infrared night vision
  • 960 feet range(roughly 292m)
  • VOX mode feature(It’s a voice operated switch that operates when sound over certain threshold is detected)
  • Camera can pan tilt and zoom in on the baby if the baby has moved in the cot
  • Lullaby feature(8 songs)
  • 6-8 hours battery life
  • You can pair the monitor with 4 cameras(only one monitor and one camera included)
  • Package contains 1x parent unit, 1x baby unit, 2 x power adapter,1 x user manual

Pros

  • Sound and picture quality is very good
  • Good price for a video monitor with temperature monitoring,2 way talk and VOX feature
  • You can remotely set up lullaby
  • User friendly product
  • It has good frequency even in multi-storey properties
  • Good customer service
  • Overall a good quality product

Cons

  • Camera has to be plugged in
  • Do you need temperature monitoring?
  • If you don’t need a video monitor this product is not for you.

==>>Click here to buy Hello Baby Wireless Video Baby Monitor>==

 

In case you would like to share your experiences of any baby monitors please get in touch through the comment box below. I will be delighted to hear from you!

Regards

Top 10 Family Board Games- Which one is Your Favourite?

Board games are a great way to bond with the family . Here are the top 10 family board games suggestions which will not only give you lot of relaxation and enjoyment but also help you bond with your family.  All games  will also keep your children occupied as well as improve their thinking power . Some of the games like Monopoly and Pictionary will also help  improve their vocabulary .

Most of the games can be played on family holidays too in a  hotel or resort or even on the plane or while waiting at the airport. The best part is that all the games are reasonably priced. No need to break the bank to keep your children busy!

The more the competition , better is. Parents , beware! Your children might beat you at all the games!

Scrabble

Game: Scrabble Original Board Game

Ages: 10 years+

Players: 2 to 4

Description: Everybody knows scrabble. Test your vocabulary and see who wins – adults or children! Game consists of making interlocking words in a crossword fashion.

Younger children can also play this game by making three letter words with their tiles without interlocking the words without using the board!

Each letter gives points and whoever scores the highest wins! Easier said then done especially when you are stuck with letters you don’t want! Even worse when your child makes bigger words than you!

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Monopoly

Game: Monopoly(original game)

Ages: 8 years+

Players: 2 to 6

Description: What better game to play during then good old Monopoly. Play this game and relive your childhood. This game teaches youngsters how to negotiate, be social as well as improve their mathematical skills and also how to handle money. This game can be played by parents, grandparents too. I still remember playing this classic game with my Grandmother years ago! Monopoly is now available at a very reasonable price. Beware the pound notes are still very thin just like before!

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Headbanz

Game: Headbanz

Ages: 7 years+

Players: 2 to 6

Description: A quick question game -“What am I ?” Answer to which everybody knows except you ! Guess the answer and you win. A fun game for people of all ages! Reasonably priced game, it takes ages for anybody to win but easy enough for all ages.

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Pictionary

Game: Pictionary Board Game(Mattel Games)

Ages: 3 years+

Players: 4

Description: Draw a clue card, sketch it out and let your team-mates guess it. Everybody gets a turn at drawing. Lot of fun and laughter as your team members try guessing what word you are drawing! So how good are you at drawing? Find out with this game!

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The Yes No Game

Game:The Yes No Game

Ages: 8 years+

Players: 2-6

Description: A fast and furious game where answering Yes or No gets you dinged out by the bell. One player takes a card and reads the questions to the opponent. If opponent answers Yes or No, they get dinged by the bell and the player can keep the card. If they answer all question up to the end, the opponent keeps the card. The player who has most cards is the winner.

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Twister

Game:Twister

Ages: 6 years+

Players: 2 and over

Description: This game is perfect to add fun for parties or for family nights. This game challenges you to place your hands and feet at different places on the mat without falling over. If your knees or elbows touch the mat, you are out of the game! All members of the family can find out how flexible they are with this game! So how flexible are you?

 

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Asmodee Dobble Card Game

Game: Asmodee Dobble Card Game

Ages: 6 years+

Players: 2-8

Description:Addictive fun for the entire family. 5 different ways to play this game. The goal of the game, no matter which game you choose, is to be the fastest in spotting identical symbols between two cards, name it aloud and then take the card and then place or discard the game depending on the game you are playing. Since there is no strategy for the game, and is based on your reactions and visual perceptions, there is no advantage adults have over the children. Let’s see who is faster, adults or children!

