Parents Who Overprotect Their Children – Why Do They Do It?

Parenting is becoming more like a circus trick – parents are overloaded with so much information that they are unable to balance themselves on the tight rope of parenting ! One wrong step and you will fall 10 feet down! Why do parents overprotect their children, has anybody wondered why?Parents who overprotect their children are not monsters or aliens or controlling freaks! After all, only parents (not psychologists, Doctors or experts) would understand their children! I can think of few reasons why parents become so protective of their children.

Scaring parents

Every day in the news, we hear of the various studies conducted by psychologist or experts or Doctors, what is the affect of so-and-so on the child. However, well-intentioned they are, they are always aimed at scaring parents. Doomed if you do it, doomed if you don’t! For example for years, parents were told that too much screen time is not good for children, and now few weeks ago, we all read or heard that the “experts” don’t think that screen time actually effects children negatively! There are so many contradictory reports, it is quite confusing which way should parents go!

Society

Barely the baby has been born and the parents are told, “do this, then this will happen”, if you don’t do this your child won’t do this” , “you didn’t listen to me, so now your child isn’t normal”. Again, well-intentioned society of grandparents, uncles aunties, doctors,nurses etc. People don’t need to be perfect to be parents!

Safety

Parents also tend to become overprotective when they hear or read of incidents and accidents of other children. It is natural for parents to tell their children – who their best friends should be, where they should go with their friends etc.

Mothers are naturally overprotective

Mothers always tend to be more protective towards their children then fathers. It is the mother’s instinct to always protect her children.

Fear of Social Services

In this day and age where there so many laws and rules to protect children, Parents often fear the social services taking their child away from them. One example that I can cite here is that some parents believe in spanking there children in order to discipline them, but they fear social services knowing about it and therefore are unable to discipline their children. I do not advocate spanking children – please refer to my post on spanking children here.

If parents are unable to discipline their children they become spoilt – they will not understand the difference between right or wrong. Each parent has their own way of disciplining their children- this right is not being respected due to various child abuse incidents.

What is over protection?

I feel over protection is an objective term. It depends on the child or the circumstances. What is over protection for one child would not be over protection for the other ! Parents are in the best place to decide whether it is over protection or not.

Do you feel you are overprotecting your child?

If the answer is yes, then I would like to share some secrets with you on how to stop yourself from being overprotective,

Striking a balance

Whenever your child asks your permission to do things – don’t always say no. Give them a bit of freedom,depending on their age and ability, to explore things in their life. Don’t always stop them or scare them from exploring. If your 2 year old wants to run in the park, let them run even if there is a risk of them falling down and getting hurt. On the other hand, you cannot allow your child to run on the streets!

Trust your instincts

Your instinct will always guide you – what you are doing is correct or not. You understand your child better than anyone. You know what your child is capable of. Few times, I have had the instinct that something is not right and BAM, my child has been injured, luckily not seriously !

If something doesn’t feel right to you, then don’t let your child do it. Even if it is at the risk of getting yourself labelled as an overprotective parent .

Have Faith

It is very important for every human being to have faith in something or somebody. Have faith that God or universe or angels are always looking after your child. They will protect your child from anything bad or unpleasant.

Trust your child

You have to have faith in your parenting skills.  You have already taught your child that he/she needs to wrap up in the cold weather otherwise they might fall sick. Now, have the faith that they will do so in the school when they are playing in the playground. Don’t worry unnecessarily at home or at work if they have done so or not. Trust your child to follow your advice. Even if they do not and fall sick, they will learn from that experience .

Give them some space

As children start growing up, give them some space. Mothers should especially do his. If you spend every waking moment with your child- you will start becoming more and more overprotective towards your child! Let the father of the child take them out without you for a couple of hours even though you(Mother) are the one who primarily looks after the child.

Overprotectiveness can have negative effects too

Remember that if you are protecting your child from every bad thing possible, it can have a lot of negative effects on the child like:

  • Child won’t be able to solve smallest issues on her/his own
  • Child might have problems in her/his relationships
  • Child might be low in self-confidence as she/he has very rarely learnt from her/his own mistakes
  • Child won’t think much of herself/himself so would be low in self-esteem too

 

All the above will affect his/her adult life too.

Conclusion

Parents have to decide what constitutes over protection for their children and what doesn’t depending on the age and ability of the child. I believe following your instinct is the best way to avoid over protection. Do you overprotect your children? Have you got any tips or suggestions to prevent overprotecting children? Please share via comment box below.

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Harry Potter Gifts and Collectibles – A Must For Every Harry Potter Fan!

If you are or your kids are Harry Potter fans, you will need no introduction to these series of fantasy novels (later made into movies ) of witchcraft and wizardry. The books, films and collectibles take us into a world we would always like to fantasize or dream about. The creative people couldn’t stop making all the collectibles for the Harry potter movies after the last one had been made, so they continued to make them and sell them to Harry Potter fans. Some of the most beautiful Harry Potter gifts and collectibles that I would love to have or all Harry Potter fans would love to have are:

Lego Harry Potter Minifigures

Lego mini figures of Harry Potter characters like Harry Potter, Hermione Granger, Ron Weasley or Lord Voldemort are very good for kids to pretend play with their favourite characters from the Harry Potter series. The mini figures are not boxed but the quality of the mini figures is as you would expect of Lego. The price is a bit high if you would look at it as a Lego piece but if you are a Harry Potter fan, the price is very reasonable for these figures. The 4 figures below of Harry,Hermione, Ron and Voldemort are a must have!

