Parenting Tips For Babies -10 Tips For New Parents

Having a baby is the most joyous time for anyone. For a new parent it can be also a daunting time as well if you have never handled a baby before. I remember the time I had my first child, I didn’t even know how to hold a baby! Remember your baby is like a blank slate so you can “write” what you like upon it. As crude as it sounds, this is the time you start setting routines for your baby, the fruits of which you will reap few years down the line. Below are a few Parenting Tips For Babies which I can offer from my experience which I feel are the most important:

Breast is Best

Breast milk is the best. If you are a new mother you will probably say “yeah right” or “I can’t cope” or “It will ruin my figure” . Let me point out to you some very beneficial things about mothers milk:

  1. No washing or sterlising bottles
  2. No buying expensive formulas, bottles or bottle sterlisers
  3. Breastfeeding helps reduce weight as it burns a lot of calories
  4. Makes it very easy for the Mother to bond with the baby
  5. Breast milk is all the baby needs until six months of age- no solids, no water required. Breast milk is free!
  6. Reduces chances of Ovarian cancer in women
  7. Breast milk contains everything a baby needs in terms of vitmains and protein which formula milk cannot provide
  8. You can use a Breast Pump for more flexibility

Massaging the Baby

Massaging the baby builds a bond with the mother. Put on some soothing music and massage the baby with baby oil. This will relax you as well. Try to massage the baby before or after a bath. Beware , babies will get very hungry after a massage . Babies are very slippery at bath and massage time so be careful.

Always Keep a Stock of Nappies


You should always have at least 10 nappies in stock at any point in time. Whenever you go to the supermarket always look out for offers. A baby will need about 8-10 nappy changes a day. In case your baby gets a sore bottom or a nappy rash keep some nappy rash cream. Another very handy tip is, if your baby has got nappy rash and the nappy rash cream doesn’t work (meaning if the cream doesn’t heal the rash) , put Vaseline Petroleum jelly on the rash. The petroleum jelly will not let the faeces or urine touch the rash. It acts as a barrier between the baby’s skin and the faeces or urine. Do frequent nappy changes especially when your baby has got a rash. Also, it is a good idea to give your baby “nappy free time” everyday(whether or not they have got a rash) . Nappy free time means do not put nappy on the baby for a little while everyday so that the baby’s skin can breathe. This reduces the chances of a nappy rash and if they have a nappy rash it will help heal it faster.

Tummy Time

Give babies tummy time meaning gently put the baby on their tummies for about 3 to 5 minutes per session and then gradually increase the time with each session. This encourages movement and also prevents them having a flat head as a baby’s skull is very soft. After they are 3 months old, they will learn how to roll over. Please note :give babies tummy time only when they are awake. Babies always have to sleep on their backs!

Floor Time

Give the babies a lot of floor time. Put a baby blanket or a baby gym and let them kick away! This encourages a lot of movement. Also, put a few baby toys near them and watch them try to grab the toys! This will increase their determination to persevere and is beautiful to watch.

Weaning Your Baby at Six Months

Medical professionals always advise to start your baby on solids at around six months of age. Start your child on soft fruits like Avocado ,Banana or cooked fruit like apple or pear. Few things to be kept in mind when you start weaning:

  1. Always ask your GP or Health Visitor for advise you if you feel your child has any allergies.
  2. If you do give any nuts, make sure you thoroughly ground them. I didn’t give my kids any nuts until they were 2 years as nuts are very hard to swallow.
  3. You can give babies finger foods which are foods that are easy for them to pick up and feed themselves like banana or rice cakes and carrot sticks(baby snacks). Encourage them to feed themselves by leaving the finger food on the tray of the high chair. Let them explore the texture of the food .
  4. Its better to crush and soften food rather than putting them in a blender. This strengthens their jaws and muscles. Being a vegetarian, I would put small pieces of chapati(Indian Roti) in a vegetable – no blending, If you give a cooked fruit like apple or pear, make sure you take the skin off, cook it until it is soft and then mash it with a fork. This will save your money as well by not buying those blenders for weaning.
  5. One very important tip is this- as soon as you have established weaning for at least one or two meals – at around 8-9 months, give your baby whatever you eat. For example if you are eating daal and rice, give the baby same thing as well. I would give my children daal and starchy rice(extremely well cooked and soggy) . You have just got to make sure that there is no salt or sugar or spice in the baby’s food and this would be a good time to reduce your salt and sugar intake too. Around this time also try to build it up to 3 meals a day.
  6. Last and most important tip – for drink always give them water in a cup. Don’t give them any juices. Let them get into the habit of drinking water. Juices contain lot of sugar which is not good for them.