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Qwirkle

Game: Qwirkle

Ages: 6 years+

Players: 2-4

Description: You have to match the colours and shapes. While the game is simple and quick to learn, you need to play it strategically in order to score points and win. So are you ready to tax your brains?

 

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Hasbro Gaming Classic Jenga

Game: Hasbro Gaming Classic Jenga

Ages: 6 years+

Players: 1+

Description: This game contains 54 precision crafted hardwood blocks. Remove blocks without crashing the tower! Stack up (stack sleeve included)and pull a loose block. Perfect family or a party game! Hours of fun included!

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Sussed?

Game: Sussed?

Ages: 6 years+

Players: 2-10

Description: This family friendly quiz game can be enjoyed by kids and adults including parents , grandparents and teachers. This game encourages face -to-face conversations . This game is a Dad’s Choice Awards 2018 winner . The game boosts critical thinking.  Improves power of reason and intuition. Find out who knows who best!  What better way to know your family member?

 

Box contains 55 premium cards, 150 score sheets and rules.

Pocket sized game which you can take anywhere with you , on the train, airport or even to Grandparents house!

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Conclusion

All the games are great to play for both adults and children. For Parents and Grandparents it is a good way to revisit your childhood.  It is also a good time to see who is better at playing these games- Grandparents, Parents or the children.

So which game is your favourite?  My favourite is Pictionary – I can’t stop laughing at my own drawings!

Have you played any of these games with your family ? What was your experience like? Which generation was the winner of the game? Please share via comment box below.

 

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Bunk Beds For Kids – Safety is the Main Criteria

The most important criteria that parents should be looking for when buying bunk beds for kids is Safety. You do not want to buy bunk beds which are very high or bunk beds with tricky or unstable ladder. Some bunk beds do look very pretty and attractive to the child or to the parents due to their weird designs – maybe they look like an adventure trail! But safety is very important. While buying bunk beds, parents have to keep in mind that a bunk bed is for sleeping. If you have space issues in your home, instead of buying two separate beds for your kids, you can buy bunk beds and save space.

A parent knows their child the best. Only a parent would know how naughty their child is or what mischief they are capable of. You should buy a bunk bed only if you feel that your child will be safe with it or your child knows how to climb up and down the bunk bed safely and carefully!

A child can fall off any bunk bed if they lean out from the top bunk and seriously hurt themselves. This is a risk applicable to all bunk beds. This is something every parent should keep in mind before they decide to buy a bunk bed for their kids.

Another important point while choosing bunk beds, is the practicality of it. Will you able to tuck the bed sheet especially on the upper bunk ?

Due to all the above, I would like to recommend a bunk which has not only got nice,wide steps but is also low.


Happy Beds Domino Bunk Beds

 

Product Name: Happy Beds Domino Bunk Beds for Children(3FT Single )

Colours: White, Oak, Grey and Maple & White

Dimensions: L:199 cm W: 137 cm H: 161 cm

Distance between the beds: 80 cm

My rating:4.5/5

Other features:

  • Bunk bed comes with storage.
  • Sturdy and good quality bunk bed.
  • Easy self-assembly.
  • Solid wooden slated base for mattress support.
  • You have option of not buying mattress or buy a memory foam mattress, orthopedic mattress, spring mattress or a pocket sprung mattress.
  • Handle bars on either side of the stairs.

Pros

  • Easy to follow instructions for assembly.
  • Lighting stripe on each step which glows in the dark, so that your child can see where he/she is going.
  • Handle bars on either side of the stairs makes it easier to come up and down.
  • Each step on the ladder is wide enough for kids and therefore safe and more comfortable for the kids feet.
  • Each bunk has its own storage space. Each section is wide enough to put a large teddy bear in it. The storage space is next to each bunk bed. Kids can put all their treasures in it and play till they fall asleep!
  • Bunk bed can be pulled apart and put together again if you are moving home.
  • Good value for money even without the mattresses. Mattresses are good quality and made as per the British Standards.
  • Each bunk is a full single size.
  • Good delivery service.