Product name: Lego Harry Potter Minifigures

Price: £8.43 – £6.17

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages : 6 years+

My rating: 5/5

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Lego Harry Potter Quidditch Match Building Set

Product name: Lego Harry Potter Quidditch Match Building Set

Price: £34.99

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages : 7-14 years

My rating: 5/5

Every fan would love to play Quidditch game. Beautifully created by Lego. Recreates this exciting game and includes features like:

  • Fly through the hatch in the Gryffindor Tower
  • Shoot the Quaffle through the rings by using the broom’s mounted shooting function
  • Knock players off their brooms!
  • Hurl a spell
  • Keep score using the Hufflepuff house tower scoring system
  • Cheer for your team with the removable megaphone on the Ravenclaw house tower

Includes:

  • 6 Lego Harry potter mini figures – Harry Potter, Hermione Granger, Severus Snape, Oliver Wood, Lucian Bole and Marcus Flint
  • 4 towers – Gryffindor, Slytherin, Ravenclaw and Hufflepuff Tower each having a play feature
  • A base with 3 goal posts and rings, moving keeper function and Bludger stud Shooter
  • Accessories include a chest, 2 wands,4 brooms, Quaffle, Golden Snitch, bat, 2 bludgers, trophy, megaphone and scoreboard.
  • Contains 500 pieces.

Price is high but it is Lego and Harry Potter, perfect combination for the young fans!

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Lego Harry Potter Hogwarts Great Hall

Product name: Lego Harry Potter Hogwarts Great Hall

Price: £88.95

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages : 9-14 years

My rating: 5/5

Another brilliant creature by Lego! Features includes:

  • 4-level tower with movable spiral staircase, treasure and potions room with a turret featuring the mirror of Erised.
  • 10 mini figures of Harry Potter, Hermione Granger, Ron Weasley, Draco Malfoy, Susan Bones, Professor McGonagall, Professor Quirrell with dual Lord Voldemort face, Hagrid, Albus Dumbledore and Nearly Headless Nick.
  • Also includes build able features like Basilisk and Fawkes creatures, Hedwig and Scabbers figures.
  • Accessory elements include 7 wands,3 tumblers, an umbrella, lantern,broom, sorting hat, cauldron,potions,candles,2 wizard brooms, food , trophy,teapot,chest,a spider and a boat with a hanging lantern.
  • Contains 878 pieces.

Pros

  • Lego have thought of everything! Fantastic creation especially the spiral staircase. High quality set.
  • Instructions to build are easy to follow.
  • Lego and Harry Potter combination is brilliant- every child and parent will love it!
  • Great gift for Christmas or birthdays or to just added to your Harry Potter Collection!

Cons

  • Very expensive- but Lego is always expensive and if you are a Harry Potter nut, price won’t be an issue.
  • Might take a little while to build this .
  • Small pieces might get lost.

Overall, a great product!

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Lego Harry Potter Hogwarts Express Train Set

Product name: Lego Harry Potter Hogwarts Express Train Set

Price: £66.99

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages : 8-14 years

My rating: 4.5/5

Amazing Hogwarts Express Train set with railway bridge and platform 9 3/4 ! Includes:

  • 5 mini figures – Harry Potter, Hermione Granger, Ron Weasley,Remus Lupin, the trolley witch and Dementor and Scabbers figures.
  • 1 carriage with 4 seats, removable side panel and roof (so that you can play inside ) and a trolley witch with sweets trolley.
  • Accessory elements include 3 luggages,4 wands, chocloate frog, ice cream,2 newspapers, King’s Cross sign, platform 9 3/4 sign and a wanted poster.
  • Contains 801 pieces.

As I said before you can’t go wrong with Lego and Harry Potter combination. The only cons are it is slightly overpriced and may take a couple of hours to build!

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Hermione Granger’s Wand Necklace

Product name: Hermione Granger’s Wand Necklace

Price: £24.99

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

My rating: 5/5

Necklace with a Hermione’s wand as the pendant .

This necklace:

  • is official Harry Potter licensed Hermione Granger necklace and has a Warner Brothers legal trademark.
  • Is silver plated so is the wand.
  • Has copyright logo at the back.
  • Comes in an Ollivander’s Wand gift box.

The wand is 12 cm and the necklace is 80 cm. It is a genuine collectors item.

Pros

  • Great quality and good value for money.
  • Beautiful and elegant necklace.
  • Necklace is a good length.
  • It comes in a nice Ollivanders gift box
  • Perfect gift for girls and women.

I cannot think of any cons – can you?

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Harry Potter Tops Trumps Match Game

Product name: Harry Potter Top Trumps Match Game

Price: £14.72

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Age: 4+

My rating: 5/5

The crazy cube game!

Take turns to push in the cubes.

Be the first to match any of the five of the same Harry Potter Characters horizontally, vertically or diagonally! The game is not over yet. If your opponent can match their top trumps card with the winning Harry Potter Character, they win the game!

Pros

  • Simple game for Harry Potter fans. You don’t have to be a fan to play this game. Harry Potter is just a theme.
  • Good value for money.
  • Hours of fun for children between ages 6-10 years.
  • Game comes in a tidy case so it is portable.
  • Family game.

Cons

  • The card storage at the top of container is not very secure.
  • It is difficult to close the case securely at times.

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Harry Potter Marauders Map

Product name: Harry Potter Marauders Map

Price: £37.26

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

My rating: 4.5/5

A detailed full size Marauders Map replica printed on parchment paper. 6′ when unfolded.

Pros

  • A high quality GSM paper is used so it won’t tear unless you really try to tear it!
  • A beautiful collectible for a Harry Potter fan!

Cons

  • Overpriced

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Harry Potter Golden Snitch Light

Product name: Harry Potter Golden Snitch Light, Multi Colour

Price: £21.51

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Size: 20 cm (7.9″)

My rating: 4/5

Harry Potter Golden Snitch Light is USB powered light. USB cable is included. Features Golden Snitch floating in an illuminated bell jar. Capture the Golden Snitch or use it light your room maybe as a lovely bedside light. Tap it to turn it on or off. The Golden Snitch light is an officially licensed Harry Potter product.