Changing Bag

Don’t leave home without your changing bag. You will need the following in the changing bag:

  • Changing mat(travel mat)
  • Nappies
  • Cotton wool
  • Baby wipes
  • Nappy rash cream
  • Nappy sacks
  • Fresh pair of clothes

Never Leave your Baby Alone on the Changing Table

Don’t do this even for a second because that’s how long it takes for the baby to roll over and fall off. Its better to leave the baby on the floor provided it is not near a staircase as the baby might fall off the staircase.

Don’t Forget to Look After Yourself

Parents and especially Mothers often forget to look after themselves and forget to take breaks. You can ask your friends or granparents if they can look after the baby for couple of hours, go out and have a coffee or watch a movie ! Me time is very important! Make sure you are well rested too. Try to sleep when the baby sleeps.

Trust Your Instincts

If your instinct tells you your child is not well go to the Doctor. Don’t ignore or disregard your instinct.

A parent can understand their child the best. You would probably get a lot of unwanted advice from everybody around you. But follow an advice only if You feel it is suitable for your child/baby.

Please put your comments below if you would like to give your suggestion/opinions on my post.

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How to Stop Siblings From Fighting – Get Some Sanity In Your Life!

Picture this .. You and your partner have had a busy weekend(full of chores and kiddie birthday parties) and finally on a late Sunday afternoon you finally get a few minutes to put your feet up and grab a cup of tea… you are feeling relaxed as kids are busy playing upstairs and all is quiet…. MUMMY! DADDY! she scratched me! he grabbed my toy! Arghhh! You spill tea on your best white trouser.. Grrrr!! Ever wondered why siblings fight or more importantly, HOW to stop siblings from fighting before it sends you into meltdown? That too before you pull all your hair out… already you have lost a lot of hair !

Children fight for various reasons such as wanting parents’ attention, jealousy, not getting enough space from their younger sibling or even feeling victimised.. here are few tips on how you can prevent/reduce your children fighting based on my experience and maybe it could stop you from throwing your face in your hands repeatedly:

Don’t Compare Your Children

Don’t compare your children to each other or to anyone for that matter. Each child has his/her own identity and personality. Recognise their way of thinking .. their mindset. If one child is good at something don’t tell the other(s) , “look, she does this so well, why don’t you do this” or “he always listens to me, you don’t “. Each child, just like us adults excels at something and is not too good with certain things. Find out what each child excels at and encourage them, praise them for it.

Do Give Lots of Individual Attention

You could say I spent the whole day playing and eating with the kids etc but you need to spend time individually as well with each child. You may claim where is the time for that??
What I would do is this. In case, you have two children like me… when one goes to a birthday party or a play date, play with the other child. Let him/her choose the game or activity and play with them for at least half an hour… do the same for the other.. Also, by doing this you will also see each child’s identity shine through which helps on the previous point. Husband and I take turns going to birthday parties for each child and have found over time that our bond had grown stronger with each child and also our understanding of them.

Boredom Leads to Fights

When children have nothing to do especially when the weather is bad during the holidays, they will fight more .. the reason is Boredom..

Keep a mental note (or if you are forgetful like me, write on a paper and put it on the fridge!) of all activities they like doing, excluding watching television and computer/iPad games. Structure their day with different activities or even board games so they get mental and physical stimulation. If they are busy they won’t fight.. if they don’t fight you will have a lot more hair left on your head!

 

Kids Need Their Own Space Too!

One of the Mums in my daughter’s class said to me “She is only 5, why does she need her own space?” In my opinion even children need their own space, spend time with themselves without their sibling .. have their own peace and quiet .. play their own games .. This will also make each child appreciate the other ..However, give them the space without making it feel like a punishment. Don’t enforce playing separately.

 

Set A Good Example

Children always consider their parents as their role model. For example, if children see the parents sharing and caring for each other, children will do the same towards their parent as well as their siblings..

Praise Their Good Intentions

Whenever your child does something good/positive for his/her sibling, praise him/her. Children get encouraged to do good things for each other when it is recognised by the parent. Also, it will make the other child copy these positive actions.

Explain Your Actions

In case, you are buying/giving something to one and not to the other, make sure you explain to both/all your kids why you are doing so. Sometimes children might feel you are favouring one child over the other. That can have a negative impact on the child and can cause a lot of resentment towards his/her sibling(s).

Set Rules

If you feel that there are always fights regarding certain things like who washes their hands first before meal times, make rules for them, for example take turns as to who washes their hands first. Make sure that the rules are followed and turns are taken.
Despite your best efforts and intentions kids being kids Will Fight! What you do then?