 

Cons

  • Ladder can only be put in one place, it can’t be moved.
  • The bed is very sturdy and heavy and therefore is hard to assemble single handed especially the back of the bunk bed. You will need help of another person. It will take few hours to assemble.
  • Assembly service not provided – you have to do it yourself
  • The bunk bed cannot be split into 2 single beds. You have to use it as a bunk bed only.
  • No storage under the bed
  • Make sure the mattress on the top bunk is not very thick so that the safety rungs can give more protection and prevent the child from falling over.

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Conclusion

All in all, Happy Beds Domino bunk bed is a good quality sturdy bunk bed. The only issue with it is that it is hard to assemble on your own. You need to people at least to assemble it.

Bunk beds are always popular with children. However, it is the parents’s responsibility to make sure that their children are safe. Always put the younger child on the lower bunk. Keep an eye on them for few days while they play on the bunk bed or climb up and down the bunk beds as much as possible. The Happy Beds Domino Bunk bed has got luminous steps so your child will be able to see the steps in the dark. Use a night light if you are not already doing so !

Have you ever bought a bunk bed for your kids? What was your experience? Would you recommend a bunk bed to other parents? Which is the most important requirement for a bunk bed according to you? Please share your opinion via comment box below.

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What is the Best Age To Have a Child – When Are you Ready To Have One?

As a woman starts approaching her mid to late twenties, she often wonders when should she have children? What is the best age to have children? The biological clock is ticking on one hand and on the other there are factors like, does she have partner/spouse with whom she can have children? What are her career aspirations? Is she financially stable? So when would she be ready to have a child?

Age is definitely a factor

A woman should have a child when she is physically fit and during the most fertile phase of her life. I do know nowadays women are freezing eggs and having children later on in life, but that is not right! If a woman decides to give birth to another life, it is her duty to make sure she can give her child a good health (whatever is in her hands) as well as the time. If a woman decides to have children after 35 years, she won’t be at the peak of her fertility, neither will she have the stamina to “run after the child”. Ask any parent, how much energy consuming it is to bring up a child!

Make space for your child in your life

A woman should be responsible enough not to misuse this boon of the universe for her own selfish needs! She should also think if she will be able to give the time to her child. It is not fair on the child,if a woman was just to produce the child for her own needs and then hand the baby to the “nanny” so that she can “continue” with her life!

Motherhood doesn’t just mean producing a child, it also means bringing the child up with the right amount of love and attention! To know further about motherhood please refer to my post Motherhood and Me.

Do not have children to please the society

You should not have children just because you are married for ‘x’ number of years or because “everybody” keeps asking you ‘when are you having kids?’ Having a child is an enormous responsibility. You should have a child only if you think you can fulfill all your duties as a mother.It is a lifelong commitment.

Ideal age

According to medical experts, the right age to have a child is between 26-35. With a reason the universe has made a woman’s fertile age in this range. If you have a child any later than that, you would be compromising your child. If you decide to have a child at a very young (before 26), you would not have the maturity to deal with the child. You would not be equipped to take the right decisions for your child .

Medical complications

To have a healthy child is the topmost desire of every expectant mother. At 35, the complications start increasing. The chances of having a healthy child start dwindling. At this age if you conceive a child with physical abnormalities, do you feel that it is fair on the child? Will the child live a fulfilled life? Will you be able to look after a disabled child?

I know that extremely healthy women, who produce children in the right age range of 26-35, also give birth to children with defects but that is not something in our hands. It is out of our control .

Prepare yourself

Before you decide to have a child ask yourself this question, are you ready to commit at least 18 years to another life? Will you give whatever it takes to ensure that your child is brought up in the right way?

How many children do you want to have?

This is a very important question that you must answer. Please refer to my previous post on How Many Children Should You Have? If you do know the answer, then factor that in. You should have the last child before you hit 35. Also decide how far apart you want the children to be in age. For example, You want to have the first child at 30,second at 32 and third at 34.

If you decide to have first one at 34, it will be impossible to have another one before 35. A woman’s body needs to recover in between pregnancies for at least 1 year and ideally 3 years.

Help and support

Every mother would have an easier life, if they have some help and support from the grandparents. If a woman has a child at a very late age, there are fewer chances of grandparents being around to help and nurture the child. Even if they are around, they might be too old to help .

Difficulty conceiving

If you decide to have children at a later age, you might find it difficult to conceive. If you are above 35, there are chances you might not be able to conceive naturally or you might not be able to conceive at all. Even if you decide to freeze your eggs, and conceive the child, your (older) body might not be able to sustain the pregnancy. The chances of miscarriages also start increasing at this age.