Pros

  • Good gift for a Harry Potter fan.
  • It can be used as a bedside lamp.
  • It looks beautiful when illuminated.

Cons

  • Lots of plastic used.
  • You might need to tap harder to turn it on or off.
  • It can be switched on only when it is powered by a USB cable.

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Harry Potter Wands

Product name: Harry Potter Wands

Price: £30.78-£32.13

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk
My rating
: 5/5

Harry Potter collection is never complete without the wand of the wizard. Wand of each character comes beautifully packed in an Ollivander’s box

Harry Potter’s wand

Lord Voldemort’s wand

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hermione Granger’s wand

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My favourite character is Hermione and I would definitely like to buy her wand!

So which one is your favourite Harry Potter character? Which collectible did you like the best? Would you buy one for yourself or somebody else? Let me know via comment box below!

Until next time, Harry Potter fans!

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Favoritism Affects Children – Of All Ages

Childhood is the foundation of our lives. The imprint of childhood builds our thoughts, beliefs, actions. Ultimately our adult life will pan out based on our childhood. It is imperative that parents do everything in their hands to ensure that their child doesn’t lack in self-confidence or have a low self-esteem. Unfortunately, some parents favour one child over the other which affects both their self-confidence and their self-esteem. Favoritism affects children of all ages.

Even if you are an elderly parent with adult children, your partiality towards one child will affect your relationship with the other children. Favoritism also affects sibling relationships. Unfavoured children would ask themselves as well as the parents – what does he/she(favoured child) do, that I don’t do? – and rightfully so!

Each child has their own identity

Whether you are a young parent or an elderly parent, whether your child is young or an adult- it should always be remembered that each child has their own identity. Each child thinks and acts differently. Their wishes and dreams are different. In case of adult children, each child’s opinion will also be different.

Parents should always remain impartial

Whenever siblings fight with each other, as children or as adults, parents should always remain impartial, it doesn’t matter what the parent’s opinion is on the topic! By impartial I mean, they shouldn’t take sides. In the event you have to take sides, be fair and just. I know it is easier said than done, but you can try! Parenting is never easy! It is , in my opinion , the biggest responsibility!

Parents should always focus on the positives of each child

From the time children are born, it is very important that parents always see the positive aspects of each child and focus upon it. Give them encouragement on it. For example if one child is excelling academically whilst the other is good at music, encourage and praise them both for their excellence in studying or music even if you believe only in academics. Also, support your children in their weaker areas. Show them that you are there for them. This will automatically increase their confidence in their weaker areas.

Each child should have their own space in your life

Let each child be their own person. Let them have their own space in your life. Each child will bring a different aspect in your life. If you show favoritism, they might feel insecure. Their insecurities will cause a lot of fighting between the siblings .

Parents’ duty

Even if the children feel that you are being favourable,when that is not the case, it is the parent’s duty to reassure the children that the parents love all their children equally.

Creating and maintaining a strong family bond

It is the parents duty from the very beginning to create a strong bond between all their children. This can be only achieved by treating all of them equally. If they are treated in the same way irrespective of their gender, age or capabilities, they will be very secure in their relationship with the parents as well as their siblings.

Elderly parents

When parents become elderly their reliance on their adult children would increase. At this point in life, it is imperative that parent continue to treat their adult children equally. Parents attention on their adult children shouldn’t be affected by which child is serving them the most in their old age. Each child might be facing a different set of circumstances in their life. Be accommodating of all your children’s opinions- respect and acknowledge their opinions .

Elderly parents should bear in mind that once they pass on,their children have only got each other, so the parents should try much as possible to keep the children’s relations with each other strong. Favoritism creates a lot of strain on the sibling relations.

Favouring the weaker child

Parents often start favouring the child, who in their opinion is the weakest. They often focus on the weaker child’s weaknesses! In this process they stop focusing on their other children with a view that the stronger child will be able to cope on their own while the weaker child won’t be able to cope. ! All children need equal attention of their parents!

 

So the important thing here is that parents should always focus on the strengths of all their children. Make their strengths stronger and their weakness weaker! Every child has got a strength!

 

Favouring a child shows ingratitude

In my opinion, favouring one child over the others shows ingratitude. Each child is a gift or a boon from the source or God. Appreciate, respect and be grateful towards each child that has been given to you.

If you have been a favoured /unfavoured child

Parents, in case you are or were a favoured /unfavored child with your parents, remember to be true to yourself. If you have been a favoured child, always think of your siblings, respect and love them. If you have been an unfavoured child, do not let the opinion of your parents become your reality. Find out the real you through meditation. Belief in yourself. You do not have to prove anything to anybody. Just follow your heart! Do as much as you can for your parents without beating yourself ! Love yourself!

Forgive your parents – as parents are humans and humans make mistakes! Most of all, do not repeat your parents mistakes with your children.

Conclusion

Parents are responsible for molding the future of their children. Parental responsibility starts from the time children are born and will only finish when the parent passes on. Therefore, it is the lifetime duty of the parents, to treat each child equally and appreciate their strengths and appreciate their unique identity. Many a times it might feel difficult to do so- but a parent can never stop trying ! A parent is a hope, a strength, a foundation of a child, whether the child is a kid or an adult.

What are your feelings on the topic of favoritism? Do you favour one child over the other? Have your parents treated you and your siblings equally? Let me know via comment box below!

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I Want To Be A Stay At Home Mom – Yes or No?