  1. Stay Calm- Remember kids are kids and they will fight. If you shout at them, it’s not going to help matters at all. If you are a Dad, please bear in mind that kids might get scared because of your masculine/louder voice.
  2. Don’t take sides- you have to be diplomatic unless one child is blatantly causing hurt or grief to the other.
  3. Give them more attention- Have you been too busy lately? Perhaps you have moved house? or you have had too many deadlines at work and have been coming home past their bedtime? Your kids might be quarreling more due to lack of attention. Remember Dads are as important as Mums. Just spend time with them, go for a picnic if the weather is good.. or play some good old footie!
  4. You be in charge- When you are trying to mediate between your kids, chances are they will keep putting the blame on the other and not do what you tell them to do. In that case, be firm. Don’t let them step all over you!
  5. Use positive methods to discipline them- Explain to them calmly why their actions would hurt others or what was wrong with what they did.

Kids will fight, but it is up to you as a parent on how you will deal with it.You can either shout and scream at them or punish them but this could create a negative environment which unfortunately will not resolve anything. Another option is to calmly make them listen to you. After every fight, I tell both my kids to hug each other and say sorry to each other. Kids forgive very easily and then there are no ill feelings towards each other.

 

In case, you have any other suggestions/ideas based on your experiences please put your comments below.

Regards

 

 

 

 

 

Parenting Tips For Children – Become a Better Parent

Children are considered as a God’s boon to parents. They are sensitive, innocent,naive and naughty! Children can be compared to a piece of crockery, beautiful and delicate.. Handle With Care. When you have child, what they don’t tell you are the challenges that come with raising them. Some of them are easy to solve and for some you go round and round in circles….It would be very useful for any parent to have some top parenting tips for children which would make the journey easier and happier. As they say, if you are happy,your child is happy. Below are some tips I have put together from my experience,which I hope will help you in your hour of need.

Spend Quality Time

Easier said than done…. where is the time for that.. yes,that was my reaction as well, when I heard of this for the first time.. but after I tried it I had to admit, this does work. It is best to do an activity both you and your child enjoy, be it playing a board game or playing hide-and-seek or going to the park (you would get fresh air and relaxation as well!). If your child is interested in baking, bake cakes together. Most kids love baking cupcakes. The idea is to keep them involved in your life.
Even if you look at any of your relationship with an adult, the more the person is involved in your life, the better you know him/her. Similarly, if you know your child better, you would understand why he/she does certain things and then you would have a better idea on how to deal with any issues.. It is that simple.. logical as well.

Listen

Parents always complain,”my child doesn’t listen to me.” My question is have you ever listened to your child? I am not talking about their unreasonable demand for a toy or refusal to eat their vegetables. When your child wants to describe or explain their drawing or excitedly tell you about their school trip, focus and listen to them.. drive away all other thoughts of work or shopping lists.

You might get hold of some valuable information about how your child thinks and behaves in your absence. Also, when you listen to your child, it makes him/her feel important and wanted. It also teaches the child the art of having a conversation.
Next time you say something to them, for example,” Let’s finish your homework first then you can watch television”, they won’t ignore you. Tit for Tat. Simple.

Set An Example

You tell your child “Don’t watch television while eating “, the next day he/she sees you doing the same thing. He/she will think that its ok for Mum or Dad to do it but not me- that’s unfair. Unfortunately parents cannot be seen doing things they denied the child of doing. Make sure that when tell your child ‘don’t do this and ‘don’t do that’, you yourself aren’t doing it.
I suppose when you become a parent, its time to be rid of all your bad habits. Children always look at their parent as their role models.. throughout their life.

Keep Your Word

“Tomorrow I will take you to the park if the weather is good”. Next day is a nice sunny day but you feel lazy to take them to the park or you want to watch a football match which you didn’t know was going to be broadcast live on television . Don’t postpone or cancel the park. Work around it, like record the match if you have a recording facility. Think of this as golden moments with your child .. don’t be lazy. If you cannot physically cope taking them to park then do not promise them.

Have Fun With Them

With young children the best game would be the tickling game. Just tickle them and see how they laugh and how infectious their laughter is. When you have fun with your child you bond a lot with them. Happy moments together always creates bonding between 2 people.

Keep Your Instructions Simple

Parents sometimes tend to give too many instructions some of them are contradictory.. I have been guilty of that too! Do not complicate your sentences when you ask your child to do something. Use simple words.

Explain Your Actions

At times your child would not understand why you did what you did. For example, your child has got a heavy cold . It is a very cold day and he/she wants to go to the park. Explain to he/she in a simple manner. Also tell her/him that once you are better I will take you to the park. Make sure you keep your word .

If You Are Wrong- Apologise

If you told off your child for something he/she didn’t do – apologise. Don’t let your ego come in the way. This will set an example with them – if you do something you shouldn’t do, then apologise. Your children will always notice how you behave in different situations and then they will do the same.