Financial Issues

Having a baby is very expensive. Cost of nappies, clothes,nursery fees, school fees, toys,books etc etc. You will need money ! But do not postpone having a child just because you want to save enough before you have a child. If you are reasonably supported through your job or your spouse’s job, then there is no reason not have a child. Remember, it takes time to conceive a child. If you leave it too late, you might not be able to have one.

Once you have your first child and if you feel that you cannot afford another child, then don’t have another one. Just take a decision and stick to it. Don’t forget the biological clock is ticking. Therefore, it is better to be decisive whether you can afford another child or not !

Remember, I am not a medical expert. I am just stating my opinion here.

Conclusion

Are you planning to have a child? How old are you? Are you having a child because of societal pressures? Please get in touch via comment box.

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Motherhood and Me – What does Motherhood Mean?

As soon as the pregnancy test kit comes back positive, you know your life is going to change forever. But do you even realise, at that point, how much is it going to change? How much of yourself are you going to lose in this process of becoming a Mother? Do you even remember what your life was before you became a mother? It is very important to try to recreate a new identity after Motherhood. Motherhood and me(Priya) have had to walk side by side and thereby create a new identity post childbirth.

Early days as a mother

I found the first year of motherhood extremely hard. A 24- hour responsibility of a baby, feeding, changing nappies, sleepless nights, being at home all the time- loss of working life – was just too much to take on. In the first few weeks of birth, a new mom has not only to get used to idea of looking after the baby, breast feeding, but it is equally important for her to have a balanced nutritious diet and a proper rest. Also hormonal havoc a baby causes to a woman’s body has to be dealt with as well.

Simple things like taking a shower, going for nature calls in peace are impossible most of the times! If you can complete at least one meal day without any interruptions that would be a treat!

Next few months

In the next few months as a Mother, You will slowly try to figure out your baby’s schedule, bond with her, cuddle her as much as you can. You might even forget about the outside world or what it looks like. You would have also probably forgotten the timings of all your favourite programs on the television.

At 6 months upto 1 year

At 6 months, you would probably start developing boredom but you will be distracted when you start putting your child on solid foods. A new challenge! By the time your child is one year of age, the weaning would have been established, your child would probably be drinking milk out of a cup or you and your spouse would probably have moved your child to his/her bedroom.

What you would have not realised in this past one year is that your life and your time has become so dependent on the needs of your child, that you have nothing else to do, nothing else to think. You only know yourself as the Mother of your child!

It gets worse in the second year

Things turn for the worst when you do not go back to work after your maternity break. Your child is the centre of your world. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, feeding are the only jobs or hobbies you have! Even if you do get a chance to watch your favourite television program, you will either fall asleep during the program or you will feel guilty for watching the program instead of doing laundry or making fresh meals for your child!

First day at the Nursery

I put my children in the nursery at the age of 20 months. The first few months, I had no clue what I should do during the time they were in the nursery. I would miss them but also be relieved that I could do something of my own or relax my overtired body.

My brain was dead

After my younger one started going to the nursery, I slowly started realising that my brain had ‘died’ after child birth. Every time I decided to think, what I wanted do in my spare time, my brain cells just wouldn’t budge! Therefore, I decided to go for walks to refresh myself and bring my brain back to life! Slowly but surely, I started losing weight, my stamina increased and I remembered who I was before I became a Mother .

Meditation

At the same time I also started meditating which increased the movement of my brain cells, and I realised that I would HAVE TO recreate my identity now. Since it was impossible for me to return to work on account of ‘no help’ in looking after children as well as high childcare costs, I would have to do ‘something of my own’ from home!

Before I could figure out what I wanted to do, I also started realising that I need to look after myself. This included small but vital things to keep myself sane. Silly things like getting my eyebrows done regularly or a haircut or even going out for a couple of hours on my own during the weekend, when hubby could look after kids. Mind you, this was very difficult for me. I couldn’t leave the house without my hubby literally pushing me out! I just couldn’t or wouldn’t do anything without my kids!

Recovering or recreating your identity

A stay at home mother starts recovering her identity once the kids go to school. But this is again a continuous process. A woman has to remember what she likes to eat or what her hobbies are. It is tough and many times(most of the times) a woman will always put her children before her. But this has become a part of her new identity now. She now does something of her own, maybe a hobby or a part-time job or run her own business when the kids are at school. She becomes a mother again as soon as school is finished!