Every mother has to make a decision, preferably within the first five years of motherhood, do I want to go back to work or do I want to be a stay at home mom? The longer you leave this decision (I call it dilemma) , the harder it is going to become if you decide to go back to work. There are a lot of implications for choosing either, that’s why I call it a dilemma!

Mother’s guilt

Whenever a mother does anything for herself, the first thing that she feels is guilt, for not thinking of her child- even if it is for just 15 minutes! It is just feels like a default way of thinking, think of the children first, think of myself later. I will do everything for kids first then I will do things for myself. I will buy kids clothes first and then if there is money left then I will buy something for myself. In case a mother does not think like this (thinking of her children first), she is faced with enormous guilt!

Pressure of juggling housework, kids and a career

Moms, let’s just face it, it is very hard to juggle all the household chores like cooking,cleaning ,laundry, looking after kids and handling a demanding full time job! When I went back to work in a full time job out of desperation ( I was going absolutely bonkers at home), I knew within a week of working, this isn’t going to work for me. The pressure was enormous!

Coming back home at 6 pm after collecting the kids, was not only very tiring – but there was no time to do their homework with them! It was either homework or cooking dinner! Keeping kids in after school club was tiring for them as well! They were struggling! Hence, my mother’s guilt came into effect and I had to quit my job within 2.5 weeks!

Have you got any help or support from the grandparents?

This is a very crucial factor- in fact I would go as far as saying that this is the most important factor! Have you got any help with your child from the grandparents, maternal or paternal? Even if you have got the slightest bit of help, you can pull off a full time job. You would need this help especially when your child is sick or during school holidays. I mean with such a tight schedule – there are chances that you might not be able to manage everything on some days – a mom is a human too!

At times, you might be so knackered from your full time job, you would appreciate somebody(grandparent) cooking dinner for you and your family ! Bear in mind the age and health of the grandparent, do not overload them with looking after your children. Remember the grandparents have already done their bit of looking after their children, do not expect them to look after your children in the same way as you do – they are much older !

If you would like to know the role of grandparents in your child’s life, please refer to my previous post here.

Every mother needs mental stimulation and social interaction

The reason for acute boredom for stay at home moms is that there is no mental stimulation – you are just doing menial jobs, nothing where your are using your mind. Another reason is that, you would have less social interaction than when you were working, before you had your baby. A little dose of either of this will work wonders on you!

Laziness

If you have been staying at home for sometime now, you would feel lazy to go back to work and obey all the rules and regulations of the company you work for. You have been only listening to yourself (and your baby) for sometime now. It is very hard to get back into the work mode, if you have been sitting at home for 2 years or more!

Good state of finances

you are in a good position financially, maybe due to savings and investment or maybe your spouse is earning well, you would have no motivation to go back to work either?

Why did I become a stay at home mom?

a stay at home mum, initially as I had no help. But then I also had a mother’s guilt which said ‘your mother stayed at home and looked after you. You should be doing this as well’ After all children copy their parents- I have stated this in practically all my posts! But now after 8 years of being a stay at home mom, I can tell you with certainty that this decision(not a dilemma anymore!)has been most beneficial to me and my children.

Deal with the cons of being a stay at home mom

As I said earlier, both paths, stay at home or working, has got implications- so if you decide to be a stay at home mom, these are the secrets, I would like to share with you, to keep you sane:

  • Your life hasn’t stopped just because you are a stay at home mom. You have got free time while your child is in nursery or at school. Make the most of that time.
  • Accept your decision of staying at home whole heartedly- no ifs and buts !
  • If you are struggling financially – look for other sources of income like running your own business from home – this will not only give you extra money but also financial independence, confidence and mental stimulation.
  • Meet up with your friends every few weeks or other moms for coffee or dinner – this will give you social interaction with adults !
  • Join a fitness lesson like zumba, Pilates or yoga. Not only will this help you get back in shape after becoming mother, it will also be a great opportunity to make more friends and thereby give you social interaction and a change of environment as well.

Honour and pride

Do not disregard the honour and pride of being a stay at home mom. It will be without doubt the most selfless thing you will ever do! You will develop a deep bond with your children and you will see the fruits of it very soon in your life! Your children will be what you want them to be. They will not be influenced heavily by grandparents or childminders thinking! They will be primarily influenced by you !

 

Conclusion

I know that my decision to be a stay at home mom is correct. But I would advise you only to take this decision if you feel it is right the right one for you. Make sure that once you decide, you stick to your decision .

Are you a stay at home mom ? Was your mother a stay at home mom? Are you facing a dilemma whether you should be a stay at home mom or not? Do you feel you are sacrificing your children by going back to work? Get in touch with me via comment box below.

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Organic Kids Clothes – What Does That Mean? Where do you Buy?

When I had first heard the term organic clothes, I wasn’t sure what it really meant. My mind instantly started thinking of organic milk, fruits and vegetables! But now, when we are looking for commodities which are chemical free as well as earth friendly, I feel that organic clothes are something which all clothes manufacturers should be aim for.

According to Wikipedia, Organic clothing is is clothing made from materials raised in or grown in compliance with organic agricultural standards.

What is Organic Cotton and where do buy these clothes from?

I would like to introduce to you(if you do not already know ) to organic cotton clothes made by a brand called Frugi. They make kids clothes out of organic cotton . So what exactly is organic cotton?

  • Organic cotton is super -soft.
  • It is very soft because the fibres are left intact and not broken down by chemicals used in farming and processing of cotton .
  • Organic cotton lasts for a long time as it is very durable.

Other pros of Frugi Organic Kids Clothing are:

Reduce Reuse Recycle

Frugi’s outerwear is made from recycled plastic bottles. According to Frugi’s website, it takes 36 recycled plastic drinking water bottles to make one winter jacket ! That sounds very impressive to me, plastic has become a very big problem worldwide and this is a very good way to recycle plastic.