Don’t Give Surprises

If there are going to be any changes in your child’s routine for a day or more, always inform them of it in advance. Don’t assume that they will be ok with whatever you throw at them. Keep them informed and involved .

Be Firm

When your child makes unreasonable demands be firm- do not shout and worst of all- do not give in.

Preventing Tantrums

This is a very sensitive topic for most of the parents, but there are some simple ways to avoid or reduce tantrums,based on my experience:

  1. Positivity: Always praise your child when he/she has done something good. If he/she has been showing a good behaviour give them a sticker. Show them that you appreciate the good behaviour. Your positive reaction will stay in their mind longer than a negative one like shouting or punishing them.
  2. Give your child a choice: Give them freedom to decide what they want to do for little things like “do you want orange juice or black currant?”. “Do you want to wear your pink dress or green?” Let them have a little control over their life. This will reduce their frustrations and tantrums
  3. Distract your child when you feel he/she is about to go into a tantrum. Take his/her mind off the topic of the tantrum.
  4. If your child asks for something just analyse ‘is it unreasonable?’ Don’t answer them straightaway. Tell them I will tell you in a little while.
  5. Choose your battles.. for minor or irrelevant issues, let go..
  6. Know your child’s capacity. If you are on a shopping trip, and you know that your child is hungry or tired don’t continue shopping or time manage in such a way that you go when your child is well rested and fed.

Raising children is the toughest job but a little positivity and a few tricks and tips go a long way .. for you and your child!

Regards

 

 

About Me

Hello Parents!
What brings you here? Let me guess.. your child is not eating his/her food or is he/she not listening to you or are they throwing tantrums? Or is there lot of sibling rivalry between your children….

If yes to ANY or ALL of the above…

WELCOME ABOARD!

My name is Priya and I am a Parent too of two beautiful children and a wife to a lovely man!

My Story

My childhood was a happy one. I was one of the three children living with my parents in a joint family. My parents had an advantage as we (me and my siblings) were always taken care of by other members of the family. One would feed us, other would change our nappies or third could take us to the park.. so on. Plus there was domestic help cheaply and easily available who would do all the cleaning and the laundry.
Compared to my parents, my husband and I have had tough time bringing up our children on our own. With two hyperactive children (close in age), we struggled everyday just to feed, change, bathe , play and do other million things and MULTIPLY that by 2. Not to forget both were delivered by caesarean section… OUCH! So it was especially hard for the first 6 weeks after birth each time- no driving ,no picking up heavy stuff and no pushing the stroller!

Of course one of us has to earn at least! Without sounding sexist it had to be husband dearest… Also, I wanted to bring up my children in a certain way. So he went back to work after 2 weeks of paternity break, and I had to deal with the majority of issues/tantrums of the kids as well as cooking, cleaning , laundry.. I also had to take the responsibility of single handedly weaning, entertaining them, potty training, immunisations etc for at least for 10-12 hours a day.
Husband very kindly agreed to do the night duties (except breastfeeding)! He also took up the responsibility of playing and taking kids out in the weekend so that I could catch a few ZZZZ’s or watch television or take a girly time out.

It was hard

The statement above is an understatement. At one point I was breastfeeding little one, cooking 2 meals a day while the older one was still in her nappies. There were times when I was totally lost as to how to physically manage on my own or I just couldn’t figure how do I wean off the younger one from breast milk and put him on cow’s milk! He hated cow’s milk!!

Saved by the Health Visitor

Luckily for me I had a wonderful Health Visitor who gave me a lot of useful tips. But I could only meet her when I used to get the babies weighed every few weeks. It was impossible to get her on the phone. So I would make a mental note of all issues I had and go every few weeks to the weighing clinic. It was hard going with 2 toddlers but at least I would get my answers! Not to mention the unending internet research Husband did to get answers!
I would like to add here that all my family live in some other country and at that time I didn’t have the privilege of doing a free what’s app call at that time !

I couldn’t but help think that there might be other women in the same position as me struggling day in and day out to bring up their children on their own.
Sheer will power got me through my darkest moments.. I had quite a few..
How wonderful it would be if I could at least simplify things for other Mothers.. I can only simplify.. I can’t take away all the problems.. After all, bringing up children is not a piece of cake.. At least somebody else would not go through so many hardships that I went through.. well, at least I can try …

Brainwave

I thought to myself why not turn our knowledge and experience into a useful resource for struggling parents…
Why not let a Mother or a Father have the benefit of our knowledge and experience at their fingertips?
We have been there.. Done It…

I could not only give New or Existing parents the benefit of my experience but maybe accept their suggestion and opinions as well! How wonderful that would be!

But for that I need you to touch base with me….
If you ever need a hand or have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.

All the best,

 

 

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