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Results!

Even though a woman loses her identity after childbirth and recovers part of it every day as her children grow into adults, she is satisfied and fulfilled with the duty the universe has honoured her with!

Conclusion

When your child is very young (under the age of 5), do not worry if you have forgotten yourself. You will regain or recreate your identity as soon as the child starts going to school. You still have got the rest of your life to resolve your identity crisis. But these precious beautiful moments with your beautiful baby/toddler will never come back again!

Are you a Mother?  What are your thoughts on motherhood? Get in touch via comment box below!

Regards

Hobbies for Stay at Home Moms – Can You Make Money From It?

Being a Stay at home mom can be monotonous and boring. Especially so, when your little one is asleep or has gone to the nursery or school. Having a hobby can make a huge difference to your mind or mental health. I would like to share a few hobbies for stay at home moms and hopefully it will help you.

The key thing is keep your mind occupied with something other than the household chores. To do something of your own, not related to your children. As mean as it sounds, it will refresh and rejuvenate your mind!

Even if you do not have any hobbies, it is never too late to cultivate one!  You might enjoy it so much that maybe you can make your hobby your business and earn some money from home!

 

Please bear in mind that I have suggested only “indoor” hobbies to you – for your convenience.

Calligraphy

If you do not know,Calligraphy means visual art relating to writing, according to Wikipedia. I just call it beautiful handwriting. Calligraphy has to be done with a particular type of pen and ink. It is not only fun to learn but is very handy as well. You can use this skill while making a poster or a greeting card.

You could ask whether Calligraphy is outdated now, due to all the different font styles available on different computer soft wares, but a handwritten greeting card or an invite to a wedding or a party has a special meaning! Perhaps somebody would like to have their wedding vows written in Calligraphy! Perhaps someone would like to give out beautiful handwritten baby shower invites!

You can also master this skill and become a Calligraphy teacher and have students to come home and learn from you !

You can also sell personalised stuff on Etsy.com.  Etsy allows the seller to sell products only which are handmade by the seller. This is a great way to earn from home for stay at home moms. Setting up an account with Etsy is not hard at all!

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Stamping

You can use Calligraphy to do card making. But you can also do Stamping to make beautiful greeting cards. Craft Stash runs a Facebook Live show every Friday at 1 pm (UK time) to give stamping ideas. Please refer to my previous post on Tim Holtz Travel stamp review which I feel is a must if you intend to make greeting cards using stamping.

There are lots of beautiful stamps available on Craft Stash. All the stamps are versatile and easy to use!

Stamping is also a great way to pass time and relax your mind from mundane household chores.

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Colouring Books

I find colouring extremely therapeutic. It completely relaxes your mind. It is also very convenient and easy to do this. You can do colouring with your child and bond with her/him as well as relax your mind. There will be no tantrums, no fighting (if you have more than one child) as children are occupied.

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Product name: Colours

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Journaling/Scrapbook

If you are a good at writing, it would be a good idea to maintain a Journal and put all your feelings on paper. It will help you relieve all the frustrations of staying at home and looking after kids. You can use a memory planner if you want to include some memories. For example growth milestone of your child like first step, first word etc!

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Product name: Memory Planner

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Painting

If you like to paint, then it can become a hobby or a way of earning money or even expressing yourself. You can sell your paintings on Etsy.com. If you have learnt to paint professionally why not conduct some kids painting classes from home ? There are starter painting colours available on Craft Stash website at a very reasonable price.

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Decoupage

Decoupage means giving a new look or a new life to piece of furniture or some household object. According to Wikipedia ,Decoupage or Découpage is the art of decorating an object by gluing coloured paper cutouts onto it in combination with special paint effects, gold leaf and other decorative elements. Again you can try to sell Decoupage products on Etsy.com.

Product name : Decoupage Products

Product name: Mod Podge Glue for Decoupage

Product name: Decoupage Scissors

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You could  also learn Decoupage by taking lessons and then conduct Decoupage classes  at home and earn money !

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Conclusion

Staying at home with kids is hard. But if you can keep yourself mentally occupied few hours a day, it will make a big difference to you. You can also use Facebook to advertise your business, should you choose to make your hobby your business! You could also save money by making your own Christmas or Birthday Cards!