Employees of Frugi looked after and are treated with respect

Frugi’s suppliers are in Turkey , Portugal , India and China. They ensure that all the suppliers follow their code of conduct which is:

  • No child labour.
  • No forced labour or employment. Employees just need to give reasonable notice before leaving the employment.
  • No discrimination is allowed for hiring or firing anyone.
  • All employees are provided with safe hygienic environment .

We have all often heard of horror stories of our clothes being made in sweatshops where the employees are little children or overworked and lowly paid adults working in an unhygienic environment.

So Frugi is a like a breath of fresh air!

Charity

Frugi donates 1% percent of their Turnover to charity . So in the last 11 years they have donated £428,000.

Frugi has covered a lot to be a responsible Organisation !

So Who are the Founders of Frugi?

Frugi was founded in 2004 by parents Lucy and Kurt who struggled to find clothes to fit their son’s cloth nappied bum.

Clever ,colourful , good looking clothes

  • Reversible clothes – your child has a stain on his/her clothes and you need to go out- no problem, just reverse the clothes!
  • Designed to fit over cloth nappies or disposable nappies with plenty of wriggle room.
  • Parsnip pants – Due to generous fold over on waistband and cuffs, they don’t ride up.
  • Adjustable button up straps and waistbands to accommodate growth spurts in children.
  • Great quality , clothes last forever. Clothes feel very soft and snugly. Designs are very colourful too.
  • Outerwear is made from recycled plastic drinking water bottles – that’s the environment taken care of !

Their collection

Maternity Wear

You can use these clothes during pregnancy as well as for breastfeeding. These super soft fabrics can keep you warm in the winter.

 

 

 

Twist Front Dress

 

 

 

 

 

Jersey Smock Dress

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Pointelle Pyjama Top

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Contrast Raglan Top

 

 

 

 

 

Roll Top Yoga Pants

 

 

 

 

 

 

Babies Clothes

 

 

 

 

 

 

Snuggle Suit

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lovely Babygrow

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dinky Cord Dungaree

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Kids Clothes


 

 

 

 

 

Holly Cord Dress

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Finn Fairisle Jumper

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Toasty Towelling Robe

 

 

 

 

And many more…

Click link below to access their full collection.

 

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Benefits of Frugi VIP Subscription

An annual subscription of £9.50 entitles you to

  • Free unlimited UK first class delivery for 12 months .
  • Free returns (via downloadable returns form).
  • Free welcome gift.
  • Early access to two end of seasons sales.

Award winning brand

Frugi are the winners of multiple awards including Feefo Gold award and The Loved By Parents Awards which is the most trusted parenting award programmes worldwide.

I always like to include in my posts what things I don’t like about a brand or product :

  • Clothes are slightly expensive especially if you always buy cheap and cheerful clothes. The cost is justified due to the pretty designs and durability of the clothes.
  • If you do not have any stores near you , you would have to buy the Frugi VIP subscription or pay online delivery charges if you spend under £50 in the United Kingdom. If you live outside the UK, you would have to pay different or maybe higher delivery charges.

Conclusion

I am truly impressed by their colourful range of clothes for babies, kids as well as maternity wear for mothers. Perhaps something more appealing is the fact that the clothes are environment friendly, child friendly and of great quality .

Have you ever bought organic kids clothing? What is your experience of it? Do you buy clothes from Frugi? Please share your experiences via comment box below.

 

Happy shopping!

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Comparing Children – Should A Parent Compare Their Children To Others?

As soon as a child is born, every parent inadvertently start comparing their little one to other babies. As the child grows, everything from crawling to teething or to performance at school is compared. Which one did better? By comparing children they put immense pressure on themselves as well as on their child.

“Your child is very active, mine doesn’t do half the things yours does”. “Your child is so clever at maths, mine hates studying”. “Your son is so tall”. It can be awkward for a mother whose child is being compared to! How do you even deal with such unfair comparisons!

Every child is special

In my opinion, every child has something special in them. If one child is good at physical activities, other might be good at maths. If one toddler starts walking at 10 months another might start crawling at 6 months. If one child is a good eater other might be a very obedient child.

Does comparison actually help?

In my opinion , comparison only causes unhappiness to the parents. A parent can’t make their child behave or act like somebody else’s child. If they try to do, it is going to be disastrous – for the parents because they won’t be able to make that happen and for the child because he/she will face immense pressure from the parents to do something they are unable to do. When the child is not able to do what the parents expect him or her to do, the child will feel that he/she is not good at anything. This will cause very low self-confidence in the child .

Good qualities of the child are ignored

Parents who compare their child to the others, always focus on making their child do something they are not good at. In this process they fail to see the immense talents or skills the child has, what comes naturally to the child. In fact, the child will not even realise that they are good at anything. They will just think they are good for nothing .

Affects relationship with the child they are compared to

If you compare your child to another, say a friend,  then your child will start disliking or even start hating the other child. “What is it that she is doing that I am not doing?”. “Why am I always wrong and he is always right?” Comparison will create a lot of negativity in your child.

Impacts Parent child relationship

Because of the high or incorrect expectations , the child never ‘warms up’ to the parent with the fear that he/she might do something which might not please the parent!

So, what do you as a parent do ?

  • Appreciate/accept your child the way he/she is.
  • Find out what he/she is good at. Focus on it. For example, if they are good at piano and not at maths, support their piano skills by enrolling them for piano lessons.Help them with practicing piano etc. It doesn’t mean, that you ignore making them practice maths . In fact give them extra practice in maths as studying is equally important. But do not compare them to another child who is good at maths . Don’t keep reminding them that they are weak in maths.
  • Whenever they perform well in maths, praise them. This will increase their confidence and also encourage them to perform better.
  • Always, always focus on what your child can do, rather than what they can’t do!

Comparison always leads to trouble

There is no end to comparison. If you start comparing how many toys your child has as compared to his/her best friend, you will feel pressurised to buy more toys for your child. This will not only cause financial strain (depending how far you go ) but you might run the risk of your child being ungrateful and greedy. The most important thing your child will ever need are love and attention ! Everything else is secondary.

Never compare your children with each other

If you compare your child to their sibling, it will also start affecting the siblings relationship with each other. This might have a lifetime effect on your children. So for the sake of family unity, never compare your children. Each child is different. Each child is unique. Even if your parents compared you to your sibling in your childhood, don’t repeat the same mistake with your children. Do not repeat your parents’s mistakes.

Conclusion

Each child develops at his or her pace. All kinds of developments like crawling, walking happen within an age range. If you are concerned about any developmental issue, you should speak to medical professional rather than comparing your child with somebody else’s. Telling your child “why don’t you learn this from your brother or your friend”? can affect their confidence for the rest of their lives.

All parents (including me) tend to compare their children to others upto a certain extent, as long as it is done only as an observation. It shouldn’t go any further than that.

Do you compare your child or children? Or have you experienced someone comparing their child to yours? What do you feel about comparing children? Please share your experiences via comment box below!

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Effective Parent Child Communication – Keep The Doors Open!

The most important aspect of any relationship is communication. Miscommunication causes a lot of misunderstanding. When your children are very young it is the best time to set up a very good communication system between you and your children. Effective parent child communication is of great importance at every stage.

As a parent, you do not want them to hide things from you. Your aim is to be involved in their life and their choices or decisions. Maintaining good communication with your children is an investment which will benefit you even when your children are grown-ups.

You need to start early – the earlier you start communicating effectively with your children, the easier it is going to be. As soon as a baby is born, he/she is aware of who his /her carer is. You can communicate with them when you play with them- for example when you play hide-and-seek or any other game. When you talk to them, talk in full sentences. For example say “do you want milk?” instead of just “milk”. This will encourage them to talk in full sentences as well. Also, give them choices – “do you want this or that?” This will encourage them to make small decisions .

How was your day?

As your child grows up, communicate with them according their age and understanding. Whenever they have any questions or curiosity about anything – answer it honestly. Do not discourage them by saying “stop asking me questions” If you are in the middle of something, just say “let me tell you later “. This will teach children the importance of communication. Once they start going to a pre school or primary/secondary school, you can ask them “how was your day?” . Encourage them to tell you the highlights of the day. Tell them yours too ! They will feel involved in your life too!

Secrets

Kids love secrets. Most likely they would like to tell you secrets if they did something harmless but naughty at school. Tell them your secrets- make it up – something fun and child friendly! Talking in different ways with your kids encourages communication.

Sometimes it may seem like a chore – but doing this continuously will be very helpful especially when you really need your child to talk to you – for example if they are being bullied or harassed at school. Or when you feel that they are mingling with rough or wrong crowd. If your kids tell you something in confidence – like an embarrassing moment they had – keep it a secret- don’t blurt it out to the other parents. Tell your spouse about in private- and not in front of the child.

Finding solutions

From an early age encourage your children to discuss any issues they might be having at school. Try to resolve any problems they might be having. Give them options – if they are not happy with the solution you have provided them with. If they have got a dilemma about anything you can steer them in the right direction.

Tap their feelings

If your child discusses an incident with you in school, ask them how did they feel about it? Try to gauge their feelings on it. If they did not feel good about it, try to soothe their feelings about it. Next time they go through a difficult situation, they will discuss their feelings about the situation without you having to ask about it.

Praise them

Praise them when they give you some important information. This will encourage them to do it again.

Trivia

When they talk, however trivial it is, LISTEN! You never know what you might learn! If they are doing something wrong, you will know early on, which would give you a chance to guide or steer them in the right direction!

Do not close doors to anything

Do not close doors to any kind of communication or discussion with your kids – whether you agree with them or not. Kids too have the right to express their opinion!

In case, they are curious about the human anatomy, do not shy away from the topic- try to answer their questions truthfully. If you feel it is not age appropriate – tell them ” I will tell you about it at the right time”- keep the doors open. Don’t say something like “you shouldn’t talk about this – you are too young” otherwise they might try to satisfy their curiosity in incorrect ways.

If they are curious about cigarettes or alcohol- discuss it with them. If you try to avoid these topics then they will get more curious and might be tempted to even try it before they are 16 years of age. Even if you are a non-smoker or a non-alcoholic – always discuss this topic with them rather than forcing them to change their mind. Correct them if you feel they are wrong but don’t tell them off.

Do not say things like “this topic is not up for discussion” – if it is something you do not agree with tell them the reasons as to why you are saying what you are saying .

Try to understand their perspective

If you want your children to communicate with you and keep you involved in their life, it is very important that you try to understand their perspective at least sometimes. If you refuse to understand their point of view every single time, they may stop communicating with you just to avoid an argument !

If you are wrong admit it

If you are wrong or you have made a mistake, you should admit to your children that you have made a mistake. Think of all the times when you pointed out their mistakes. Let go of your ego !

Conclusion

Remember, the goal of every parent is to be best friends with their children ! This can be achieved only if you treat them as an individual and with respect – just like you would treat your friends!

Are you your child’s best friend? Have you got any tips or tricks on how to communicate effectively with children? Please share via comment box below.

Happy New Year !

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Christmas and Gratitude – Feeling Grateful is The Real Meaning of Christmas!

Parents and Grandparents are always eager to shower children and grandchildren with tons of Christmas presents. It is perfectly natural for them to feel the need to give the children whatever they didn’t get in their childhood like toys, games,books ,clothes, electronic games etc. By doing so they forget to explain to the children the real and true meaning of Christmas and that Christmas and gratitude go hand in hand.