Business from a hobby requires very low capital  . Also if  you run your business from home, you don’t need  business premises and therefore you will save money on the rent!

Which activity/hobby out of the above, do you like the best? Please comment via comment box below.

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Stay At Home Fathers- Should Fathers be The Main Carers of Children?

Giving birth is a woman’s job and therefore it follows that the responsibility of looking after children is also a woman’s(Mother’s) job. This is especially true in developing nations. Having been born and brought up in India, the concept of stay at home fathers was alien to me. I encountered this when I came to the United Kingdom. Now after living here for almost a decade and a half, I have a completely new out look towards it. But there are a few things which have to be understood and dealt with to arrive at a decision whether one should be a stay at home Dad or not!

Is it about money?

More often than not a Father looks after his children because the Mother has got a higher salary, a better job, a higher potential to earn! Though most of the middle class always look at the mathematics or spreadsheet of income vs expenses, this shouldn’t be a reason for the Dad to stay at home and for the Mom to work!

Call me naive but life is not about mathematical calculations !

What Does a Child Need?

A child bonds with the Mother for 9 months before birth. There is a connection (via umbilical cord) between the child and the Mother for 9 months which is only severed at birth. Therefore , when the child is born, he/she always finds peace and contentment with the Mother. This bond still continues after birth through breastfeeding and watching his/her mother take care of his/her needs. A child will always look out for his/her Mother. This is the Law of the Universe. This cannot be altered.

Would this decision be acceptable to the child?

Due to the above point about a child’s needs, do you feel that if the child (a baby) could speak, a decision where a Mother goes to work and a Father looks after the child, would that be acceptable to the child? I think not ! A child is unable to express his/her emotions but a Mother is like a security for the child . This is again the Law of Universe. The child always automatically looks for the Mother not the Father.

Mother Vs Father

So what would be the difference between a Father’s upbringing of the child and a Mother’s? Some might argue, it is the same. Surely there is a difference in the approach of a man and a woman. There is no denying that women are born with a maternal instinct. I would go far as saying that only a Mother has the patience and the perseverance to bring up her child with the right amount of love , attention and discipline . Only a Mother can understand her child the best .

Fathers are very important

I am not saying that only the Mother is important to a child, Fathers are equally important. What a Father can give to a child a Mother cannot. For example, a Father will not mollycoddle his child. A Father will provide fun/adventures to a child that a Mother cannot. A Father provides tough love to the child.

What are your priorities?

The decision to be a stay at home dad depends on what your priorities are ? Do you feel that you would like to spend more and more time with your child/children? Do you feel that you do not want to miss out on any of their growth milestones? Do you feel that being in a full time job would not let you spend enough time with your child as you would like to?

If the answer is yes to any of the above, then you should follow your heart and become a stay at home Dad ! But if you are a stay at home Dad just to tally the Balance Sheet every month(match the income to the expenses), it is not correct!

As a Father is this acceptable to you?

If you have come to a decision to be a Stay at home dad, it should be acceptable to you as a Man and a Dad. If you are not at peace with this decision, then don’t do it. You will be miserable as well as your child! Remember if you work full time, something has to be sacrificed – it is not possible to have everything.

Wash, clean and Cook

Before you decide to become a stay at home dad, you should discuss with your partner, who will cook and clean. Washing,cooking, cleaning is a joint responsibility of both the parents. It is not fair to put the burden on one parent.

Financial Independence

I am of the opinion, that whether you are a stay at home mom or a stay at home Dad, you should be financially independent. In this day and age it is very much possible to start something of your own from home. You do not need to go and work for someone just to earn money !

There are a lot of options available. In fact, my post on Stay at Home Mom Business Ideas is applicable to Dads too !

If you still need further guidance, check my post on How To Start a Home Based Business for Free.

Time Out

Just like stay at home moms, stay home dads also need time out. Make sure you take regular breaks. Don’t get trapped in the four walls of the house! Do something you like every day . Spend time with your men friends- discuss football or whatever you men talk about! This will bring normalcy in your life just like it does to the Mothers!

Explain to your children

Explain to your children, that ‘Daddy wants to stay at home with you and Mummy wants to go to work’ or ‘Either Mummy or Daddy need to go to work, so I have decided to stay at home and Mummy has decided to go to work’. Keep it simple! Simplicity always works!