Christmas cards

There are a lot of people who think, “he gave me a Christmas card this year but last year he didn’t, I gave him a Christmas card last year, so this year I won’t! Then we are equal! ” or “she never gives me a Christmas card, why should I ?” Unfortunately this kind of feeling catches up with the children when they listen to the parents’ or Grandparents’ dilemma about whom to give cards and who not to!

It is forgotten that giving is the true spirit of Christmas. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if people saved money by not buying Christmas cards and using that money to feed the homeless or giving toys to the poor children. After all, we have now got so many fantastic communication methods in the form of email, social media or good old texting(sms) !

If children want to give Christmas cards to their friends, they should be encouraged to make their own cards! If parents can help younger children make the cards, it will create a good bonding time with the kids as well!

Are our children becoming too greedy at Christmas time?

All children are busy counting how many chocolates, how many presents they received at Christmas time. Children are innocent but in their innocence, they start believing or thinking that this is what Christmas is about.

How many toys can a child play with or how many chocolates can he eat? There has to be some limit. There has to be some appreciation … and lots of gratitude.

Charity

Children should be encouraged to give their toys to charity – to the less privileged kids. This will develop gratitude in them. Before Christmas kids can be asked to choose some of their toys to give for charity and in return they will get Christmas presents. This will teach them to give before receiving.

Why am I going on and on about gratitude?

I understand that children have the right to enjoy their childhood and childhood is the golden period of life. But it is equally important to teach children gratitude. This will help them get through difficult times in life when they become adults. Gratitude will teach them to be happy at all times, no matter what their circumstances are.

Please refer to my previous post on Teaching Children To Be Grateful – A Way To Happiness .

If it is not presents and food and drink, then what is Christmas about? My thoughts are :

Christmas is family time

Children should be taught that Christmas is about spending time with family. It isn’t about who has given what present. It isn’t about who has got the most decoration or lights outside their house! It is the time to be grateful that you have got a family ! Christmas is the time to appreciate each other and not fight with each other!

Christmas is a time for believing in God

Christmas is the time to believe in God, being thankful for giving us a beautiful life. Christmas is about having faith that everything will be ok. Christmas is about believing that God is always looking after you! Christmas is about believing that God has got your back!

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How Do You Become Grateful during Christmas

Children always “copy” their parents. Parents are the role models of their children. Be Always what you want your kids to be especially when they come adults. Cut down on your Christmas expenditures like Christmas presents, Christmas cards, Christmas decorations,Christmas day food and drinks! Any money you save should be used for charity. It is better to light somebody’s life during Christmas then lighting up your already lit up house ! 

Please note that the keyword here is cut down . You don’t need to stop celebrating Christmas just to teach gratitude to your children.

If everybody cuts down their Christmas expense even by a tiny amount, not only will their children learn to be more grateful but also it will benefit all poor and underprivileged adults and children. The fun is in the giving not in the receiving!

Next steps

I know most of us would have already made all arrangements for Christmas by now, but we can always start next year. This year I have saved tiny amount of money by making this Christmas tree decoration with my children! It was great fun!

What are your plans for Christmas this year? Do you agree that Christmas is the time to express your gratitude to God? Please put your thoughts and plans in the comment box below!

Merry Christmas to all of you!

 

 

 

 

Christmas Games For Families – 10 Board games To Choose From!

It is going to be Christmas in less than 2 weeks and most of you would already have plans for Christmas. Whether you do or you don’t, all families would be looking for entertainment ideas for the day. Christmas is a time for families to spend time together and bond with each other. Playing games is a great way to have fun and bond together. Here are my suggestions for some Christmas games for families to play and bond together:

Scrabble

Game: Scrabble Original Board Game

Price : £14.99

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages: 10 years+

Players: 2 to 4

Description: Everybody knows scrabble. Test your vocabulary and see who wins – adults or children! Game consists of making interlocking words in a crossword fashion.

Younger children can also play this game by making three letter words with their tiles without interlocking the words without using the board!

Each letter gives points and whoever scores the highest wins! Easier said then done especially when you are stuck with letters you don’t want! Even worse when your child makes bigger words than you!

 

Monopoly

Game: Monopoly(original game)

Price : £13.49

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages: 8 years+

Players: 2 to 6

Description: What better game to play during Christmas then good old Monopoly. Play this game and relive your childhood. This game teaches youngsters how to negotiate, be social as well as improve their mathematical skills and also how to handle money. This game can be played by parents, grandparents too. I sill remember playing this classic game with my Grandmother years ago! Available on Amazon at a reasonable price. Beware the pound notes are still very thin just like before!

 

 

Headbanz

Game: Headbanz

Price : £8.99

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages: 7 years+

Players: 2 to 6

Description: A quick question game -“What am I ?” Answer to which everybody knows except you ! Guess the answer and you win. A fun game for people of all ages! Reasonably priced game, it takes ages for anybody to win but easy enough for all ages.

Pictionary

Game: Pictionary Board Game(Mattel Games)

Price : £20.99

Where to buy:Amazon.co.uk

Ages: 3 years+

Players: 4

Description: Draw a clue card, sketch it out and let your team-mates guess it. Everybody gets a turn at drawing. Lot of fun and laughter as your team members try guessing what word you are drawing! So how good are you at drawing? Find out with this game!

 

The Yes No Game

Game:The Yes No Game

Price : £7.28

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages: 8 years+

Players: 2-6

Description: A fast and furious game where answering Yes or No gets you dinged out by the bell. One player takes a card and reads the questions to the opponent. If opponent answers Yes or No, they get dinged by the bell and the player can keep the card. If they answer all question up to the end, the opponent keeps the card. The player who has most cards is the winner.