Conclusion

In my opinion a mother can look after the child, the best.  A Father can spend time with the child by doing flexible work or working from home. Are you a stay at home Father? What was the reason for this decision? Have you got any tips that you can share with the other stay at home Fathers? Please let me know via comment box below.

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How To Start a Mom Blog and Make Money -Try it Then Buy It

If you do not have any help or family support with your kids, it doesn’t mean that you cannot work or you cannot earn money. It would seem impossible to go back to work because you also have to think of the high childcare costs. This was the problem, I faced too not long ago. I just couldn’t figure out how to earn money or keep myself occupied productively without compromising the way I want to bring up my kids. Fortunately I discovered how to start a mom blog and make money from it.

Flexibility

Once you become a parent, work flexibility becomes very important ! You never know when your child is going to be sick. If your child is in school, there is a break every 6 weeks, either at half-term or at the end of the term. If you decide to put your child for camps or with the childminder, it will start getting very expensive, despite your spouse or partner taking turns with you in looking after kids. The cost doubles if you have 2 children , treble if you have 3!

Part time Vs. Full time

It is not easy to get a part-time job- you have to balance out your pay with the travel cost. Is it worth it? Even if you work part-time, you still have to think of school holidays(childcare costs) and sickness – and at the same time earn only part of the salary. If you work full time , you have to not only think of childcare during school holidays but also from school finish time until you finish work. Therefore your childcare costs increase with the increase in your working hours. The more you earn, the more childcare you will have to pay.

Homework and other things

The biggest obstacle that any working mother would face is the time to do the homework especially for those working full time. If you send your child to the child minders then, you also have to deal with a tired child on top of your own tiredness .

Self Employment

As fancy as it sounds,for any business to run you need something to sell – products or services. You need to have skills to be come a good Entrepreneur! You also need a capital to start a business (which I didn’t have).

Blogging

Blogging is a good way to express your opinion , share your knowledge and help others. This doesn’t  require much capital either and most of all, it is a good way to…

… earn money !

How do you set up a blog and earn money from it – via Wealthy Affiliate.

Wealthy Affiliate

During my online researches to get business ideas, I came across Wealthy Affiliate. Initially I started with their free starter membership,to try it out, but within a few days I decided to go for the premium membership! There was no doubt about the high level of step-by-step training provided on their platform . Their training helped me not only set up my blog writing business and make money but also how to advertise my business on social media. Along with that I also got technical support and community support.

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Other options

Blogging was suitable for me, therefore I chose this route, but if you feel this is not your cup of tea, there are still other options which you can do from the comforts of your home. If you would like to learn about other stay at home mom business ideas, read my previous post on Stay at Home Mom Business Ideas – Earn While You Are At Home.

It is not an easy path

Setting up your own business, whether is it is a mom blog or something else, is not going to be an easy path. You have to work extremely hard, sacrifice your television time etc etc, just to get your foot in the door. You also need to continue looking after your kids!

Things which helped me

There are few things I did which really helped me set up my mom blog:

  • Discipline – you have to be very disciplined and committed to your work, your business. There is no boss here to tell you what to do next.
  • Make your own path – do not get bogged down just because “the rest of the world” is Employed. Do what suits you!
  • Believe in yourself- the journey of becoming a mom blogger is not an easy one, it will take a bit of time before you start making money. You will encounter naysayers all the way to success but continue to do what you believe in.
  • This business gave me the thing I craved for the most- Flexibility. This in turn enabled me to look after my kids in my own way. This is something for which I will always be grateful for !
  • Try to have some sort of social life to get human interaction. Join some fitness class- I do yoga! Aim for both mental and physical fitness.

Nothing is impossible

If mom blogging is something which interests you, there is nothing to stop you from doing it and becoming successful. If you look for the path, it will come to you.

A thirst to learn new things

If you are new to the world of online business, then you will be learning a lot of new things. Believe me, it will be good for your mind- after all the monotonous , mechanical mom jobs that you have been doing! This will definitely wake up your ‘baby brain’!

Conclusion

If you feel your child is too young and you are unable to go to work, blogging is  a good option. A blog was a totally different field for me. I learnt everything from scratch. So if I can do it, so can you!

If you are a stay at home mom blogger, please share via comment box, what is the topic of your blog for the benefit of the readers.

Good luck,