Rudolph Red Nose Game

Game:Rudolph Red Nose Game

Price : £4.49

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages: For all ages

Players: 35

Description: This game is like pin the tail on the donkey game changed specifically for Christmas. Each player has to put the red sticker on the target on Rudolph’s nose after spinning round 3 times blindfolded. The player whose sticker is nearest to the target is the winner.

Please note that blindfold is not included . You can just use a scarf or a cloth to cover the eyes.

 

 

Twister

Game:Twister

Price : £7.99

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages: 6 years+

Players: 2 and over

Description: This game is perfect to add fun for parties or for family nights. This game challenges you to place your hands and feet at different places on the mat without falling over. If your knees or elbows touch the mat, you are out of the game! All members of the family can find out how flexible they are with this game! So how flexible are you?

 

Asmodee Dobble Card Game

Game: Asmodee Dobble Card Game

Price : £9.99

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages: 6 years+

Players: 2-8

Description:Addictive fun for the entire family. 5 different ways to play this game. The goal of the game, no matter which game you choose, is to be the fastest in spotting identical symbols between two cards, name it aloud and then take the card and then place or discard the game depending on the game you are playing. Since there is no strategy for the game, and is based on your reactions and visual perceptions, there is no advantage adults have over the children. Let’s see who is faster, adults or children!

Qwirkle

Game: Qwirkle

Price : £27.90

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages: 6 years+

Players: 2-4

Description: You have to match the colours and shapes. While the game is simple and quick to learn, you need to play it strategically in order to score points and win. So are you ready to tax your brains?

 

Hasbro Gaming Classic Jenga

Game: Hasbro Gaming Classic Jenga

Price : £11.90

Where to buy: Amazon.co.uk

Ages: 6 years+

Players: 1+

Description: This game contains 54 precision crafted hardwood blocks. Remove blocks without crashing the tower! Stack up (stack sleeve included)and pull a loose block. Perfect family or a party game! Hours of fun included!

So which game is your favourite? Do you play games during Christmas? My favourite is Pictionary – I can’t stop laughing at my own drawings!

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Playpens For Toddlers – My Recommendation

 

As soon as a baby starts crawling, parents have a tough time ensuring the baby’s safety on one hand and finishing household chores on the other hand. One way around it is to get playpens for toddlers. Another benefit of a playpen is it helps keeps the room tidy as all the toys of the baby are inside the playpen. It becomes even more necessary to get a playpen, to keep your toddler safe from an older sibling playing or if you have got any pets in the house.
There are a lot of playpens available but I would like to recommend to you a playpen which can be folded and put away, can be easily wiped and is affordable and of a good quality as well.


The Venture All Star JOY Portable Playpen

Product name: All Star Joy Playpen

Where to buy: Amazon.co.UK

Price: £59.85

Dimensions: 136x 136 x 75 /1.4 sq. metres

For Ages: 6-24 months

My rating: 5/5

Warranty: 90 days manufacturer’s warranty

Other Features

  • Easy to set up and fold down. Comes in a carry bag for easy transportation.
  • New patented folding mechanism, eliminates steel cross sections as seen in older versions.
  • Made with an all steel frame and reinforced stitching and a double locking system for extra safety.
  • Padded nylon water resistant floor mat which enables indoor and outdoor use of the playpen. Easy to wipe clean as well.
  • Sides are equipped with ventilating mesh walls for easy visibility.
  • Zip-opening panel for easy access(see pictures).
  • Lightweight frame which comes fully assembled.
  • This playpen meets British Safety Standards BS EN 12227:2010.

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Pros

  • It is very sturdy and therefore hard for the toddler to topple it over. When my children were small we had a gym nest, which my daughter was very easily able to topple it over and this was a safety concern for me ! No worries about that with this playpen!
  • Great quality.
  • Easy to put it up and fold it down on a daily basis. It can be done single handedly by Mums!
  • No cross bars and therefore prevents little ones from climbing out of the playpen.
  • This can be used indoors as well as outdoors. For example it can be used in the house or used in your back garden, in the park or on the beach! Easy to clean – just clean it with a damp cloth. You can also take it to grandparents’s home !
  • Playpen comes with a storage bag so easy to carry it around.
  • You can keep the side panel “open” so that your child doesn’t feel he/she is in a cage. They can move in and out of the playpen if they want. Some children might feel scared of sitting inside the playpen so if they have got the option of moving in and out of the playpen, they will settle in the playpen faster. The side panel also enables parents to sit in the playpen.
  • You can see the child through the breathable sides without having to look over the top of the playpen.
  • Very spacious inside the playpen – enabling the parent or sibling to play with the child . Your child can crawl as well as play with his toys.
  • Reasonably priced.
  • In case, you don’t have much room in your home you can fold and put the playpen away when your child is sleeping unlike other playpens which are not practical as they cannot be folded and put away.

Cons

  • Padding of the mat might be thin for harder floors.
  • The metallic bars are hard so you might need to baby proof them .
  • It will take a bit of space and so if you are short of space you will have to fold down the playpen every evening when your child goes to sleep.
  • The sides are high so you might struggle to put the child from the top into the playpen. But you can put them easily from the side panel.

Conclusion

One of things which I (and I am sure other mothers ) struggled with was how to go to the toilet or the bathroom by leaving a crawling toddler unsupervised. This seems to be a good enough solution for this! Apart from that it is a good quality, safe product as well as reasonably priced. The negative points of this product are not important enough to avoid buying this product. Just make sure you have got enough space to place it as per the dimensions above. Therefore I would buy this product if I were looking for a playpen.

Have you ever used a playpen for your children? What has been your experience? If you have used this particular product please share your experiences for the benefit of other readers via comment box below.

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